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Old Sep 23rd 2018, 5:41 am
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Around noon today, my Mum passed away. I found out by Facebook message from my brother-in-law!

I lost my Dad at the end of January, so this has not been the best of years. In none months, I've become an orphan.

Sadly, my sister has accused me of being selfish and all kinds of things, all untrue, and is not speaking to me, so I'm not even planning to go back for the funeral. Sad, because the one thing I always said when I came here over 20 years ago is that I must have enough money to fly back if and when something happened to one or other parent, and now I have nothing to go back for.

Sorry, just had to vent. I'm completely numb right now.
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Old Sep 23rd 2018, 5:49 am
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Originally Posted by Guindalf View Post
Around noon today, my Mum passed away. I found out by Facebook message from my brother-in-law!

I lost my Dad at the end of January, so this has not been the best of years. In none months, I've become an orphan.

Sadly, my sister has accused me of being selfish and all kinds of things, all untrue, and is not speaking to me, so I'm not even planning to go back for the funeral. Sad, because the one thing I always said when I came here over 20 years ago is that I must have enough money to fly back if and when something happened to one or other parent, and now I have nothing to go back for.

Sorry, just had to vent. I'm completely numb right now.
Sp sorry to hear of your loss, my condolences. Don;t worry about the venting, your virtual friends on here will understand.
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Old Sep 23rd 2018, 5:51 am
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Around noon today, my Mum passed away. I found out by Facebook message from my brother-in-law!

I lost my Dad at the end of January, so this has not been the best of years. In none months, I've become an orphan.

Sadly, my sister has accused me of being selfish and all kinds of things, all untrue, and is not speaking to me, so I'm not even planning to go back for the funeral. Sad, because the one thing I always said when I came here over 20 years ago is that I must have enough money to fly back if and when something happened to one or other parent, and now I have nothing to go back for.

Sorry, just had to vent. I'm completely numb right now.
So sorry for your loss Guindalf and no need to apologise for venting. Being so far away is never easy, and only seems to magnify things so vent away xx
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Old Sep 23rd 2018, 6:52 am
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So sorry about the loss of your mum, and the way you were told about it. Condolences.
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Sorry to hear your sad news. Sincere condolences to you Guindalf.
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My condolences.

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Sorry to hear your news and the rather impersonal way you received it. Vent if you need to!

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Old Sep 23rd 2018, 12:57 pm
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My sincere sympathy on the loss of your Mum. Please look after yourself, particularly while you're still feeling shocked and numb xx
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My sympathies for your loss. Family can be hurtful sometimes, but in the end we usually get past it.
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I'm sorry for and loss and the fact people can be so callous.
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Condolences to you mate, sorry to hear your news.

Did you still have a good relationship with your mum? Would you feel closure if you did return for her funeral? Please don't let the attitude of your sibling stop you from saying goodbye to your mum.
I know it's none of my business but sometimes you have to ignore them and do what you really feel you need to do.

RIP to your mum x
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Condolences to you mate, sorry to hear your news.

Did you still have a good relationship with your mum? Would you feel closure if you did return for her funeral? Please don't let the attitude of your sibling stop you from saying goodbye to your mum.
I know it's none of my business but sometimes you have to ignore them and do what you really feel you need to do.

RIP to your mum x
Agreed. Families always difficult. Do what you feel is the right thing to do.
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