Lonely
Jul 11th 2010, 3:46 pm
#16
staying around
Joined: Jul 2003
Location: In peace
Posts: 2,328
Re: Lonely
I dont think their different either.... but there again I dont need loads of people in my life all the time.. I have a few american friends here that I go to lunch with or coffee but we can go months without contacting each other they have busy lives and so do I.
Jul 11th 2010, 3:53 pm
#17
Deep in the woods of CT
Joined: Feb 2010
Posts: 7,002
Re: Lonely
I see posts about not having "a shared history" -- but USCs are just people! They go to school, they fall in and out of love, they hate their boss, they miss loved ones who move away or die. Not everyone you meet is going to be a bosom buddy -- are you really friends with every English person you meet? -- some will just be acquaintances who come and go with the wind. Others will blossom into friends who will stand by you for life. Take your time making friends, and you will know who is right for you -- nothing good and lasting happens overnight.
Jul 11th 2010, 3:54 pm
#19
Joined: Oct 2006
Location: Reno Nevada
Posts: 15,917
Re: Lonely
I certainly agree with this! If you move to a new place in the UK, how do you make friends? Just apply that to a new place in the US! I think there is too much looking backwards at what has been left behind -- let go and embrace what is ahead of you.
I see posts about not having "a shared history" -- but USCs are just people! They go to school, they fall in and out of love, they hate their boss, they miss loved ones who move away or die. Not everyone you meet is going to be a bosom buddy -- are you really friends with every English person you meet? -- some will just be acquaintances who come and go with the wind. Others will blossom into friends who will stand by you for life. Take your time making friends, and you will know who is right for you -- nothing good and lasting happens overnight.
I see posts about not having "a shared history" -- but USCs are just people! They go to school, they fall in and out of love, they hate their boss, they miss loved ones who move away or die. Not everyone you meet is going to be a bosom buddy -- are you really friends with every English person you meet? -- some will just be acquaintances who come and go with the wind. Others will blossom into friends who will stand by you for life. Take your time making friends, and you will know who is right for you -- nothing good and lasting happens overnight.
What comment? That she's going to be in my local WalMart?
Jul 11th 2010, 3:56 pm
#21
Lost in BE Cyberspace
Joined: Oct 2003
Posts: 22,105
Re: Lonely
I certainly agree with this! If you move to a new place in the UK, how do you make friends? Just apply that to a new place in the US! I think there is too much looking backwards at what has been left behind -- let go and embrace what is ahead of you.
I see posts about not having "a shared history" -- but USCs are just people! They go to school, they fall in and out of love, they hate their boss, they miss loved ones who move away or die. Not everyone you meet is going to be a bosom buddy -- are you really friends with every English person you meet? -- some will just be acquaintances who come and go with the wind. Others will blossom into friends who will stand by you for life. Take your time making friends, and you will know who is right for you -- nothing good and lasting happens overnight.
I see posts about not having "a shared history" -- but USCs are just people! They go to school, they fall in and out of love, they hate their boss, they miss loved ones who move away or die. Not everyone you meet is going to be a bosom buddy -- are you really friends with every English person you meet? -- some will just be acquaintances who come and go with the wind. Others will blossom into friends who will stand by you for life. Take your time making friends, and you will know who is right for you -- nothing good and lasting happens overnight.
Just watch out for the crazy lady at WalMart..... Just saying.....
Jul 11th 2010, 4:03 pm
#27
staying around
Joined: Jul 2003
Location: In peace
Posts: 2,328
Re: Lonely
Is that why your doing a Willmore
Jul 11th 2010, 8:54 pm
#29
Forum Regular
Joined: Jul 2007
Location: Texas
Posts: 88
Re: Lonely
Hi I have been here for nearly 3 years and do not know anyone. I do not work and I am stuck at home all the time. I am finding it very difficult living here and I am feeling very isolated and lonely. I really wish I had someone to talk to. I find the Americans very different, everything is becoming a problem. I have been married for 2 years and not sure what I should do. I feel like going home if things don't change. I am unable to work as I have severe neck problems and I am in pain 24/7.
If you can manage to walk a little every day then this would be a great way for you to get out. Many shelters offer a foster to adoption programme so you could start off by fostering first to see if you could handle owning a dog.
Of course, if you have allergies or have a no pet policy where you live, this post is useless lol.
Jul 11th 2010, 9:05 pm
#30
Joined: Apr 2002
Posts: 35,082
Re: Lonely
I've tried to not comment on things like this because it just ends up in frustration or falling on deaf ears, but did it ever occur (and this is NOT directed at any individual post here) that it's you who has the ability to do something about this?
I know every part of the country is different, and that there will be a dozen objections to why this won't work where you live, but where I am, I can hardly keep my neighbors away. We have a block party every summer, that everyone participates in. We have a holiday home tour party in December. We're having a meeting this week aptly titled Know Your Neighborhood, for disaster preparedness and crime prevention planning, we all gab when we're passing and someone is in the yard, we meet up at the Farmer's Market, most of us who work from home go out for coffee whenever someone's bored or wants out for an hour.. I can hardly get any alone time away from them!
I joined the neighborhood association and attend the monthly meetings. There's a buttload of stuff to volunteer and participate in with that.. in other words, as much effort as I put into it, I get back more than enough socializing and friendly neighborliness. I wanted to walk a dog, so I offered to walk the next door's when they're at work; now I have someone I can leave my housekey with if I want to go away. Trade favors, do something for someone, ask for help, advice, information you may even already know.
I just find it discouraging to read over and over about how insular Americans are and how in your lap British are when I can't seem to get rid of the Americans I have! The most recent Brit we've met here only wants to socialize with Brits or talk about things British and he's lived here 20 years.
Dh didn't want anything to do with him, even though they have a passionate shared interest.
It's one of those days when I just don't get it. Had to have my little rant.
I know every part of the country is different, and that there will be a dozen objections to why this won't work where you live, but where I am, I can hardly keep my neighbors away. We have a block party every summer, that everyone participates in. We have a holiday home tour party in December. We're having a meeting this week aptly titled Know Your Neighborhood, for disaster preparedness and crime prevention planning, we all gab when we're passing and someone is in the yard, we meet up at the Farmer's Market, most of us who work from home go out for coffee whenever someone's bored or wants out for an hour.. I can hardly get any alone time away from them!
I joined the neighborhood association and attend the monthly meetings. There's a buttload of stuff to volunteer and participate in with that.. in other words, as much effort as I put into it, I get back more than enough socializing and friendly neighborliness. I wanted to walk a dog, so I offered to walk the next door's when they're at work; now I have someone I can leave my housekey with if I want to go away. Trade favors, do something for someone, ask for help, advice, information you may even already know.
I just find it discouraging to read over and over about how insular Americans are and how in your lap British are when I can't seem to get rid of the Americans I have! The most recent Brit we've met here only wants to socialize with Brits or talk about things British and he's lived here 20 years.
Dh didn't want anything to do with him, even though they have a passionate shared interest.
It's one of those days when I just don't get it. Had to have my little rant.
Last edited by meauxna; Jul 12th 2010 at 3:04 am. Reason: depersonalize