jumping doris

I understand. We brought our dog with us and he has kept me sane. We have met most of our new friends because of the dog. A few weeks ago he was diagnosed with a heart murmur...he's only three. I was devastated. We took him to Ohio State Vet. Hospital for a cardiac ultrasound and he is actually OK. It is very mild and won't affect his life. I cannot tell you how relieved I am. Sorry to go off topic.

sambuc

Totally understand, we have a 1 year old black lab (see avatar) who we got in US, I can't imagine not being with her, she is such a sweetheart. I went through alot of turmoil when we got her, about what might happen if we went back to UK, but decided that I would worry about that at the time, will do whatever is necessary, and if its to much then will just have to stay in US.

Anyway I thought the quarantine laws had changed, thought they could have house quarantine, as long as they are current on all shots etc etc.

AdobePinon

Good luck with that. Some tough decisions. Everyone leaves someone or something behind. Some more than others. Just make sure you know what you want, because you're probably looking at a marriage and much time out of work to see your plans through. Not easy.

AngusMcdangle

I am divorcing at the moment, and my attorney will be going down the K1 route.
Unfortunately my fiancee does have children, and I mean unfortunately from the point of view that her ex would stop her moving to another state let alone another country.

Angus

AngusMcdangle

I was EXTREMELY bothered at the time, but as they say, time is a great healer, and we must move on. As my mate said, I must play the hand I've been dealt, that's all I'm trying to do. I'm not a very young person (well, 36yo), and life is short.

Angus

bettyboop80

He probably did mean misfortune because of all the difficulties of moving here maybe?

bettyboop80

I just got my dog 3 months ago but i know what you mean. I almost didnt want to take my trip home in 2 weeks because of putting him in kennels because i know he would hate it. Luckily we found a woman that does 'day care' for dogs and lets them live like they do in your own house (if they are spoilt like mine that is!) ie on the furniture, beds etc and doesnt lock them in cages.

Caligirl4ever

I sent you a pm.....

AngusMcdangle

The 'misfortune' means that she damn lives 5000 miles away, not 'just up the street'. And I have known this woman on and off for around 20 years, went our seperate ways as we were too young and skint, but have wound up together again 20 years on. As others have said, 'why not just find an English girl', I guess I just didn't - I never knew it would turn into this, but it has.

With regard to my children, I knew this would raise passionate views, and it will be the hardest thing I will ever do (if it does happen), but what am I supposed to do - be a real Dad? That chance was taken away from me by the pro-mother courts here in the UK. I am a very good Dad, still providing for them, and I will get to see them all summer every summer (my fiancee is a teacher who gets summers off) which has been agreed by their mum already. I'm not saying I'm doing the right thing or the wrong thing, I'm just 'playing the hand I've been dealt' - sorry if you don't agree, but life isn't that simple is it? A few years ago I could never leave my kids, but they left me, and I guess being without them for 6/7ths of the year has already broken my heart and it is time to move on.


This isn't something I'm taking on lightly, hence trying to get as much advice as I can from all places. This seemed a genuinely good forum which I've been reading for some time.

Oh, and my loins aren't doing the talking, I'm passed all that.

Angus.

Ray

Not at 36 they ain't .... you got a good 25 years yet ....

Jerseygirl

I think the road ahead of you is probably going to be much more difficult than you imagine...it cannot be easy for any parent to leave their children and move to another country. Fortunately I cannot speak from experience but their are some that can.

Jerseygirl

Thank you everyone for your kind word about my dogs. I see there is a lot of interest on this subject so rather that hijack this thread I'll start me own.

AngusMcdangle

Well, quite! What I meant was she could be a double-bagger from under a bridge, I have got passed looks and just love the person. Just so happens she is a stunner though!

britvic

Even though my Daughters are now grown, believe me it eats at you not being in there lives more so to speak we are going home next year and the biggest reason for doing that is them.

Jerseygirl

I too could be faced with that dilemma....our daughter grew up her....if we go home she will most likely want to stay.