Originally Posted by TruBrit

liz, just want to say how sorry i am esp for what happened to you personally...what an absolute nighmare to say the least...

Originally Posted by Partystar

Ah not to worry, it was a long time ago & I'm passed all that. I actually saw one of the men when I was visiting Texas about 3 years ago, I realised who it was & I was like a deer in the headlights. Then all of a sudden I realised, why play the victim? Get it together, he can't hurt you now, just move on. It could have been so much worse, in a way, I was very lucky.

Originally Posted by Partystar

Ah not to worry, it was a long time ago & I'm passed all that. I actually saw one of the men when I was visiting Texas about 3 years ago, I realised who it was & I was like a deer in the headlights. Then all of a sudden I realised, why play the victim? Get it together, he can't hurt you now, just move on. It could have been so much worse, in a way, I was very lucky.

Originally Posted by Partystar

My husband's relative was shot & murdered, I was raped by 2 American men when I was 15, another of my husband's relatives was molested by 2 paedophiles within their family, one of which is now in jail, the other is on the sex offenders list.

I also thought of another one, which is a bit too close for comfort, my mum was going to marry an American many moons ago, but backed out, he later got married to another women & ended up shooting her before turning the gun on himself. This sounds like a soap opera, but sadly, it's all true.

(Sorry, I didn't want to be too specific about my husband's family, hence the use of 'relative', but they were all different incidents.)

Originally Posted by Kate2112

Hells Teeth!!! what are the chances of living in AZ and going to Texas for a holiday and seeing a guy who had assaulted you...Bloody bad luck that was.

Originally Posted by AmerLisa

Partystar, I'm truly sorry these things have happened to you, they are bad, by no means. But, this is truly not the norm for here. Its scary and sad to think it would be the norm anywhere.

Originally Posted by syllk

So did this original incident happen in Texas?

Originally Posted by syllk

Probably about as much as getting your car stolen in the UK, from what I see so far.

Originally Posted by Kate2112

Hells Teeth!!! what are the chances of living in AZ and going to Texas for a holiday and seeing a guy who had assaulted you...Bloody bad luck that was.

Originally Posted by Partystar

Yes.

Originally Posted by AmerLisa

Partystar, I'm truly sorry these things have happened to you, they are bad, by no means. But, this is truly not the norm for here. Its scary and sad to think it would be the norm anywhere.

Originally Posted by syllk

So why go back there? It's just a curiosity question, as I'd imagine that most victims would want to avoid their attackers.

Originally Posted by robskatie

Looks alot like downtown DC, a place I would never ever go to alone in the "safety" of my car or not. In fact there are many places near to where I live that I will not go to just because I don't feel safe, that was something I never felt at home either.

Originally Posted by Partystar

I suppose I just can't understand how they (Hub's family) act as if it's nothing, like it's a normal everyday occurrence, which makes me think it's the norm here. Where I'm from, someone gets their wallet stolen & it's headline news!!!

Originally Posted by Partystar

I managed to avoid them for years, but I want to visit my friends & family & most of them don't even own a passport, let alone have the money to come see me.