Disillusioned
Jul 15th 2010, 1:51 am
#122
Nuts with a side of nuts.
Joined: May 2009
Location: Minnesota
Posts: 50
Re: Disillusioned
Far be it from me to call de Briddish rude, but I'm American and I got the same thing from your countrymen when I was living overseas. My Brit DH would get a version of it too.. you just have your party piece answer and cut it short if you want to keep your sanity.
Hi, I'm meauxna, I'm from Oregon. It's the one above California.
It's a way people have of expressing their interest in you. Doesn't make it any more/less annoying to know that, but there you go.
Hi, I'm meauxna, I'm from Oregon. It's the one above California.
It's a way people have of expressing their interest in you. Doesn't make it any more/less annoying to know that, but there you go.
And hopefully can attest to the fact that I am not evil or rude or mean!!! 
Jul 15th 2010, 2:45 am
#123
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Re: Disillusioned
How long do you think it will take you and how often do you go to school (or are you doing it online). Are you able to work full time during clinicals?
I am very lucky that my boss is awesome, and totally works around my needs. Up until now, I've just had theory/lab classes (patho, stats, ethics, EBP etc) so classes have been 4-8 one night a week, for example. The school is over the road so I used to run across after work.
As of next semester, I have clinical 1 day a week from 8-4 then class 4-6, so I will be working 4 x 10hrs instead of 5 x 8's. I'll worry about the next clinical block when it happens!
What kind of things are you doing in your MSN? Are you able to choose a particular field? I want to either do Critical Care or specifically Gynae, but I want to specialize in Endometriosis without doing the Obstetrics part and I don't know if I'll be able to do that.
We do then have the option of one of their subspecialties or you can make your own. I am doing cardiac; you can do critical care, trauma, oncology etc at my uni.
You might want to look at the womens health ones and do ACNP certificate post-masters if you can't find one that meets your needs. The other thing is to do your clinicals in the areas you want to work - if you do ACNP, and can find a floor that looks after gyne patients for one of your chosen clinicals, then you can work in that area.
How long did you study for your CCRN? It took me 3 months to do my CDN and I'm just getting all my study material together for the CCRN. I am thinking about 6 months. Is that realistic?
Sorry for the essay!
Jul 15th 2010, 2:47 am
#124
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Location: Tampa, Florida
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Re: Disillusioned
I could have written that post myself, lol. Also a nurse, sick of the heat at this time of year in Florida. I have been here 16 years, alone for the last 6, have some friends, but the ones I made at work I have learned the hard way to be cautious with, I swear politics and back stabbing seems to be a career strategy in my current job. Also had some health probs lately, made me realize how important it is to have decent mates. The accent thing, well, most of the time I take it well, even if having the same conversation 6 times a day does get a bit tedious. I think as you get older friendships in general just are harder to come by. Have no illusions that it would be much different at home, old friends have married, had kids, work long hours. Ah well. Nice to know you have company in your homesickness!
Jul 15th 2010, 2:01 pm
#125
Deep in the woods of CT
Joined: Feb 2010
Posts: 7,002
Re: Disillusioned
[QUOTE=JayBowyer;8702208]It's not EVERYONE I get annoyed with though, you see - I don't for example get annoyed if it's asked in the natural course of a conversation, or if I've known the person for a while. I've had a few happy convos with people as a result of "the" question too.
/QUOTE]
This bit made me smile -- you can know someone for a while before they broach the ugly question of where you come from? They must be bursting with curiosity by then!
Unfortunately, what you said about "Some days I can't even bring myself to respond" in your earlier post did come across as rather churlish!
That is just what I feel -- have your little sentence that sums everything up and cuts off follow-ups at the pass, offer it graciously, and move on!
/QUOTE]
This bit made me smile -- you can know someone for a while before they broach the ugly question of where you come from? They must be bursting with curiosity by then!
you just have your party piece answer and cut it short if you want to keep your sanity.
Hi, I'm meauxna, I'm from Oregon. It's the one above California.
It's a way people have of expressing their interest in you. Doesn't make it any more/less annoying to know that, but there you go.
Hi, I'm meauxna, I'm from Oregon. It's the one above California.
It's a way people have of expressing their interest in you. Doesn't make it any more/less annoying to know that, but there you go.
Jul 15th 2010, 2:10 pm
#126
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Posts: 8
Re: Disillusioned
That is just what I feel -- have your little sentence that sums everything up and cuts off follow-ups at the pass, offer it graciously, and move on![/QUOTE]
I find too that moving on can be greatly helped by asking questions in return, instead of just fielding them. Ask your questioner where they are from, if they've ever been to the UK, whether they are locals, whatever. You might be surprised then by the things you have in common, rather than irritated by the questions they ask.
Despite what I said in an earlier post about not necessarily wanting to live in the States, I do try to make the most of it, and being interested and responsive helps a lot.
I find too that moving on can be greatly helped by asking questions in return, instead of just fielding them. Ask your questioner where they are from, if they've ever been to the UK, whether they are locals, whatever. You might be surprised then by the things you have in common, rather than irritated by the questions they ask.
Despite what I said in an earlier post about not necessarily wanting to live in the States, I do try to make the most of it, and being interested and responsive helps a lot.
Jul 15th 2010, 2:46 pm
#127
Nuts with a side of nuts.
Joined: May 2009
Location: Minnesota
Posts: 50
Re: Disillusioned
[QUOTE=Nutmegger;8703493]
Well, thankfully I wasn't actually 100% serious here... It's not like I'm going to actually walk off and leave someone hanging. Maybe I should have rephrased that as "some days I don't feel like responding."
Unfortunately at this stage I now feel more unwelcome in this forum than "out there" so I think I'll just stop talking now. Sadly I'm not an "old timer" - I have very few posts to my name and it seems one can't write in an animated manner here and be a newbie without being...well, quite frankly attacked, really. So I'm off. Best stick to people who actually ARE interested in getting to know me.
It's not EVERYONE I get annoyed with though, you see - I don't for example get annoyed if it's asked in the natural course of a conversation, or if I've known the person for a while. I've had a few happy convos with people as a result of "the" question too.
/QUOTE]
This bit made me smile -- you can know someone for a while before they broach the ugly question of where you come from? They must be bursting with curiosity by then!
Unfortunately, what you said about "Some days I can't even bring myself to respond" in your earlier post did come across as rather churlish!
That is just what I feel -- have your little sentence that sums everything up and cuts off follow-ups at the pass, offer it graciously, and move on!
/QUOTE]
This bit made me smile -- you can know someone for a while before they broach the ugly question of where you come from? They must be bursting with curiosity by then!
Unfortunately, what you said about "Some days I can't even bring myself to respond" in your earlier post did come across as rather churlish!
That is just what I feel -- have your little sentence that sums everything up and cuts off follow-ups at the pass, offer it graciously, and move on!
Unfortunately at this stage I now feel more unwelcome in this forum than "out there" so I think I'll just stop talking now. Sadly I'm not an "old timer" - I have very few posts to my name and it seems one can't write in an animated manner here and be a newbie without being...well, quite frankly attacked, really. So I'm off. Best stick to people who actually ARE interested in getting to know me.
Jul 15th 2010, 2:50 pm
#128
Not around much..
Joined: Apr 2010
Location: San Diego CA
Posts: 1,873
Re: Disillusioned
[QUOTE=JayBowyer;8703587]
Well, thankfully I wasn't actually 100% serious here... It's not like I'm going to actually walk off and leave someone hanging. Maybe I should have rephrased that as "some days I don't feel like responding."
Unfortunately at this stage I now feel more unwelcome in this forum than "out there" so I think I'll just stop talking now. Sadly I'm not an "old timer" - I have very few posts to my name and it seems one can't write in an animated manner here and be a newbie without being...well, quite frankly attacked, really. So I'm off. Best stick to people who actually ARE interested in getting to know me.
Now come on....dont paint everyone with the same brush...
Some people just roll out of bed on the wrong side...give it a bit longer...
Well, thankfully I wasn't actually 100% serious here... It's not like I'm going to actually walk off and leave someone hanging. Maybe I should have rephrased that as "some days I don't feel like responding."
Unfortunately at this stage I now feel more unwelcome in this forum than "out there" so I think I'll just stop talking now. Sadly I'm not an "old timer" - I have very few posts to my name and it seems one can't write in an animated manner here and be a newbie without being...well, quite frankly attacked, really. So I'm off. Best stick to people who actually ARE interested in getting to know me.
Some people just roll out of bed on the wrong side...give it a bit longer...
Jul 15th 2010, 3:16 pm
#129
Deep in the woods of CT
Joined: Feb 2010
Posts: 7,002
Re: Disillusioned
Er, are the quotes getting mixed up? SDDep's quote above makes it look as if I said something that JayBower said!
To Jay, glad to hear you weren't serious -- but read what you wrote again, it certainly didn't sound too tongue in cheek! It's one of the joys of the Internet, trying to get across the feel of what is in your head on paper, and getting it to come out right. And I did stress that any comments about accentphobia weren't aimed at you, but at the general trend of being unhappy about origin questions. So hang around and find something to give someone a hard time about.
To Jay, glad to hear you weren't serious -- but read what you wrote again, it certainly didn't sound too tongue in cheek! It's one of the joys of the Internet, trying to get across the feel of what is in your head on paper, and getting it to come out right. And I did stress that any comments about accentphobia weren't aimed at you, but at the general trend of being unhappy about origin questions. So hang around and find something to give someone a hard time about.
Jul 15th 2010, 3:21 pm
#131
Not around much..
Joined: Apr 2010
Location: San Diego CA
Posts: 1,873
Re: Disillusioned
Er, are the quotes getting mixed up? SDDep's quote above makes it look as if I said something that JayBower said!
To Jay, glad to hear you weren't serious -- but read what you wrote again, it certainly didn't sound too tongue in cheek! It's one of the joys of the Internet, trying to get across the feel of what is in your head on paper, and getting it to come out right. And I did stress that any comments about accentphobia weren't aimed at you, but at the general trend of being unhappy about origin questions. So hang around and find something to give someone a hard time about.
To Jay, glad to hear you weren't serious -- but read what you wrote again, it certainly didn't sound too tongue in cheek! It's one of the joys of the Internet, trying to get across the feel of what is in your head on paper, and getting it to come out right. And I did stress that any comments about accentphobia weren't aimed at you, but at the general trend of being unhappy about origin questions. So hang around and find something to give someone a hard time about.
Whoopsie...my bad...not quoting you...dont know how that happened..
Jul 15th 2010, 3:31 pm
#132
Joined: Apr 2002
Posts: 35,082
Re: Disillusioned
I can definitely attest to the fact that you are not evil, rude, mean and that you ARE worth getting to know! It's really nice to 'see' you again Jay, and I hope all is going well.
I dunno, I guess it was just the topic that pushed *my* buttons when I read it. And, this hardly seems the topic for your sharp fingers and excellent sense of humor; I hope you will stick around for more than just a moan.
