Originally Posted by crap coffee

me too.

I am sad. Wish I could live in somewhere Uk

Originally Posted by Tr1boy

We went out for galbi and dolsot bibim bap last week. It was cheaper than in Korea

Coffee is still pretty crap though

Originally Posted by crap coffee

are you still in England?

Originally Posted by Tr1boy

Yeah. Thought we were heading back to Oz but because of all my back surgery we had to stay a little longer, and in that time Mrs TB bgan to settle a bit better here. We will head back at some point, but England is home for now.

Originally Posted by Tr1boy

A few reasons really. She missed the Asian faces of Sydney and her first job was rubbish. But she got a contract role with McLaren and enjoyed that a lot, but there was no chance of getting taken on due to headcount. Her Dad got very sick and she was sick last year, but now with her ILR and UK driving licence she's settled a bit better.

Returning to Oz will make her happy but it's not on the cards at the moment due to my ongoing back surgery. I don't want to stay in the UK forever, it will be too cold for my back in my older years.

Not be with her? No way. She lets me keep the bikes inside the house, spend outrageous amounts on wheels and frames, gets dragged all over the world for Ironman triathlons and cycle races and never complains.

We are 'wenjo and oranjo oree', she's a keeper

Originally Posted by happy4

Hello there,

I haven't been on this forum for ages and was interested to read your story. As a family of four, we moved to Melbourne when our children were three and one, with my now ex-husband's job. I'm afraid I did not settle well at all and this caused a huge amount of stress on our marriage. I became severely depressed but my ex-husband refused to return to the UK. So I returned alone to the UK with our children, it was very difficult. He came back for a visit to the UK and promised me if I returned to Melbourne and didn't settle, we would come back to the UK together. So I returned to Melbourne..again and gave it another go..for 18 months and once again, I could not settle and was very unhappy. My ex-husband refused to return, again...and I was left to fly home, alone with my children, again. It was so humiliating and one of the worst times of my life. Luckily, I hadn't sold our house and was able to settle my children at home.

My ex-husband never did come back to the UK. We have visits from him twice a year, which are difficult for my children and the occasional Skype call. He has met another lady, has a great career and seems to have 'moved on'. I would never have believed the man I married would ever do this to his children. We had an agreement and he never fulfilled it, which left me feeling very saddened that he chose the Australian lifestyle over his children.

On a lighter note, myself and my children are doing well. They love School, their family and we have some amazing friends who really love us. Also, I have just achieved a place at a University that I have always wanted to go to. Life goes on, but I would be lying if I sometimes wonder what would have happened if we hadn't left in the first place. It is obvious now the cracks were already there..I think you need a very strong marriage to survive emigration. I
really wish you the very best, I think you are an amazing lady and your husband is very lucky to have you

Originally Posted by toodlepip

Crap Coffee, I don't know what to say, I hope you find yourself back here one day.

Take care

Originally Posted by happy4

Hello there,

I haven't been on this forum for ages and was interested to read your story. As a family of four, we moved to Melbourne when our children were three and one, with my now ex-husband's job. I'm afraid I did not settle well at all and this caused a huge amount of stress on our marriage. I became severely depressed but my ex-husband refused to return to the UK. So I returned alone to the UK with our children, it was very difficult. He came back for a visit to the UK and promised me if I returned to Melbourne and didn't settle, we would come back to the UK together. So I returned to Melbourne..again and gave it another go..for 18 months and once again, I could not settle and was very unhappy. My ex-husband refused to return, again...and I was left to fly home, alone with my children, again. It was so humiliating and one of the worst times of my life. Luckily, I hadn't sold our house and was able to settle my children at home.

My ex-husband never did come back to the UK. We have visits from him twice a year, which are difficult for my children and the occasional Skype call. He has met another lady, has a great career and seems to have 'moved on'. I would never have believed the man I married would ever do this to his children. We had an agreement and he never fulfilled it, which left me feeling very saddened that he chose the Australian lifestyle over his children.

On a lighter note, myself and my children are doing well. They love School, their family and we have some amazing friends who really love us. Also, I have just achieved a place at a University that I have always wanted to go to. Life goes on, but I would be lying if I sometimes wonder what would have happened if we hadn't left in the first place. It is obvious now the cracks were already there..I think you need a very strong marriage to survive emigration. I really wish you the very best, I think you are an amazing lady and your husband is very lucky to have you

Originally Posted by toodlepip

I'm sorry to read your story, you too sound immensely strong and your ex obviously didn't recognize a good thing when he had it.

We are going to review life back in Oz next May and if the kids want to come back to their schools here then we will - that might mean me coming on my own with them as I don't think OH will get a job easily back here. Guess only time will tell if that's the end of the marriage but we're not at that point yet - though I am very much looking forward to a break from him when he goes at the end of the month.

I hope you enjoy Uni. Good for you for moving on with your life.