auntie_wolf

I don't thinks she would be able to sue because NJ is an "at-will" state. Either side can terminate employment at any time, for any reason...as long as it doesn't violate a person's civil rights.

Xebedee

Look, I know this sounds preachy and its easier said than done, etc, etc.
But.
He needs you more than you need him.

At the mo, I am finally (in my "career") earning good money - and believe me, I've crawled through some sh!t in this country to get here.
Nevertheless.
I don't value my job that much because I have proven to myself that I can always find work. Hence the cavalier attitude.

If my boss gave me cr@p, I'd tell him to stuff it - instead, I keep my nose clean, try to be the best at what I do and produce for him and he treats me with respect. Understanding 90% of it comes down to working for a human being, I also understand what it means to work for a d!ck. I have voted with my feet several times now - some times with something else set up first, occasionally with nothing and out of desperation.

Again, sorry if this sounds like a soap box rant, but jobs come and go and there is usually another way out - just have to accept a bigger hit.

Best thing to do?

Get pie-faced and stagger into his office.
Throw sh!t everywhere and scream sexual harassment.

Sounds like this clown will buckle under the right pressure.

Bon Chance.

ian-mstm

Well, it sounds as though someone set him straight on things! I'd say this is a good thing. Go ahead and ask... he's already backed down once for you!

Ian

Neathborn

Hi, Shalaxh, I really sympathise. I'm here to tell you it can be done. I had a full-time job as an executive assistant with a commute of an hour each way. I had planned to come back full-time 9 weeks after the birth of my second child, but found I had bitten off more than I could chew. I subsequently went to my boss and asked if I could cut back my hours. Although I couldn't reduce the number of days I worked (the nature of my job did not allow for this), he did agree to allow me to cut back to 30 hours a week after I reassured him that I would still be able to handle the workload. However, I will say that I could not have done this had it not been for some really great colleagues who were willing to step in and help my boss out at a pinch, though I tried not to rely on this too much and to make sure that I helped them out when needed. It also helps if you have built up a good relationship with your boss and he/she values your work. Despite the work culture being very workaholic here, most good employers would rather hang on to a valuable employee than pay the costs of finding a person to replace them, retrain etc. I think if you presented your boss with a plan as to how you will handle your workload (do you have colleagues who would help out in your absence? Would you be willing to be flexible if the boss needs you on a particular day? etc. Are you willing to ease back into full-time after a period of time.). You might even remind him/her of some of the work you have been doing, particularly if you have done any outstanding work which might make him/her think twice about letting you go. One other thing: some bosses are willing to give part-time a go and see what happens with the proviso that if it doesn't work out, then either you would go back to full-time or the company would be able to find someone else. Perhaps you can suggest a 3-month trial and see how it goes from there. Just a few ideas.....

On the down side, however, I will say that working part-time sometimes reduces your benefits substantially. You might want to think about how this will impact you.

Bob

8 weeks unpaid....