Anyone Regret Moving To USA
#1366
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Re: Anyone Regret Moving To USA
I've had to tell myself I just have a wierd itch that still must need scratching but it was very hard to come back and I've never felt such a strong pull for home.
But as I said I now know without doubt I will return to the UK at some point and in that regard it's making things A LOT easier here as it's become somewhat of an adventure again as I know for certain it is temporary and not permanent.
#1367
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Re: Anyone Regret Moving To USA
Thats too funny!
Do you have a time line yet or or you winging it?
We still have to wait for Ds#2 to graduate in June, he'll leave for UK in August then we can get ready and sell up.
I'm really looking forward to it all and at the same time I can see some problems that will arise and I'm dreading some of the conflicts that will inevitably come to a head with my Mother and my Dh having to spend extended amounts of time living in her house, good job she has two living rooms, I think we'll pinch one for us and give her privacy in the other.
Do you have a time line yet or or you winging it?
We still have to wait for Ds#2 to graduate in June, he'll leave for UK in August then we can get ready and sell up.
I'm really looking forward to it all and at the same time I can see some problems that will arise and I'm dreading some of the conflicts that will inevitably come to a head with my Mother and my Dh having to spend extended amounts of time living in her house, good job she has two living rooms, I think we'll pinch one for us and give her privacy in the other.
Our 18 y/o graduates in June too, and then we have to get him settled (even if it's only onto a friends floor!) before we can leave. Shame as I really wanted to be back in time to see that flotilla down the Thames for the Jubilee celebration, and catch the Dickens exhibition at the Museum of London!
So you've finally decided to go back too? I must have missed that! That's fantastic!
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Re: Anyone Regret Moving To USA
So nice to see some old contributors, happy new year to you all!
I want to say thanks to of you who've moved back with kids, tweens and teens and over 50 for all the helpful advice, it's so helpful and encouraging to to see the good and bad of going 'back'. Keep it coming please!
I want to say thanks to of you who've moved back with kids, tweens and teens and over 50 for all the helpful advice, it's so helpful and encouraging to to see the good and bad of going 'back'. Keep it coming please!
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Re: Anyone Regret Moving To USA
Totally winging it! We are supposedly going in 5 months, and we haven't even put the house on the market yet, looked into shipping or anything! We have planned a road trip for spring break though!
Our 18 y/o graduates in June too, and then we have to get him settled (even if it's only onto a friends floor!) before we can leave. Shame as I really wanted to be back in time to see that flotilla down the Thames for the Jubilee celebration, and catch the Dickens exhibition at the Museum of London!
So you've finally decided to go back too? I must have missed that! That's fantastic!
Our 18 y/o graduates in June too, and then we have to get him settled (even if it's only onto a friends floor!) before we can leave. Shame as I really wanted to be back in time to see that flotilla down the Thames for the Jubilee celebration, and catch the Dickens exhibition at the Museum of London!
So you've finally decided to go back too? I must have missed that! That's fantastic!
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Re: Anyone Regret Moving To USA
Hello all....been awhile but still enjoy looking through the forum...busy..like most of you..running around...doing mostly kids stuff!!
You know, lately I have also been thinking about growing old in this country...it scares me so much...it seems the longer we are here the more my eyes are opened to what the US is all about...healthcare frightens me too. Why did I not see these things in the first 5-10 yrs we were here...could have done something about it then...kids were little...had a bit more money then...and home probably would not have seemed too foreign.
Right now, we are going through the terrible teen stage with our 13 yr old, (plus he is having a very hard time fitting into his new school..not many friends and very shy) to the point that he hates anything British and has started calling me names related to the "redcoats"..ie Lobsterback! He thinks its funny but I am increasingly getting annoyed and realising that the window of opportunity is closing fast. The kids are too Americanised to notice another culture or wanting to adopt another lifestyle. The younger ones are fine about it.
Here in the US all I seem to be doing is chauffering the kids around from one activity to another and endless sleepovers and returning overdue library books!! Thank God we have a bit of a break from soccer til April!
My trips to the stores (or those horrible strip malls) are only for groceries or to pick something up for the children. There is no time (or money) for anything other than that. At least back home...I enjoyed the errands as it was really quite a joy doing them on the walkable pretty high streets and trendy indoor/outdoor shopping centers. I would love to do this with the kids..or would I!!
What do the kids back home do...how do the parents keep them busy, are they taken over by materialism of the US and wanting more and more stuff...mainly tech. stuff? are the parents back home also running around like headless chickens like many of us are here?? Could we fit in back in the UK???
You know, lately I have also been thinking about growing old in this country...it scares me so much...it seems the longer we are here the more my eyes are opened to what the US is all about...healthcare frightens me too. Why did I not see these things in the first 5-10 yrs we were here...could have done something about it then...kids were little...had a bit more money then...and home probably would not have seemed too foreign.
Right now, we are going through the terrible teen stage with our 13 yr old, (plus he is having a very hard time fitting into his new school..not many friends and very shy) to the point that he hates anything British and has started calling me names related to the "redcoats"..ie Lobsterback! He thinks its funny but I am increasingly getting annoyed and realising that the window of opportunity is closing fast. The kids are too Americanised to notice another culture or wanting to adopt another lifestyle. The younger ones are fine about it.
Here in the US all I seem to be doing is chauffering the kids around from one activity to another and endless sleepovers and returning overdue library books!! Thank God we have a bit of a break from soccer til April!
My trips to the stores (or those horrible strip malls) are only for groceries or to pick something up for the children. There is no time (or money) for anything other than that. At least back home...I enjoyed the errands as it was really quite a joy doing them on the walkable pretty high streets and trendy indoor/outdoor shopping centers. I would love to do this with the kids..or would I!!
What do the kids back home do...how do the parents keep them busy, are they taken over by materialism of the US and wanting more and more stuff...mainly tech. stuff? are the parents back home also running around like headless chickens like many of us are here?? Could we fit in back in the UK???
I see you've received some great replies care of Gabby and Englishmum...
You really do have to make plans or you will be stuck and I can see you understand that, I would not let your 13 yr old upset you, instead smile keep your mouth shut and make him think, he knows he is upsetting you and will use it against you, so just keep smiling and never let him or anyone else in the home know why...
Redcoats, The only thing I think about when I hear redcoats is Butlins...
You are right, the kids are getting older and at some point they wont want to go, as if its even their choice, we were all 13 at one time but how much did we really know about life? I must admit I'm amazed by the amount of parents on this forum that seem somewhat threatened by what their kids want, It's OK to love listen and consider them, but for them to make decisions for the whole family is absurd, you cant let them walk all over you or your life wont be worth living, I have in laws with this problem and the kids have turned out awful, the parents are more worried now than they were when their kids were in their teenage years, They should have been a bit more strict sooner than giving in ALL the time and not sticking together as parents...
I say take charge and do what makes you happy, your kids can do what they want when they are old enough to make those decesions, Their chance will come, if they want to emigrate then that is their choice, just don't let them rob you of your choices...
Chauffeuring the kids around sounds demanding, you are not the only one, a few Mums have PMd me saying the same thing, and adding they feel like slaves, I agree with Englishmum, most kids in the UK walk, bike or ride a bus, but I also think the streets of the UK are safer than America, of course that depends where you live, I know I feel safer over there... (At least you can keep your eyes on them)...
England has got pretty much everything that America has minus the Guns, Basketball and American Football, you can even see that on TV, The UK is ahead of this country in some ways, Europe and the UK are early adopters of everything electronic, some of my In laws already have 3D TV, I know Americans don't believe the UK is in front, but that is purely their ignorance or them in denial...
Healthcare should frighten you, it scares the hell out of me, many of us are one sickness away from being broke, Brit's think we are crazy putting up with such a poor and greed based system, of course those here with great coverage think its perfect, they couldn't care less about the millions that suffer...
I do think there is lots of materialism in the U.K., all the kids have phones and X box, they are short of nothing, I do think some people are very much into status and designer items, but I'm sure we have those people here too, I just think the divide between rich and poor is much closer in the UK...
Take Care... Fish
#1373
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Re: Anyone Regret Moving To USA
The average American gets 2 weeks per year, and the UK gets double that, over a 50 yr period thats 2 extra years off with pay, Id call that an awesome benefit...
#1374
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Re: Anyone Regret Moving To USA
It was awesome , it did help the homesickness but then when I got back here I wondered why I'd come back . I left my parents whom I'm really getting on well with now, my sister and 3 great nephews who've turned out in to really great young men and a bunch of friends to come back to......??
I've had to tell myself I just have a wierd itch that still must need scratching but it was very hard to come back and I've never felt such a strong pull for home.
But as I said I now know without doubt I will return to the UK at some point and in that regard it's making things A LOT easier here as it's become somewhat of an adventure again as I know for certain it is temporary and not permanent.
I've had to tell myself I just have a wierd itch that still must need scratching but it was very hard to come back and I've never felt such a strong pull for home.
But as I said I now know without doubt I will return to the UK at some point and in that regard it's making things A LOT easier here as it's become somewhat of an adventure again as I know for certain it is temporary and not permanent.
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Re: Anyone Regret Moving To USA
Hello usoruk, I'm glad you popped in to have a few words...
I see you've received some great replies care of Gabby and Englishmum...
You really do have to make plans or you will be stuck and I can see you understand that, I would not let your 13 yr old upset you, instead smile keep your mouth shut and make him think, he knows he is upsetting you and will use it against you, so just keep smiling and never let him or anyone else in the home know why...
Redcoats, The only thing I think about when I hear redcoats is Butlins...
You are right, the kids are getting older and at some point they wont want to go, as if its even their choice, we were all 13 at one time but how much did we really know about life? I must admit I'm amazed by the amount of parents on this forum that seem somewhat threatened by what their kids want, It's OK to love listen and consider them, but for them to make decisions for the whole family is absurd, you cant let them walk all over you or your life wont be worth living, I have in laws with this problem and the kids have turned out awful, the parents are more worried now than they were when their kids were in their teenage years, They should have been a bit more strict sooner than giving in ALL the time and not sticking together as parents...
I say take charge and do what makes you happy, your kids can do what they want when they are old enough to make those decesions, Their chance will come, if they want to emigrate then that is their choice, just don't let them rob you of your choices...
Chauffeuring the kids around sounds demanding, you are not the only one, a few Mums have PMd me saying the same thing, and adding they feel like slaves, I agree with Englishmum, most kids in the UK walk, bike or ride a bus, but I also think the streets of the UK are safer than America, of course that depends where you live, I know I feel safer over there... (At least you can keep your eyes on them)...
England has got pretty much everything that America has minus the Guns, Basketball and American Football, you can even see that on TV, The UK is ahead of this country in some ways, Europe and the UK are early adopters of everything electronic, some of my In laws already have 3D TV, I know Americans don't believe the UK is in front, but that is purely their ignorance or them in denial...
Healthcare should frighten you, it scares the hell out of me, many of us are one sickness away from being broke, Brit's think we are crazy putting up with such a poor and greed based system, of course those here with great coverage think its perfect, they couldn't care less about the millions that suffer...
I do think there is lots of materialism in the U.K., all the kids have phones and X box, they are short of nothing, I do think some people are very much into status and designer items, but I'm sure we have those people here too, I just think the divide between rich and poor is much closer in the UK...
Take Care... Fish
I see you've received some great replies care of Gabby and Englishmum...
You really do have to make plans or you will be stuck and I can see you understand that, I would not let your 13 yr old upset you, instead smile keep your mouth shut and make him think, he knows he is upsetting you and will use it against you, so just keep smiling and never let him or anyone else in the home know why...
Redcoats, The only thing I think about when I hear redcoats is Butlins...
You are right, the kids are getting older and at some point they wont want to go, as if its even their choice, we were all 13 at one time but how much did we really know about life? I must admit I'm amazed by the amount of parents on this forum that seem somewhat threatened by what their kids want, It's OK to love listen and consider them, but for them to make decisions for the whole family is absurd, you cant let them walk all over you or your life wont be worth living, I have in laws with this problem and the kids have turned out awful, the parents are more worried now than they were when their kids were in their teenage years, They should have been a bit more strict sooner than giving in ALL the time and not sticking together as parents...
I say take charge and do what makes you happy, your kids can do what they want when they are old enough to make those decesions, Their chance will come, if they want to emigrate then that is their choice, just don't let them rob you of your choices...
Chauffeuring the kids around sounds demanding, you are not the only one, a few Mums have PMd me saying the same thing, and adding they feel like slaves, I agree with Englishmum, most kids in the UK walk, bike or ride a bus, but I also think the streets of the UK are safer than America, of course that depends where you live, I know I feel safer over there... (At least you can keep your eyes on them)...
England has got pretty much everything that America has minus the Guns, Basketball and American Football, you can even see that on TV, The UK is ahead of this country in some ways, Europe and the UK are early adopters of everything electronic, some of my In laws already have 3D TV, I know Americans don't believe the UK is in front, but that is purely their ignorance or them in denial...
Healthcare should frighten you, it scares the hell out of me, many of us are one sickness away from being broke, Brit's think we are crazy putting up with such a poor and greed based system, of course those here with great coverage think its perfect, they couldn't care less about the millions that suffer...
I do think there is lots of materialism in the U.K., all the kids have phones and X box, they are short of nothing, I do think some people are very much into status and designer items, but I'm sure we have those people here too, I just think the divide between rich and poor is much closer in the UK...
Take Care... Fish
I agree with all that you have explained here...
#1376
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Re: Anyone Regret Moving To USA
Lol, SadinStates,
We`re in the same boat! House not on market yet, just tidying like mad. I keep telling myself that having a tidy house isnt rocket science, some people manage it all the time, but somehow my life`s just not like that!
We`re in the same boat! House not on market yet, just tidying like mad. I keep telling myself that having a tidy house isnt rocket science, some people manage it all the time, but somehow my life`s just not like that!
#1377
Re: Anyone Regret Moving To USA
I say take charge and do what makes you happy, your kids can do what they want when they are old enough to make those decesions, Their chance will come, if they want to emigrate then that is their choice, just don't let them rob you of your choices...
We only get one life and we have to try to be as happy as possible. The kids can pursue their own dreams once they're old enough.
#1378
Re: Anyone Regret Moving To USA
We had our house on the market for exactly one week before we got an offer and I was so relieved because I was about done with the constant tidying and cleaning! I know that's pathetic and that lots of people stay tidy all the time but I have no idea how they do it and also live a life.
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