Faery

Anyone moved to USA from UK and gotten homesick after a number of years?

Faery

I think I posted in wrong forum...Apologies!

Guindalf

No, this one works.

Anyone who tells you they have never been homesick is a liar, plain and simple. We ALL miss certain things about the homeland, friends, family, etc., but the difference is, most of us move on! It doesn't pay to dwell on it and there are only two options - get over it or go home!

NiHao

Yes. I think most people do get homesick at some point. Are you feeling homesick? It can take you by surprise when you feel homesick after a long time of being okay.

becks_r

I agree, it can suddenly appear from nowhere. I find I don't miss people as much as I miss landscape and older houses. Also good museums and art galleries, stately homes and castles. But it's more about accepting that I made the move for valid reasons and I have to get my fix for history when I go back for a visit. It does help that I am very happy here with my American husband, I think if the move had gone horribly wrong I would be more homesick than I am. Never any point in thinking 'if only'

lansbury

Homesickness and missing things are not the same. You can miss things without being homesick.

NYer

Do you investigate American history? It is quite fascinating and spread throughout all 50 states.

Pulaski

I agree. I miss a few things occasionally, but have never been homesick, not least because "here" is home now.

Maybe it's tougher being an immigrant couple/family, as opposed to being a transatlantic couple?

MarylandNed

It goes in waves depending on circumstances. For example, some people can feel homesick initially and eventually get over it (or at least appear to). This might mean taking a few trips back to the UK or even a return to the UK for a while (to get that out of their system) before possibly leaving again. Once the initial honeymoon period in a new country is over, some people get homesick when they realize they have settled into the rat race in their new country and things are not as novel as when they first arrived.

For some people, trips back to see family and friends can make the homesickness even worse. Missing major family events can contribute too - e.g. weddings, funerals, birthdays, graduations, births of new family members etc. It can also be difficult when parents and other older relatives get older and become less independent or even ill.

Often new parents will become homesick when they realize that friends and family aren't around to see their kids grow up and help out with babysitting and other child-raising chores.

So I don't think many people ever really get over homesickness even if they think they have - unless they really have no ties to family and friends in the UK and also don't miss the lifestyle. Homesickness can arise at any time often in response to life changes.

becks_r

I do and it is quite fascinating. I have been to Jamestown and Williamsburg, so very interesting. But my real love is Medieval history and I adore Tudor buildings, don't get much of either of those here

NYer

There are actually Americans who follow British history and form clubs and groups that anyone can join. You can find them on Facebook and other social media outlets. I belong to the Richard the Third Society here in NYC. A lot of eccentrics but very nice, educated people who are extremely knowledgeable about medieval history. Far more than myself!

Nutmegger

Absolutely. I would love to be able to take a walk above Malham Cove once in a while, but I am certainly not homesick!

mproudfoot

I had to change my Windows desktop background as it turned out that was what was making me more homesick than anything else - it was a picture of my little terrier during a sunny day ascending multiple munros up near Crianlarich - the two things that were hitting me were A) the mountains - the lack of these are my main issue with Ohio and B) the freedom to walk the dog off-lead in parks and trails (and indeed anywhere I can walk) - here, there's a few reserved "dog parks" where dogs are allowed off lead but outside of those, dogs should be on lead at all times.. I used to take my dogs down to the local park and let them off to throw balls/sticks around, as well as climb the munros & corbetts with them and I find the leash laws here very constricting.

I still feel that the mountains are what will decide whether I end up staying here or not - if the company okay for me to work from home in another state (one with mountains) then great, otherwise I may just end up moving back home.

capin

I miss the TV back home, TV in the US is appalling.

I also miss baked beans, bad.

tom169

Both of those can be fixed relatively easily!