NotworkSte

I've been coming to the US on and off for years, since I work for an American company and at times have some of them even report to me. Now I am (at the early stages) in the process of moving over to the US as I just got married to my wife.

I have to say I have never had anything negative at all. I think doing it legally helps a lot, and to echo a previous comment being British seems to make you less of a foreigner in many peoples eyes. I don't actually know or hang about with ex-pats over here, it's mainly people I work directly with at the same company, or with vendors/clients of ours, or her family (who seem to happily have accepted me as part of the family). Since I am Northern Irish, the whole Irish thing seem to help, they are more inclined to ask me to go to one of the local Irish bars than look down at me.

Bizarrely, given the level of anger directed at some illegal immigrants, I have lost count of the number of people who have tried to encourage me to go that way and then try to adjust whilst banging on how other illegals are (not) dealt with.

SarahG

Thanks to everyone for their replies. I am going to go with the glass is half full view that we won't face any negativity about arriving in US to work.

The real problem we are facing at the moment is from so called friends, who have never been to the US and are basing their views on what they have seen on TV and movies. As far as they seem concerned America is too violent and everyone has a gun and every single American is obnoxious, loud, stupid and full of themselves.

My husbands friends seem to have decided that I am the devil and he is only doing this for me. They seem to think I am taking him away from them and he is only doing it to keep me happy. As if I could convince a grown man to leave his home country and everyone he knows and move to another continent just to please me! If I could I would have gotten him to give me a lot more stuff than he has! I would have convinced him that I don't really need to work but I do need to drive a Lexus RX400h! Not a chance in hell of convincing him of that!

another bloody yank

Your friends are crazy. Not everyone is like that.

Paul S

don't worry my Mother in Law was of the same opinion. They came over on holiday a couple of years back and on the second day told us how wrong they were in their initial assumptions

lj2

To be fair, it probably feels that way to them - It is hard for friends/family to lose their loved ones to another country and often people are heavily influenced by their partners.

It is also for them hard to see that if he is only moving for you, it's still his choice not to say no and that he is the one they should be unhappy about...

That said, I blame the woman.

SarahG

Just every 3rd person!

another bloody yank

Bluegrass Lass

You won't be that far from 2 decent sized cities then. You're going to be about halfway between Louisville, KY and Indianapolis (capital of IN). It would be about an hour to either. There's also an excellent outlet mall further north of you - which is, ironically, located in Edinburgh, IN (pronounced Ed-in-burg by the locals). You're also only going to be about 4hrs drive to Chicago. There probably isn't much to do in Seymour, but I think Columbus is a bit bigger and has a bit more to offer. I'm not sure, since I've only ever visited those areas, and haven't actually lived there.

You'll probably meet plenty of farm hicks that want to talk corn to you all the time, but they'll be good people. Keep a bit of an open mind, and when the local hicks irritate you come on here and give us a rant.

Rete

When I first started reading BE, I thought the resentment came from the Brit, not the Yank. Thought that because they soon discovered Yanks aren't British and can't speak properly, make proper bread, don't know maramite or proper bacon, etc. In other words they resented us for being foreign ... go figure.

SarahG

It now looks like we will be moving to Indianapolis, or a suburb or something nearby. I have been googling the surrounding area and trying to work out where I like the look of! As it will be me and my 4 year old daughter during the day as son will be at school, I guess if we are near a big town/city there will be more to do! (Plus I get to go shopping and buy more shoes and bags!)

joto

We didn't find any resentment from our neighbours when we arrived. The only resentment we seemed to encounter was from the immigration d**ks at Logan airport in Boston at the various times we came through there with various visas then green cards, although that might be their general attitude towards everyone.

Bob

aye, they're just a miserable bunch of munters at the airport

Kaffy Mintcake

Lots of Americans have pale skin and freckles. It's all good.

Oh, and as I'm sure you'll learn, your accent won't be considered "absurd", it will be considered cool! Be prepared to have all sorts of people chatting you up just to hear you talk.

andre uk

sarah my wife is from indy so if you want any help or ideas then drop me a pm we are moving to dallas in a weeks time with my job.

The people in indiana are great and will welcome you with open arms. Everytime i have been out and met family friends or just been shopping they love hearing your accent and take a real interest in where you are from.

good luck

dbj1000

Better hope Dallas is still here next week! With the tornadoes we had through last night and the severe storms today, there may just be mounds of broken timber!