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#1
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Not sure if someone can help me on here but where I work there is a particular member of staff who is continually asking people’s ages, and when he finds out the info from Facebook he continually berates them. The name calling is things like boomer, this job must be getting too much for you etc all these comments are in front of other members of staff. A prime example it was my birthday and he kept asking me how old I am I told him none of your business etc he stalked my sister on Facebook to find out my age pathetic eh. I’m no where near retiring as yet but there are others who are very near retirement. Is there any point in speaking with HR or is it okay to berate people about their age. There are other issues which isn’t related to this post. TIA.
#2
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Good lord, of course you should speak to HR. This sounds like one sick puppy on so many levels!
#3
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Definitely speak to HR. What he's doing is inappropriate on many levels. . asking age, berating people, stalking people on social media... all huge no-nos in the workplace!
Rene
Rene
#5
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Seems odd, but I do greet some of my co-workers by pointing out how old they are every day, despite the fact they're only 5 years older than me. They give as good as they get though, maybe he just hasn't realised you're not interested verbal jousting. Either that or he's in to older women and hasn't improved his pickup technique since school.
#6
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absolutely yes, report this to HR. The colleague is causing what’s known in HR terms as a ‘hostile work environment’. This term is used when someone is doing something unprofessional towards people, but not necessarily a black and white disciplinary matter.
Good luck - we don’t need idiots impacting those trying their best to work and this pillock needs knocking down a peg.
W
Good luck - we don’t need idiots impacting those trying their best to work and this pillock needs knocking down a peg.
W
#7
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Seems odd, but I do greet some of my co-workers by pointing out how old they are every day, despite the fact they're only 5 years older than me. They give as good as they get though, maybe he just hasn't realised you're not interested verbal jousting. Either that or he's in to older women and hasn't improved his pickup technique since school.
#8
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If you have HR I would report it, if not then report to the relevant manager.
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#10
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Because I have a sense of humour and so do my co-workers. Obviously I only do it with people who know I'm joking and won't get upset. My co-workers aren't Brits so it can't be a British thing. I couldn't imagine working somewhere where you had to be serious all the time for fear of getting in trouble with HR.
The guy Sarasota chic talks about sounds aggressive and a little bit scary if he is stalking someone's Facebook.! Then doesnt sound like harmless banter!
#11
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there is a difference . You said yourself you only tease and joke with people you probably know quite well and it is being done very lightheartedly. It also depends on the tone of voice as well.
The guy Sarasota chic talks about sounds aggressive and a little bit scary if he is stalking someone's Facebook.!
The guy Sarasota chic talks about sounds aggressive and a little bit scary if he is stalking someone's Facebook.!
The geezer needs reporting. I don't mean our Spoogle. I mean the creepy guy with the issues.
#12
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Depending on the ages involved, it's also potentially unlawful harassment:
https://www.eeoc.gov/laws/types/age.cfm
https://www.eeoc.gov/laws/types/age.cfm
#13
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Depending on the state your are in you may be able to record it workout the other parties consent. Get the evidence before you report it, so its a slam dunk.
#14
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Thank you for all your replies, the guy who has been harassing people has now been spoken to by the manager for now it has stopped however if it statute again I will be reporting him.
#15
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How exactly was he able to "stalk" your sister to find out YOUR age?