Starting out, Job hunting from the UK to SC
Apr 7th 2016, 1:17 pm
#47
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Re: Starting out, Job hunting from the UK to SC
For many people, it is the only way they can be together... therefore, it can and should be used - because that's the whole reason behind the visa.
Would you please elaborate on what you believe are the "right reasons". I'm genuinely curious because...
... it might interest you to know, that divorce statistics show no significant difference whatsoever between couples who marry for immigration reasons and couples where immigration is not an issue. Indeed the length of time between meeting and marriage also shows no significant difference. So, it doesn't matter how long you know someone, or whether or not the marriage is rushed.
In other words - this is some sort of fantasy that exists only in your own head!
Ian
Would you please elaborate on what you believe are the "right reasons". I'm genuinely curious because...
... it might interest you to know, that divorce statistics show no significant difference whatsoever between couples who marry for immigration reasons and couples where immigration is not an issue. Indeed the length of time between meeting and marriage also shows no significant difference. So, it doesn't matter how long you know someone, or whether or not the marriage is rushed.
In other words - this is some sort of fantasy that exists only in your own head!
Ian
As for the rules surrounding immigration, the ability for a US citizen to bring a foreign spouse to the US is there to enable families to stay together, it was not designed as a loop hole for couples who've been together for 5 minutes to circumvent the rules, especially when they wouldn't even be considering marriage this early into the relationship if they didn't need to for a visa
Apr 7th 2016, 2:00 pm
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Re: Starting out, Job hunting from the UK to SC
.... As for the rules surrounding immigration, the ability for a US citizen to bring a foreign spouse to the US is there to enable families to stay together, it was not designed as a loop hole for couples who've been together for 5 minutes to circumvent the rules, .....
Add a few "ifs" and "mays", "somes" and "manys" to your posts, and stop your absolute sweeping generalizations and your advice would be much better received and you would appear less arrogant.
Apr 7th 2016, 2:18 pm
#49
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Re: Starting out, Job hunting from the UK to SC
It would be no different if he came for a job or course of study and it all fell apart (and yes, that does happen). Whatever route the OP chooses, he is still giving up his home, friends, country -- and crossing his fingers that it works out.
Apr 7th 2016, 2:21 pm
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Re: Starting out, Job hunting from the UK to SC
Perhaps you should slag him off as well
Apr 7th 2016, 2:23 pm
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Re: Starting out, Job hunting from the UK to SC
I'd rather not get dragged in to that taa. I just agreed it'd be nice to spend some time with my OH before cementing the idea to get married. Personal preference, some people are different.
as above. Whatever I do there's an inherent risk. If I spend time with her prior to making a more long-term decision or not frankly.
as above. Whatever I do there's an inherent risk. If I spend time with her prior to making a more long-term decision or not frankly.
Apr 7th 2016, 2:24 pm
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Re: Starting out, Job hunting from the UK to SC
He's receiving advice, not giving it. You have developed a habit of posting sweeping, not universally true, generalizations in your presumably well-intentioned advice.
Apr 7th 2016, 2:26 pm
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Re: Starting out, Job hunting from the UK to SC
An entirely fair point and one I respect and agree with at your age. My post above on marriage did draw a distinction on age.
Apr 7th 2016, 2:33 pm
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Re: Starting out, Job hunting from the UK to SC
We ALL agree that no one should use and abuse the marriage visa to immigrate. That's illegal. However, this is not the OP's scenario, and no one here is pushing him to marry before they're ready.
I think the OP has enough information now. If there are further questions, a new thread should be started in the appropriate forum.
Thread closed.
Rene
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I think the OP has enough information now. If there are further questions, a new thread should be started in the appropriate forum.
Thread closed.
Rene
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