nikkif99uk

what's his sense of dress. I never wear track suits or sweat pants gross. only time ever would be in a gym and even then wouldn't wear out of the gym. Mainly just lived in jean shorts, t shirts and tank tops and baseball caps out there. Plus I am not fat am a size 16 am self conscious enough as it is. I felt slim compared to some people out there.

Twinkle0927

Just wondered what "dressing like an American" meant. My husband is American and he wears sweats around the house. So I suppose that's American clothes. But he also wears leather kilts, beat-up DMs, t shirts held together by safety pins, a green Mohawk... my point is that there's no such thing as "dressing like an American". There as many styles are there are people. Here in the Cascades, I don't think you'd find anyone in shorts and baseball cap. As for American food, well he eats the vegetables and fruits we grow. So I suppose that's "American food".

nikkif99uk

I was just stating that my friends and family say that lol. Obviously based on what they see on TV. The main work colleague who says it hates America. He always says my photos of food when I am out there are just brown. Wasn't meant to cause offence. I think my dress sense is more to do with being a lesbian and just being me than being American. It just fits in a bit more when am in America or Canada. Here I just feel like I am being looked down upon for my dress sense, I cant help being me. I may not be the girliest girl in the world, I can if I want just can't wear heels. But am comfortable in what I dress in.

I just want to find a way to move to America. Whether its a job or regular visits until I find the woman of my dreams who wants to marry me

tom169

Well thankfully the rules changed a few years back and same-sex marriage is exactly the same process for a visa.

quiltman

nikkif99UK , I absolutely understand why you think the US is better than the UK, especially from the time you have spent there. however as many folk here have said, the reality of living there is streets away from vacations - as it is in the rest of the world. Just health care alone should make you think twice , unless in the years to come you get a job, in your field , relevant to your degree , which includes health care benefits. your chances of getting a visa to live AND work in the US are not great - it's up to the US to decide who they want to allow into their country, just as the UK and others do. you either work towards meeting their requirements or rethink your future. The vast majority of people will only ever be allowed to VISIT the US. Did you look at Pulaskis Wiki re US visas to see if any of them , other than marriage to a USC , can apply to you? Sorry If I come over as harsh, but life is what you make of it, not neccessarily what you want it to be. Surely there are Gay clubs where you are so you can meet like minded people and maybe find long term friends? Here, even though it is a staunchly Catholic country, the Gay scene is large and tolerated - I have quite a few Filipino friends who are gay and they seem to lead a happy and contented life.

petitefrancaise

OP, seriously try a dating site. I used to be very disparaging about these but I've heard so many success stories of couples who never, ever would have found each other otherwise that I've changed my mind.

I know some of the peeps on here found their partners that way and ended up moving here- maybe they could suggest a site?

BEVS

If anyone wishes to suggest such a place to the OP then PM privately tlease.

Immy forums are for all things Immy .

cheers beers.



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nikkif99uk

so would a job relating to my degree have to be one I have currently done before or could it just be a job requiring my degree. As its American Studies mainly history was thinking a museum or something. Or for film studies a talent agency which i have interned in, in the past. Or some other type of film company. Just exploring potential avenues. Otherwise just have to keep visiting for the time being.

Nutmegger

Museums are on tight budgets. Think of it in this way: why would they (or indeed any employer) spend a lot of money to bring in someone who has never worked in the field when every year there is a new crop of eager grads, many with advanced degrees — who have spent their summer breaks interning at comparable institutions for a number of years—all available for the jobs at no cost and with a demonstrated commitment to the field?

nikkif99uk

Thats why i wanted to ask as I haven't really used my degree since graduation unless you count selling furniture to film sets or interning in a talent agency. I have worked in retail most of my life and currently sales, project managing and admin for almost 4 years in the hotel industry. Really wish I had done a degree in business now. But then I never would have lived in Canada for 3 years if I had done.

I never understood why British people are not eligible for the green card lottery as its not easy for us to move there unless your like a brain surgeon, computer specialist or millionaire unless married to an American.

Pulaski

Ironically, for the same reason as Indians, Chinese, Brazilians, Russians, and Mexicans and a few other countries aren't eligible - because immigration from the UK (and the other countries I listed) is already "disproportionately" high compared to immigration from other countries.

nikkif99uk

I didn't realise all those countries were not eligible. Just hope we end up with a good trade deal with USA and other countries as am not looking forward to living here after Brexit it we get no deal