Help! - I don't want to have to hurt someone..
Nov 18th 2008, 11:56 pm
#61
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Nov 18th 2008, 11:58 pm
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Re: Help! - I don't want to have to hurt someone..
Yeah well, I'll see what happens tonight at practice.Thanks for all your replies.. appreciated. Hopefully its highlighted one of the cultural differences we have to contend with when moving here.. and maybe someone else might gain some insight into it. OR, maybe not.. maybe others choose to read my post completely differently.. whatever.
Nov 19th 2008, 12:01 am
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Re: Help! - I don't want to have to hurt someone..
Quit the cheerleading and go with the dirt bikes, much more fun.
Nov 19th 2008, 12:03 am
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Re: Help! - I don't want to have to hurt someone..
Hey Samba...i feel your pain! I can't stand the cliques..hope everything went ok. I find that going right up to someone who appears to dislike me and smile and be ultra friendly with a sarcastic undertone (which they don't get but makes you feel so much better) is the best option...they just can't cope when they think they've got you on the run but then you go up to them, smile and say "so how was your week coach...I've been so looking forward to this week's practise!"
Nov 19th 2008, 12:05 am
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Re: Help! - I don't want to have to hurt someone..
Thank god my boys aren't into team sports.
Snowboarding, surfing and dirt bikes for them.
Snowboarding, surfing and dirt bikes for them.
Nov 19th 2008, 12:10 am
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Re: Help! - I don't want to have to hurt someone..
Hey Samba...i feel your pain! I can't stand the cliques..hope everything went ok. I find that going right up to someone who appears to dislike me and smile and be ultra friendly with a sarcastic undertone (which they don't get but makes you feel so much better) is the best option...they just can't cope when they think they've got you on the run but then you go up to them, smile and say "so how was your week coach...I've been so looking forward to this week's practise!"
Nov 19th 2008, 12:11 am
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thank god I have a Son over here.
Nov 19th 2008, 12:13 am
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Re: Help! - I don't want to have to hurt someone..
Not going to read all the replys so if someone has already posted this sorry.
I would have it out with the Bitch to her face one on one and ask her what her problem is with you!!
If she denies there is one then tell her you look forward to less sarky comments and a more professional attitude, and that you also would appreciate as she is in a position of standing and a roll model to the others that you will expect to see no display of any prejudice to your daughter.... that will get her, the word prejudice normally gives them a good kick up the arse.
I would have it out with the Bitch to her face one on one and ask her what her problem is with you!!
If she denies there is one then tell her you look forward to less sarky comments and a more professional attitude, and that you also would appreciate as she is in a position of standing and a roll model to the others that you will expect to see no display of any prejudice to your daughter.... that will get her, the word prejudice normally gives them a good kick up the arse.
I like your style..
Oh yes...definately this one..Poppy knows the Cali girls/women and how to put them in their place..
Nov 19th 2008, 12:18 am
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Re: Help! - I don't want to have to hurt someone..
Be helpful to this wonderful woman...... call a meeting and award her a dildo to mitigate the terrible stress of her importance......
Nov 19th 2008, 12:27 am
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Nov 19th 2008, 12:34 am
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Re: Help! - I don't want to have to hurt someone..
Everyone's given you the armchair quarterback responses - "slap the bitch", "use these clever lines on her", etc. but none of them are going to help much in the real world, in my opinion.
If you're serious about getting her to change her behavior, ask to talk to her after practice in private. Explain to her that you are very concerned by her apparent bias against you, and you suspect that it is racially motivated. Ask her if she has a particular dislike of foreigners such as yourself. Explain that you have had enough, and that any further unpleasantness from her will result in you bringing a formal charge of racial bullying against her with the school board/district. Tell her that you expect to be treated just like any of the other parents in the team, and that you will be paying close attention to her behavior and attitude towards you in future.
It's an impossible charge for her to argue - she can't tell you that she just doesn't like you regardless of your race, and she can't admit to being prejudiced against you for any other reason.
...but obviously this will alienate you from her even more, and there's a good chance that it will lead to her actively working to get your daughter out of the team on some pretense or other.
If you're serious about getting her to change her behavior, ask to talk to her after practice in private. Explain to her that you are very concerned by her apparent bias against you, and you suspect that it is racially motivated. Ask her if she has a particular dislike of foreigners such as yourself. Explain that you have had enough, and that any further unpleasantness from her will result in you bringing a formal charge of racial bullying against her with the school board/district. Tell her that you expect to be treated just like any of the other parents in the team, and that you will be paying close attention to her behavior and attitude towards you in future.
It's an impossible charge for her to argue - she can't tell you that she just doesn't like you regardless of your race, and she can't admit to being prejudiced against you for any other reason.
...but obviously this will alienate you from her even more, and there's a good chance that it will lead to her actively working to get your daughter out of the team on some pretense or other.
Nov 19th 2008, 12:40 am
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Re: Help! - I don't want to have to hurt someone..
If it's a pointed enough response, it might work on its own, but if necessary, can lead to that private discussion later.
Nov 19th 2008, 12:41 am
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Re: Help! - I don't want to have to hurt someone..
Everyone's given you the armchair quarterback responses - "slap the bitch", "use these clever lines on her", etc. but none of them are going to help much in the real world, in my opinion.
If you're serious about getting her to change her behavior, ask to talk to her after practice in private. Explain to her that you are very concerned by her apparent bias against you, and you suspect that it is racially motivated. Ask her if she has a particular dislike of foreigners such as yourself. Explain that you have had enough, and that any further unpleasantness from her will result in you bringing a formal charge of racial bullying against her with the school board/district. Tell her that you expect to be treated just like any of the other parents in the team, and that you will be paying close attention to her behavior and attitude towards you in future.
It's an impossible charge for her to argue - she can't tell you that she just doesn't like you regardless of your race, and she can't admit to being prejudiced against you for any other reason.
...but obviously this will alienate you from her even more, and there's a good chance that it will lead to her actively working to get your daughter out of the team on some pretense or other.
If you're serious about getting her to change her behavior, ask to talk to her after practice in private. Explain to her that you are very concerned by her apparent bias against you, and you suspect that it is racially motivated. Ask her if she has a particular dislike of foreigners such as yourself. Explain that you have had enough, and that any further unpleasantness from her will result in you bringing a formal charge of racial bullying against her with the school board/district. Tell her that you expect to be treated just like any of the other parents in the team, and that you will be paying close attention to her behavior and attitude towards you in future.
It's an impossible charge for her to argue - she can't tell you that she just doesn't like you regardless of your race, and she can't admit to being prejudiced against you for any other reason.
...but obviously this will alienate you from her even more, and there's a good chance that it will lead to her actively working to get your daughter out of the team on some pretense or other.