Caro

Good one!

Caroline

ire blues

1. If you pay enough money, you can get an annulment or whatever this
dispensation gets you.

2. If you don't get this, the church won't permit you to remarry, but
will bless you if you do. [/QUOTE]

You can NOT marry in the Catholic church if you have been previously married. In my instance, both my partner and I are Catholic and we are both divorced. Neither one of us would even contemplate the idea of an annulment. This is a personal choice...

We intend to have our union blessed in Ireland and and a civil ceremony in the states.


Sibsie...I knew exactly what you meant and feel much the same myself.

sibsie

Good on you Ire and very best of luck with your plans. I'll be going back to Kildare for my blessing with the official honeymoon round Kerry.

ire blues

Thanks Sibsie...so doing the honeymoon there too? Very nice. Co Meath for us..as far as the honeymoon...well, we... are open to that. Italy sounds good, but so does Spain.

Kristin

Hi Multnomah - The length of time required to marry in the Catholic
church depends on your diocese, and is mostly at the discretion of the
parish priest who agrees to marry you. You need to ask your
priest/parish about this. Be aware, though, in my experience, very few
people are allowed to "skip" the six month (or more) wait for marrying
in the Catholic church. In my diocese (Lansing, MI), the wait is 9
months, and you are required to take both a communication class or a
weekend retreat, have two meetings with a priest/deacon, and complete a
150 question "compatability" test that you go over with your priest (or
deacon in our case). I think you are confusing the "weekend retreat",
which can be done as part of the pre-Cana process, with the six month
required waiting period. They are separate and distinct. If your fiance
is on a K-1, obviously you know you need to get married within 90 days
(we avoided this problem by doing the pre-Cana stuff in the year before
our wedding date but my hubby is from Canada and could visit more often).

First you need to confirm what your priest/parish requires, and if your
priest won't accomodate you, try calling some Catholic churches in Vegas
(there's even one right on the Strip, next to the Riviera), to see what
they allow. Unfortunately, many Catholic churches also won't let you
get married in their church unless you or your family (or someone else
willing to sponsor you) is a member of their parish, although it can't
hurt to ask.

Anyway, you have some research to do. If it turns out you cannot find a
Catholic church/priest willing to marry you on such short time-frame,
you can always do a civil ceremony and then do the waiting period and
classes, and then have a religious ceremony. One of the couples in our
pre-Cana classes did just that - after about six years of marriage and
with the wife/bride pregnant! :-) So it's do-able. Congrats on the
visa and your groom's pending arrival, and good luck with your wedding!
Kristin

Multnomah wrote:
    > Both my fiance and I are converts to the Catholic faith. We would
    > like a Catholic ceremony (for just us) in Las Vegas. I've read
    > archived messages on this board on this topic but most are 36+ months
    > old.
    >
    > Is it true we can register for a 'weekend' retreat rather than a
    > six-month pre-Cana?
    >
    > Any ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated as we just got
    > his visa on 12/1, he's flying to the US on 12/19 and we'd like to get
    > married before the end of the year.