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To the ones who are feeling restless and homesick.

Old May 8th 2010, 10:51 pm
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Dunno, after 31 years here I still have great friends in UK (cannot say the same for friends in Aus, far more transitory) and every time I go home they insist on me staying and we have a ball with conversations starting up right where we left them the last time. Every trip home makes me even more convinced that I am living in the wrong place - immured at the a*se end of the universe is not where I want to be. So it doesnt always work out that a trip to UK makes you appreciate Australia more - for the things I want to do in life it makes me very sad that I have allowed myself to get stuck here and I cant do them. Comparing my life here with the rich variety of what my friends can experience makes me very sad.

However, had we tried to move back a few years ago when I was still working, like Polly it wouldnt have been possible to do the same job - lower level of qualifications needed here for the same job in my field and that is just one of the reasons we stayed. There is not a day goes by when I dont regret moving to UK when I had the chance!
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Dunno, after 31 years here I still have great friends in UK (cannot say the same for friends in Aus, far more transitory) and every time I go home they insist on me staying and we have a ball with conversations starting up right where we left them the last time. Every trip home makes me even more convinced that I am living in the wrong place - immured at the a*se end of the universe is not where I want to be. So it doesnt always work out that a trip to UK makes you appreciate Australia more - for the things I want to do in life it makes me very sad that I have allowed myself to get stuck here and I cant do them. Comparing my life here with the rich variety of what my friends can experience makes me very sad.

However, had we tried to move back a few years ago when I was still working, like Polly it wouldnt have been possible to do the same job - lower level of qualifications needed here for the same job in my field and that is just one of the reasons we stayed. There is not a day goes by when I dont regret moving to UK when I had the chance!
I have lived away from my home town in the UK for 16 years and then moved out here. It is difficult and no one said it would be easy - I have a friend who is having a ball back in the UK and it does make you think. When I moved in the UK the first couple of years everyone kept in touch, when I went back home they all came out for a night out, arranged things and then as the years have gone I have moved on and so have they. MHO is that people make a fuss when you initially come back for a visit however longer term things then slip into the normal routine and you are back at work and so are they and you start to see them less and less and the reason you went back is now not there and would you not end up questioning again why you returned?? Not too sure that that makes sense?? I guess I haven't been here too long and I do desperately miss people but I make the effort to keep in touch whilst building friendships over here however I am never amazed when people send you a quick one liner to say how much they miss you but how sorry they are but they are really busy and will write something soon forgetting that you have more than one person to keep in touch with!

Don't get me wrong I am not cynical and I don't have rose tinted glasses on either things are tough and there are problems with both countries and I never say never, you never know some day I might be sat here typing that I am going back to the UK....... but I am not too sure that will be anytime soon! If I go back I want to make sure it is for the right reasons at the moment I have made the decision to emigrate out here and am trying to make the most of it and lets face it in Canberra it is cold not like the Gold Coast but the trees are changing colours there are leaves on the ground and truly is like Autumn/Winter in the UK minus the rain!
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This is our second attempt at life n Australia. Been here 3 years this time so have given it a fair go. However, plan to return to UK in a few years - just doesn't feel at "home". The End.
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Hi,
my family and I are working hard to try moving to Brisbane before the ending of this year!
Wondering if we will be homesick and how to support our kids on the move... and on the stay

Thank you for the info you posted (also in the past) I found it very useful!
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Old Sep 2nd 2010, 10:42 pm
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Originally Posted by billabongbunyip View Post
I have pretty much never felt homesick. I arrived in 1995 and never been back to the UK since. Although would like to. Home is where the heart is. I moved here for love, so Australia is now home. I made it official in 1999 when I took out citizenship.

But I certainly agree with your comment......”I think that people who have really strong attachments to people in the UK and have not moved homes and jobs a lot will find it a lot more difficult than others”. And I have met many migrants like this.

I had moved around a lot and changed jobs a lot both in the UK and backpacking overseas before I was 25. So I lost my connection to my UK home in the four years prior to settling here. The only thing I regret is not seeing my beloved Aunty before she died.

I don’t hold out much truth to the saying "the grass is greener on the other side". Life is what you make it. Being poor in London was the absolute pits. But being poor here different for me. In myself I feel happy and joyful and still after 15 years really appreciate the beauty around me.

Little things all add to the sense of joy in me. Watching the sun rise over the valley. Having a cup of tea on the balcony whilst a kangaroo hops around the garden. Driving up to the Hunter Valley for wine tasting and lunch (the back way through Wollombi with the convict sandstone bridges is very peaceful and beautiful), swimming in free ocean pools as the sun rises or sets over the horizon, seeing humpback whales in Sydney Harbour (there are not many cities in the world where you can sit in your office and watch whales frocking), taking the train over the Harbour bridge with the sun reflecting off the Opera House and over the harbour always fills me with an intense sheer joy at just being alive. Within 30 minutes of leaving the CBD you can be in a National Park that is thousands of years old. In winter I can drive up Bells Line of Road into the Blue Mountains and go tobogganing in the snow............a bit bloody different from freezing to death in a damp unit block in the London suburbs.

But I am not rich. In fact, very poor. Still renting. I have also been ill and had to reduce work hours. Often have weeks where ends don’t meet. But it is the little things like above where I think “my God, I am so lucky to live in this beautiful part of the world”. I never think about returning to the UK to “get on” in life, as my little bit of paradise is here.

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This is the BEST thread i have red on this forum, i too share your views "I am so lucky to live in this beautiful part of the world”. I never think about returning to the UK to “get on” in life, as my little bit of paradise is here."

If only more of the whingers on here would come around to this way of thinking....Life is what you make it..
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Old Sep 2nd 2010, 10:53 pm
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Default Re: To the ones who are feeling restless and homesick.

Originally Posted by billabongbunyip View Post
I could be wrong, but I think an important way of reducing homesickness and settling in a new environment is by fully embracing your new life.

When I was growing up in the UK I could never understand why English people went on holiday overseas and complained about the local environment. They would stay in English style accommodation, mix with other English people, drink English beer in English theme bars and demand eggs, beans, sausages & chips (whilst calling paella, risotto, mousaka or whatever the local food consisted of as “foreign muck”).

I could never understand this attitude – what is the point of wasting money to go overseas if you are going to mix with other English people, drink English beer in English theme bars, eat English food, and so on.

You may as well save your money, stay at home and hire a sun bed for two weeks!

I met an English lady here once who was terribly homesick and after speaking to her it was hardly surprising to me. She lived in a gated community with other ex-pats, she only socialised with ex-pats, she arranged for her family in the UK to post her English food. She only watched English TV shows, she only read the International Express. I asked her why she had bothered coming here in the first place and she said to “make a fresh start”.

Sorry – but to make a “fresh start” you need expect and welcome change and then embrace the adventure.
I agree 110% Well said! We have often felt embarassed at being from the UK when abroad. We've travelled abroad to experience local cultures, food and the people.
I have always believed Australia was my true home and always hankered to visit, my first visit in 2005, after far too many years to mention, confirmed what I believed and we came out every opportunity we had! Which turned out to be April 2009, then Christmas 2009/2010 we felt so homesick for Australia after that trip within 12 hours we'd booked to fly out again in June. In the midst of these we applied for a visa and did masses and masses of research. The last trip we made was one that was the most amazing when I was offered a job. My visa is through now and we emigrate in 3 weeks.
We don't expect the grass to be greener, we don't intend socialising only with all the ex-pats or seeking out UK brands etc etc. I know living in Australia will be different from visitng but going in eyes wide open (I hope) some proper reccies under our belts and anyway it's where our hearts lay and we can't wait to be home.
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Old Sep 3rd 2010, 11:05 am
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I will never stop missing family and friends - especially friends that I grew up with, they are the real people in my life that I miss.

I do miss Scotland for it's land and stunning scenery, someone earlier mentioned they only miss people and not land. It's both for me. Saying that, I do like my life here (most days ) and I do still have days where "i've had enough and going home"
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Originally Posted by The_Foulgers View Post
I agree 110% Well said! We have often felt embarassed at being from the UK when abroad. We've travelled abroad to experience local cultures, food and the people.
Why?
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