moved back and not loving it
#31
Re: moved back and not loving it
thanks, we are not all mad just a little human,and if you wait around in life and do the so called right thing we would never get or go anywhere, and us as a family want everything so you got to do these thing 4 yourselves: we are spoiled (not in the bad sense)but worked bloody hard to get those visas and aint gonna waste them!!!!!!!!!!!
#32
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Location: Wirral, UK
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Re: moved back and not loving it
Great post. I have a feeling that in the future I may become a ping ponger too (& I'm still in the UK!). As much as I want to emigrate to Oz the bloody family thing keeps getting in the way. I'm such a "homebird" (hence nickname!), but really don't want to be! Hope the 2/3 years fly by for you xx
#33
Re: moved back and not loving it
we're heading to Perth, as I have family there, and as much as i can find about the weather.. sounds like something that would suit us. and we're not too much into busy city life... but dont like too quiet like country side either
somewhere bustling enough still for kids.. lots of space, parks, beaches... we'll have to see
somewhere bustling enough still for kids.. lots of space, parks, beaches... we'll have to see
#34
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Location: Back in Perth WA
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Re: moved back and not loving it
We are due to join the "ping pong" club! We spent 3 years in Perth (02-05)and returned purely for family, emotional reasons, I found myself quite vulnerable to my parents comments, I felt selfish for living in Aus. We are Aussie citizens we applied soon after the 2 years, I wasn't going to leave without it.
I've realised that me and my family are the priority. We find living in the UK so hard and we live in a desirable part! The traffic, the pace of life, people do not have time for each other, I could go on and on, we have had some bad experiences since being back.
We lived in the Perth Hills, I'm quite arty, so I'm looking forward to living amongst the gum trees again and devoting time to my art. By the way I feel quite sick too, every morning I wake feeling sick but in my heart I know we need to make this move, at least I'm listening to my heart, not my head this time! Good Luck to all those ping ponging
I've realised that me and my family are the priority. We find living in the UK so hard and we live in a desirable part! The traffic, the pace of life, people do not have time for each other, I could go on and on, we have had some bad experiences since being back.
We lived in the Perth Hills, I'm quite arty, so I'm looking forward to living amongst the gum trees again and devoting time to my art. By the way I feel quite sick too, every morning I wake feeling sick but in my heart I know we need to make this move, at least I'm listening to my heart, not my head this time! Good Luck to all those ping ponging
#35
Re: moved back and not loving it
thanks, we are not all mad just a little human,and if you wait around in life and do the so called right thing we would never get or go anywhere, and us as a family want everything so you got to do these thing 4 yourselves: we are spoiled (not in the bad sense)but worked bloody hard to get those visas and aint gonna waste them!!!!!!!!!!!
I second that!!!!!!!!
#36
Re: moved back and not loving it
wishing you all the very best for your future ~ where ever it might be
#38
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Only asked a simple question, no need to call me a prat thankyou.
Last edited by rocket01; Mar 22nd 2008 at 12:03 pm.
#40
Re: moved back and not loving it
we've been through exactly same sort of thing, moved to adelaide, for a number of reasons it didn't work out and we moved back to UK but couldn't settle. We've had to re apply for a new visa and are now just waiting for final decision but yep, we did same, bought,sold houses cars etc and will be doing same when we leave UK(apart from house, we just stayed renting this time).Like you say expensive business ping ponging but like every one else we're hoping we've finally got it right. Good luck to all in same situation, massive heart searching and upheaval in all this before you look at costs.
#41
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Location: The Shoalhaven, New South Wales, Australia
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Re: moved back and not loving it
Should rename this thread - Ping-Pong-Poms. Weird thing to me - all that back and forth. Good luck to all the ping-pongers - hope you find some peace.
#42
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Re: moved back and not loving it
it is wierd,,, but were all different, some suffer the homesickness worse than others! nothing wrong in that, some need to return to see exactly what, if anything were they missing! and sometimes ppl have no choice but to come back (family issues), its tough but you have to do what you have to do! Ive no regrets, needed to get some things out of my system I thought I`d dealt with 1st time around
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#43
Re: moved back and not loving it
Thanks for listening
#44
Re: moved back and not loving it
Feel like I could have written most of this myself!! We lived in the hills in perth for 6 years and i really didnt appreciate it! Think i was always feeling bad about leaving my mum Anyway, we have been back in UK almost 2 years now and am getting those longings to go back to Oz - cant believe i am even thinking about it after how i sometimes felt in Oz I came back purely for family reasons and although i enjoy having the grandparents here I too have realised that me and my family ie hubby and 2 kids are the main priority. Although my kids now have their grandparents i feel they are missing out on what oz had to offer. I miss the weather, the outdoors, the space, the innocence of the kids (they grow up too quickly here), I miss doing family things - just the 4 of us (i used to wish there was others to share it with now i am sick of fitting in with others - must have become very selfish). Anyway, i could go on forever about why i want to go back, thankfully hubby would go back tomorrow if i wanted! Just worried about seperating the kids from family, they were only 3.5 and 1.5 when we left so they have little memory of it so dont miss it. Also believe it would kill my mum, she was so ill emotionally when we were away for 6 years, she is now a totally different person - oh what to do, why must we feel guilty for wanting the best for ourselves and kids?? I am an only child so the guilt is worse
Thanks for listening
Thanks for listening
#45
Re: moved back and not loving it
If only..... A complete nightmare seems more like it Thanks tho - will probably take another 2 years to pick up the courage to tell her