What ever happened to .... ? (the missing BE member thread)
Jan 21st 2018, 1:10 am
#466
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Re: What ever happened to .... ? (the missing BE member thread)
I miss Hotscot. Anyone got any news?
Jan 21st 2018, 6:26 am
#467
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Jan 22nd 2018, 9:24 pm
#468
Peace onion
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Re: What ever happened to .... ? (the missing BE member thread)
Just a bit of fun, Rete. Sorry you didn't find it funny.
Waves at Steerpike. Hello, my old nemesis. Good to see you back.
Waves at Steerpike. Hello, my old nemesis. Good to see you back.
Jan 22nd 2018, 9:39 pm
#470
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Re: What ever happened to .... ? (the missing BE member thread)
Jan 23rd 2018, 1:12 am
#476
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Re: What ever happened to .... ? (the missing BE member thread)
Great White did it (used the title "Rock me") better - this is probably one of my all time top five favourite songs. Thank you for reminding me of it! 
Jan 23rd 2018, 9:31 pm
#477
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Re: What ever happened to .... ? (the missing BE member thread)
Fascinating post! I've been in a relationship with the same lady for the last 22 years, and we've been more 'roommates/friends' than anything else for more than half that time (including separate rooms). We had a lovely house that neither of us wanted to give up, and busy careers, so never got around to doing anything about it ... but finally after 22 years we sold the house last year and are now deciding what to do next.
We may end up buying another house together, but I'm tempted to find something new; she's more inclined to enjoy what little we have. Interesting how life develops ...
We may end up buying another house together, but I'm tempted to find something new; she's more inclined to enjoy what little we have. Interesting how life develops ...
*I wasn’t remotely looking. I bought an ebike and joined the Facebook group for owners of that brand, and got chatting to a guy on there who happened to also lived in Columbus and was getting his bike delivered the same day as mine. We became texting friends, like pen pals, in purely innocent way - exchanging chat about our bikes, pics of them parked in pretty places, we both like cooking, etc. I thought absolutely nothing of this, because I was a boringly dull ‘happily’ married woman in her mid-40s with teen kids, and he was a cool young guy of 34; I was just making a fun new friend outside of the norm of schoolgate-mums-with-the-same-age-kids-as-mine that’d been my staple for many years. This went on in a harmless fashion for about 4 months... and then we met in person, on a group social ride.
If anyone wants to lose weight, I highly recommend my subsequent Two Week ‘Oh Holy Hell, What On Earth Shall I Do Now?’ Plan, when we realized the impossibly strong mutual feelings we discovered we had for each other. I lost 15 lbs
Jan 25th 2018, 6:39 pm
#478
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Re: What ever happened to .... ? (the missing BE member thread)
It is, isn’t it! I was fine with the companionable roommates situation until I unexpectedly* found myself in a potential new relationship, and had a sudden epiphany of ‘ohhh... THIS is how it’s supposed to feel!’
*I wasn’t remotely looking. I bought an ebike and joined the Facebook group for owners of that brand, and got chatting to a guy on there who happened to also lived in Columbus and was getting his bike delivered the same day as mine. We became texting friends, like pen pals, in purely innocent way - exchanging chat about our bikes, pics of them parked in pretty places, we both like cooking, etc. I thought absolutely nothing of this, because I was a boringly dull ‘happily’ married woman in her mid-40s with teen kids, and he was a cool young guy of 34; I was just making a fun new friend outside of the norm of schoolgate-mums-with-the-same-age-kids-as-mine that’d been my staple for many years. This went on in a harmless fashion for about 4 months... and then we met in person, on a group social ride.
If anyone wants to lose weight, I highly recommend my subsequent Two Week ‘Oh Holy Hell, What On Earth Shall I Do Now?’ Plan, when we realized the impossibly strong mutual feelings we discovered we had for each other. I lost 15 lbs
*I wasn’t remotely looking. I bought an ebike and joined the Facebook group for owners of that brand, and got chatting to a guy on there who happened to also lived in Columbus and was getting his bike delivered the same day as mine. We became texting friends, like pen pals, in purely innocent way - exchanging chat about our bikes, pics of them parked in pretty places, we both like cooking, etc. I thought absolutely nothing of this, because I was a boringly dull ‘happily’ married woman in her mid-40s with teen kids, and he was a cool young guy of 34; I was just making a fun new friend outside of the norm of schoolgate-mums-with-the-same-age-kids-as-mine that’d been my staple for many years. This went on in a harmless fashion for about 4 months... and then we met in person, on a group social ride.
If anyone wants to lose weight, I highly recommend my subsequent Two Week ‘Oh Holy Hell, What On Earth Shall I Do Now?’ Plan, when we realized the impossibly strong mutual feelings we discovered we had for each other. I lost 15 lbs
) , but my partner has not, and is much less likely to ever do so (she is very, very quiet, shy, insular, and is 64 years old). So I feel REALLY bad for her, since suddenly being alone at 64 is not a good thing (practical stuff like medical issues, etc). I'm trying as hard as I can to keep her happy and supported - offered to help her buy a place nearby so I can be there to help her, etc, but she's not being terribly receptive to that. Best thing on earth would be for her to meet someone else. But my new 'love interest' has been extremely supportive too, encouraging me to stay in touch with her and continuing to help her out ... so that makes me feel better.
Jan 26th 2018, 12:02 am
#479
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Re: What ever happened to .... ? (the missing BE member thread)
What's really interesting / fortuitous is that your hubby has also found another person ... that should really help. In my case, I have found myself a new 'love interest' (which at 59 is quite a surprise! ) , but my partner has not, and is much less likely to ever do so (she is very, very quiet, shy, insular, and is 64 years old). So I feel REALLY bad for her, since suddenly being alone at 64 is not a good thing (practical stuff like medical issues, etc). I'm trying as hard as I can to keep her happy and supported - offered to help her buy a place nearby so I can be there to help her, etc, but she's not being terribly receptive to that. Best thing on earth would be for her to meet someone else. But my new 'love interest' has been extremely supportive too, encouraging me to stay in touch with her and continuing to help her out ... so that makes me feel better.
) , but my partner has not, and is much less likely to ever do so (she is very, very quiet, shy, insular, and is 64 years old). So I feel REALLY bad for her, since suddenly being alone at 64 is not a good thing (practical stuff like medical issues, etc). I'm trying as hard as I can to keep her happy and supported - offered to help her buy a place nearby so I can be there to help her, etc, but she's not being terribly receptive to that. Best thing on earth would be for her to meet someone else. But my new 'love interest' has been extremely supportive too, encouraging me to stay in touch with her and continuing to help her out ... so that makes me feel better.Implications of this development, in no particular order:
- his relationship with his new girlfriend: long distance or break up
- maintaining Ohio residency long enough to get our son off to university at in-state tuition rates
- should I move with hubby, to nurture the strong bonded relationship between him and our 14 year old (who is completely up for moving again). Hubby isn't going to be in a position to single parent, in a demanding new job that’ll likely involve some travel
- but then what about my new love? And my hopes for study and career of my own? And what if hubby gets laid off again in a year or two, after we’ve upended our lives again?
- our separation/ divorce plans, which are of course state-influenced. The new tax plan isn’t helping by putting a deadline on deductible alimony.
Life... it’s ever interesting, at least. I have every sympathy with you, Steerpike, trying to balance the needs of others,
