Ash UK/US

Would you say you have true friends in the US? I don't mean someone you hang out with when your invited to tag along or people you only see at work. I mean the kind of person you will know will be there for you when you need them?

I have worked at the same company for 6 years now and it has taken untill the last 12-18 months to say that I true friends that are beyond just people I work with. It was a long haul.

shazza777

I have lived here for 2 1/2 years and still waiting to make 'friends'.
I don't know if it's because where i live but the people here are just not friendly or even sociable at all. The neighbours don't even talk, bloody hell, if i passed them in the street i wouldn't recognise them, i don't even know what they look like!
I must admit though, the older generation are more 'sociable' if i am out and about i often say 'good morning' as i pass people, only the older generation seem to reply.
Like i said, it must be Killeen because when i went to Colorado lots of people were friendly, i found Louisiana the same too.
I would like to know if others experience the same as me though.

cindyabs

I ask from personal experience, but are you living off post? If you are that could well have something to do with it. I experienced the same thing when we lived in VA-on post was fine, off post, no.

AmerLisa

Since we bought our house, 5 years ago, I can say we've made "true" friends with some of our neighbors. I don't know whether its because we were all new to the neighborhood, or we had kids about the same age and we all met at the toddler park across the street, or we just connected. Whichever, its really nice during the summer when we all get together. And of course not having any family in the area, it gives me some peace of mind to know we have good friends nearby for any emergency.

mellybrown

Yes!! We have been here 2 years and shortly after we got here we were invited over to one of hubbys work collegues house to cookout with them and their friends - we have been a solid group ever since! Last year hubby was asked to be their best man, and this year they bought the house across the street from us! In 2 years we have gone on vacations together, we all hang out at each others houses a few times a week, and its very handy if we need something doing on our house cos they are here in a flash!!

I also have some other very good friends - maybe people around here are just extra friendly!!!

ChocolateBabz

We are friends with a couple who I would consider true friends - we have boys the same age and that's how we met. We meet up a couple of times a month for meals at each others houses, look after each others kids and go out independently of being a group.

I know the names of our immediate neighbours but apart from that we hardly see anyone - the kids don't play outside (it's too hot!) and the neighbours drive out of the garages in the morning and back in at night closing their garage doors behind them. It's partly our fault though - there have been a few neighbourhood 'events' but we didn't go to them! I feel the worst for my son as he would like more friends to play with but I am quite content with my own company.

Bob

Plenty of friends.

Wouldn't put any of them in life time mates category, the kind who will bail you out of the clink 4am in the morning because you got caught taking a leak behind a car kind of mate.

Oh, everyone I used to work with, I only hang out occasionally with one of them and still only occasionally say hi to maybe 3 or so on FB.

Couple of mates up in Maine I guess, but since moving down to Mass, don't have much to do with them any more.

Juswus

no

Sally Redux

No American friends - all complete flakes.

goldenstate31

Now I've asked this before, as im not too sure of the word flakey
does it mean a) unreliable or b)false?! or c) both

cindyabs

I always think of a flake as bein nutter.

Leslie

Or a drama fueled time waster.

chartreuse

Yeah, buddies who'd help you move some furniture, sure, but not the sort of lifetime mates that become like family.

Sally Redux

They're your best friend forever as soon as you meet them, if they have nothing better to do at that moment.

discoviking

I went to Texas once, down by Big Bend. I found that if I would walk down the street wearing a Cowboy hat like everyone else and say 'Howdy' they would respond. Belt buckle size didn't seem to matter, the hat was the key. And "Howdy'. Not 'Good Morning'. I am not making this up. Seriously.

To answer the original question, I have what I would call a few good friends over here, but I have met them through other avenues than work.