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We have been invited to a friends house for lunch after her daughters first communion this weekend. We are pretty close with the family, and it is only a small gathering - I think 2 other families plus us. Wife just asked me whether we should take a present, and if so, what. My suggestion of a six pack and a bottle of wine apparently was not correct. And nor was the follow up "don't ask if you don't want an honest answer...."

Help? Anyone?

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Do you want to be religious or not? How much to spend? Maybe a locket: nice enough without being overtly religious, budget determines metal.

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Budget? Apparently I'm tight - within the family we normally give what I guess most folk consider token gifts for birthdays of around $10-20 value (more for our own kids), so I was gobsmacked shortly after moving here to find I was expected to stump $100 for a neighbours' kids' graduation :lol: I have since acclimatised/acclimated;) so I guess we should be aiming the same sort of ballpark.

We are not religious, but they obviously are. In fact, very much so - the Mom is studying a theology degree part time! I saw online all sorts of suggestions about giving bibles and crucifixes and the like, but to be honest, I wouldn't be too comfortable to do that. A locket is a good idea. I will put it to the approval committee when she wakes up in the morning! Thanks.

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Take a gift. If you are religious something like a nice Bible or crucifix pendant. If not, a small but tasteful item of jewelery eg a silver bracelet or chain or even just a gift voucher. Everyone that attended my Communion gave me something.

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Sounds like jewelry is the way to go - thanks.
Now why did I throw that James Avery 20% coupon away last week...:(

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I may be tight but I would not be spending $100. $40 tops.

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Yup. Silver locket from Zales or somewhere similar - something in the $40-50 range. Oval, not heart shaped. Maybe have her name and date of her communion engraved inside.

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Communion wine?

Compromise.

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Action Figure?


http://yaypics.smugmug.com/photos/i-...-5KnJLMh-M.jpg

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Jay & Silent Bob's Secret Stash - Buddy Christ Dashboard Statue Perfect.

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I'd get a silver bracelet. They have loads at James Avery. You could get a charm bracelet with a mildly religious charm, like "hope". Or just a regular silver bangle.

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10%

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Only if the service (heh) is good.

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Grabbing hips? Err.. forget it.

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Obviously you don't have time for an online order, but the Etsy first communion pages might give you some ideas:

https://www.etsy.com/market/first_communion_gift

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http://weknowgifs.com/wp-content/upl...munion-gif.gif



Eh... /shrug

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Yep, I'd second James Avery.

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As someone that isn't religious at all (nor is the wife), I think your original suggestion of booze is an excellent one! :thumbup:

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Google is your friend ..... <first communion gifts> gives lots of sites with many ideas both overtly religious and less so.

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The recipient is a girl ya dummy! :rolleyes:

Obviously Yorkie needs to find one of these: :rofl:

http://www.uscatholic.org/sites/defa...?itok=BdcgZTYU

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When I was a kid, I absolutely loved cash gifts.
Grownups always give you what they think you want, not actually what you do want. :thumbup:

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A science or engineering toy may be more appropriate then!

My wife recently attended a first communion for a friend (we're Jewish). If you are uncomfortable with a religious gift, money in the form of cash/check or gift card is quite appropriate.

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You're welcome round ours...

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OK, thank you very much for the ideas, suggestions (some better than others, looking at nobody in particular, but you know who you are:sneaky:) and the support for my original idea...

Against my better judgement, a visit was made to James Avery where I parted with about $70 for a silver (looking) chain with a pendant thingy on it that is apparently ideal for a 9 year old girls first communion. Or so the saleslady told me.....

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Shame - shiner are doing a lovely prickly pear beer right now. A 12 pack of that would have been ideal.

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Seems entirely appropriate to me.

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:ohmy:

I wonder if they have a "Ken" with real stigmata ...

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Wow. Sexism at its finest!

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No, but it would be fun to improvise with a Black and Decker and some red nail varnish.

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Er, it was a partly a jab against the Catholic church not being at the cutting edge of sex equality. :rolleyes:

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My wife has a couple of giant crosses from her first communion. One is probably crystal and the other is chromed metal of some kind. Both stored in boxes since she got them, although they would make excellent doorstops.

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Sounds like all the unasked for gaudy judaica we got at our wedding. Oh what lovely candlesticks, we'll be sure to use them every shabbat.

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Bugger. Missed that. ;)

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Ah yes, the Catholic church is full of them too.

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Prickly Pear is pretty decent, but the one I'm enjoying out of the current Shiner Family selection is the Ruby Red. Sadly I've just finished the last one in the box....:(

She seemed to like it:thumbup: