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We have been invited to a friends house for lunch after her daughters first communion this weekend. We are pretty close with the family, and it is only a small gathering - I think 2 other families plus us. Wife just asked me whether we should take a present, and if so, what. My suggestion of a six pack and a bottle of wine apparently was not correct. And nor was the follow up "don't ask if you don't want an honest answer...."

Help? Anyone?

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Do you want to be religious or not? How much to spend? Maybe a locket: nice enough without being overtly religious, budget determines metal.

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Budget? Apparently I'm tight - within the family we normally give what I guess most folk consider token gifts for birthdays of around $10-20 value (more for our own kids), so I was gobsmacked shortly after moving here to find I was expected to stump $100 for a neighbours' kids' graduation :lol: I have since acclimatised/acclimated;) so I guess we should be aiming the same sort of ballpark.

We are not religious, but they obviously are. In fact, very much so - the Mom is studying a theology degree part time! I saw online all sorts of suggestions about giving bibles and crucifixes and the like, but to be honest, I wouldn't be too comfortable to do that. A locket is a good idea. I will put it to the approval committee when she wakes up in the morning! Thanks.

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Take a gift. If you are religious something like a nice Bible or crucifix pendant. If not, a small but tasteful item of jewelery eg a silver bracelet or chain or even just a gift voucher. Everyone that attended my Communion gave me something.

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Sounds like jewelry is the way to go - thanks.
Now why did I throw that James Avery 20% coupon away last week...:(

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I may be tight but I would not be spending $100. $40 tops.

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Yup. Silver locket from Zales or somewhere similar - something in the $40-50 range. Oval, not heart shaped. Maybe have her name and date of her communion engraved inside.

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Communion wine?

Compromise.

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Action Figure?


http://yaypics.smugmug.com/photos/i-...-5KnJLMh-M.jpg

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Jay & Silent Bob's Secret Stash - Buddy Christ Dashboard Statue Perfect.

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I'd get a silver bracelet. They have loads at James Avery. You could get a charm bracelet with a mildly religious charm, like "hope". Or just a regular silver bangle.

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10%

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Only if the service (heh) is good.

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Grabbing hips? Err.. forget it.

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Obviously you don't have time for an online order, but the Etsy first communion pages might give you some ideas:

https://www.etsy.com/market/first_communion_gift