scoobydoo

Hi, just wondered if anyone could advise - im sure there are a few of you who have been through this process.

Lived in Australia for two and a half years... couldnt settle here after five months... stuck it out to get citizenship, passports etc, kids schooling. All done now. Our house sold, shipment packed up and staying in a rental until we leave in December etc etc. Working my last couple of weeks notice at work etc.

I am so much looking forward to going home now, and feel that now the hard work is done, the last month should be a time to enjoy what little time I have left here etc. However, I am finding that I cant do that..Now all the hard work is done, instead of relaxing and enjoying my time with the lovely friends I have made here , I am becomming angry and frustrated with being here. I am also getting fed up of new arrivals I have met from the UK, asking me why I dont like it here (the list is endless). I am getting irritated with absolutely everything and keep telling myself to chill out, but I cant seem to do it. Any advice please????

spuds

Not sure where you are renting but perhaps you could do with a change of scene to remind yourself how beautiful it is here?

How about a few weekend trips away and stop socialising with the newly arrived?????

lorids

It is so difficult. We are going in 12 weeks and I keep saying to myself that I will look back and regret not doing more in the last few weeks when this will be the last opportunity for a while. It is so hard not to just talk about going back and plan all the time...the kids worse than me.

Like you we have most things booked but I can't get excited about stuff here now..it's like a mental block. Terrified to see my in laws next as they think we have made such a wrong and hasty decision. Luckily my wonderful OH (who should in fact be shooting me) has a conference in Melbourne in December and I am going to go with him,catch up with some friends then up to Sydney on my own to see other friends. A wee week away!!. That has made a huge difference so I think plan weekends and although you don't want to it's better than sitting around thinking of home. I always try putting myself a few months forward and looking back thinking what would I like to have done!!or as the phrase goes 'no regrets!!'

Nu-Shooz

I know how you feel. I am doing exactly the same thing as you, but you are one step ahead.
I get annoyed, frustrated at the comments made about us going back. Why it bothers others so much is beyond me. Then you get the people who are yet to come over and go on about life-style, better cost of living, fully hyper charged know it all's
I just stay away from them. I have better things to do then dicuss what i'm doing with them.
Wish i was in your shoes now, i have to wait another 5 months.

nwtrucker

I'd just enjoy the sounds and sights before you get back to this s*** hole!

katesbackagain

Not everywhere in the UK is a s***hole. Stop being so negative just because you don't like it there.

Scoobydoo, I'd agree with the others that you need to stay away from the negative newcomers. If it were me, I'd stay away simply because I'd snap, and go off on a tirade as to why I was going back. If that doesn't get rid of them or stop them asking, nothing will!

All the best to you, it's really not long for you now. Just hang in there.

scoobydoo

Originally Posted by nwtrucker
I'd just enjoy the sounds and sights before you get back to this s*** hole!
Its a shame there is always someone like you, nwtrucker to bring us all down isnt it? Why do you chose to go on this forum? Do you get some sort of a kick out of it ? You sad person......



Scoobydoo, I'd agree with the others that you need to stay away from the negative newcomers. If it were me, I'd stay away simply because I'd snap, and go off on a tirade as to why I was going back. If that doesn't get rid of them or stop them asking, nothing will!

You are right Kate, I agree - nothing worse than being surrounded by negative people.

manc1

[QUOTE=Nu-Shooz;5576756] Why it bothers others so much is beyond me.



It appears to be human nature. If you tell people you are leaving the country or leaving the state they take it as an insult to their decision to live in the place they are at.

manc1

Go to Bali for a few weeks, it's a great place to chill out.

Nu-Shooz

[QUOTE=manc1;5580836] Yes i guess you are right. But i for one couldn't care less where people choose to live, it's up to them.

joh117

Scooby Doo

I remember you from when we were intially heading to Oz and I used this forum regularly or rather the australia forum

We have been home since July 2006. We stayed 2 1/2 years like you got citizenship then booked the flights and left.

I love the UK but I also am now missing Oz. Not enough to head back there but I miss my friends and I miss the scenery.

We made the right decision for our family. I had a little girl in June 05 in Oz and we have a better work/life balance over here in the UK than we did in the UK.

Good luck on your move back to the UK. Prepare yourself for thinking everything is cramped together. York seemed like a toy town on our arrival back.

Just try and enjoy your time until the flights. I remember being in Limbo we were just counting the days until we got the Australian Passports and could book our flights.

Jo

Stay

Just interested to know nwtrucker where have you lived before other than England!!??

MikeStanton

As I thought, nwtrucker hasn't been spelt correctly...

Stitch

Hi,

No real advice just a couple of questions if you don't mind. Just wondered how the kids coped with going back after being here for that time. Reason I ask is we're in a similar situation although not sure if we will go or stay. One kid has said from day one (we're at 18 mnths) when are we going back and the other has finally settled only for his parents to say not sure.

I think that's my biggest worry. Any input would be useful.

Cheers

Ginny

LouiseD

Obviously he must have lived in some fantastic places to qualify him to make such justified comparisons. My question would be why he came back if he hates it here so much.

Come on trucker guy spill - tell us all about these fab places where you've lived which are so much better to live in than here. And of course why you chose to return.