Originally Posted by plasticbag_uk

Apart from the obviously top job you had, the story reminds me of when I first came to live here. We too had a court wedding followed by a church wedding a few months later. I got my work permit before the full green card and found it very hard to get employment because I was an alien, my first job here was salesman for the main Ford dealer, customers would prefer dealing with me just because I had an English accent, I was however verbally abused by management constantly and quit, it took a year to find someone else to employ me, but I have a good wife, just as you do, she stood by me and worked to support us both, I eventually got a job by resorting to driving a septic truck, I was so ashamed but had to do something, it didn't last long before I found a family run trucking company who took me on. I now work for a nationwide trucking company who are in my eyes the best in the nation. As for the being an alien, this company think so much of me and another Englishman who works with me that they would love to hire as many English drivers as they can get hold of. You shouldn't give up or think you are not liked by people because you are an immigrant, have some confidence, stop looking at the down side, stand up for yourself at the hearing, don't let them intimidate you because if they see you are downtrodden by them they will feel even stronger. Go to the hearing, give your dam best and if after that they let you go then you are better than they are and they do not deserve decent employees.
I have no idea what the work you do is but if it is so important a job you will be able to go elsewhere. Good luck to you sir and do not give up.

Originally Posted by notaclue

We've talked about starting a business but again - No idea what!

Who's got hugs?

Originally Posted by lansbury

You have one thing a lot of people battling fatal illnesses don't have a future. With a future there is hope. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get out there and grab that future by the horns and make a good life for your family.

Originally Posted by notaclue

Needing a little pick-me-up. I don't seem to have the best success with employment in the US in the two years I have been here and the year I have been able to work.

Last April I was offered a job only to have it revoked over a case of mistaken identity and today I am given fired or hearing for something so trivial no one can actually believe it - However sadly, probationary period means bye bye and the reputation of loosing this big job will haunt me for a long time.

We own our home, but were literally about to sign the dotted line to build our dream home, wife was about to buy her dream car now that I was making excellent money.

So alas, my career of 15 years is essentially over in the US as I am highly unlikely to win my hearing (99% failure rate in my line of work - 911) and everyone knows everyone in this tight knit community - Getting a full time, well paid position at my skill level is extremely hard.

I feel so sorry for my wife who just needs stability that I cannot provide. Is it normal to be the foreign guy with which nothing seems to go right for a few years?

This past week our house has flooded (badly), wife in a wreck, lost my job, father in law in a wreck and our household has been ill for three weeks.

I'm at the end of my tether and had it not been for my wife to I'd be heading back to the cold and miserable UK with my tail between my legs. I literally have no idea what career to look at now my existing one is essentially over. We've talked about starting a business but again - No idea what!

Who's got hugs?

Originally Posted by notaclue

That's what I've been trying but it's hard. This isn't a job it is a calling and not something thats easy to walk away from.

Originally Posted by MidwestBob

My advice would be to move to another state. For employment Kentucky would not be my state of choice. Colorado would be my choice, where folks are less close knit, less judgemental and more laid back. And the climate is superb. As someone else said get a commercial drivers license. There is always work for CDL drivers. And there are a lot of jobs in the marijuana industry even for a short time until you get back on your feet.

Originally Posted by Rete

I think part of the reason why he isn't considering moving is that his wife has two children from a previous relationship and might not be able to move the children out of state.

Originally Posted by notaclue

So alas, my career of 15 years is essentially over in the US as I am highly unlikely to win my hearing (99% failure rate in my line of work - 911) and everyone knows everyone in this tight knit community - Getting a full time, well paid position at my skill level is extremely hard.



I'm at the end of my tether and had it not been for my wife to I'd be heading back to the cold and miserable UK with my tail between my legs. I literally have no idea what career to look at now my existing one is essentially over. We've talked about starting a business but again - No idea what!

Who's got hugs?

Originally Posted by SanDiegogirl

According to your earlier posts you were 27 in 2015, so would be approx 30 now? Not sure where a 15 year career comes from in that timescale.

Also how would you go back to the UK? Haven't you got a wife and 3 year old child?

Originally Posted by Rete

The child is his stepchild.