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You sound just like my husband - his sarcasm either gets him the stink-eye, an ear bashing on rudeness or they just completely ignore him and hope he goes away. He hasn't had a good night unless he has upset someone :lol:

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It's very hard for me to make friends too - I miss my pals.

We go out to dinner with "his" friends every couple of months and I only do it so the OH will stop moaning at me being an unsociable tart. I tolerate it but it's sooooo bloody boring.

My real pals (before they buggered off back to the motherland) and I would go out for dinner, everyone would have a laugh, take the piss, not worry about calories and fat - it was great.

With the OH's pals... well, the last time I learned more about Botox and fillers than I ever want to know about in my lifetime... and another surgery that sounds just inhumane... apparently since I've never had kids it's nothing I need to worry about...ugh.

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I feel like me and my group of San Diego friends are bucking the trend here. We all met at roughly the same time and none of us have been in SD for more than 15 months so we have had lots of shared experiences. We meet up virtually every other weekend (if not more) for BBQ's, dinners, drinks. Our group is mostly Brits but there are some Americans, A guy from Finland and one from Japan.

I feel like we have all got close very quickly, we stay at each others apartments ( so everyone can have a drink), and we have had a few 'emergency' situations where we have had to help each other out - car crashes, hospital apts.

That being said we are all roughly the same age (late twenties early thirties), we are all couples and every one of us was looking to make friends.

I feel very lucky. :)

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I don't know about the age thing, but definitely agree on the going out for the hell of it. I'm near-ish LA (monrovia to be exact).
Give me shout, we can go out just because :)

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:)
I like your post, so true on the subjects!
Give me a shout if you're near LA, would be nice to meet someone with 'normal' sense of humor!

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This is me, pretty much. No one knows how to take what I say, which is probably a good thing a lot of the time, but does get in the way sometimes as well.

I wouldn't say I have made any real friends here (in the US). Acquaintances , sure, but not friends. S'ok.. I prefer my dogs to most people anyway. :)

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I agree with it being easier to make friends with people if you're going through the same things at the same time.

Unfortunately, I'd say I haven't made any real friends since I've been here and I was beating myself up for a while. Work colleagues are ok but we are miles apart personality wise to socialize. I've tried meetup groups, the gym, bars etc, etc.

The only friends I'd say I've made are some blokes in an English pub but they're quite a bit older. I didn't want to be 'that' person who doesn't try to fit in but 'cest la vie' I suppose.

Having said that I love living here and I know that however much I miss my friends back home, a couple of weeks back there and I'd miss this place.

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My observation is that guys here don't do friendship. Back home theres a real 'mateyness' about guys friendships that doesn't exist here. My (American) husband doesn't have friends or even seems to need any social interaction. My expat friends who are married to British or Irish guys seem to be widowed fairly frequently on weekends as the guys all go off to a concert or camping, golf etc.

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It's San Diego :)

We've had a similar experience :)

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If I move there - I'll need someone like you:thumbup: I totally get what you're saying - I have met some really nice girls here but I really miss my pals from home and everthing we shared together.

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I know! It's brilliant :D

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So true. I sometimes wonder if this is a Colorado thing, but this thread suggests not.

I do have some good friends here - all British. We've all moved over around the same time so we have something big in common. I'd like to have some American friends too but don't know where to start. I can go days without seeing a neighbour, and the gym isn't particularly social. Have signed up for some volunteering though so hoping to meet a few folk that way. When I eventually start working again at least I'll get to meet some more people, even if they don't become actual friends.