Life is fragile
Jan 22nd 2015, 3:31 am
#31
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Re: Life is fragile
Dearest Welshgator, my heart goes out to you. Life is dreadfully unfair sometimes. Big hugsxxx
Jan 22nd 2015, 1:57 pm
#32
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Jan 22nd 2015, 2:24 pm
#33
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Re: Life is fragile
Sorry Pulaski.
I lived this last March. My husband died at age 50, totally unexpected from a very treatable acute illness (kidney stones. yes, really). I took him to the ER on Feb 27th. I thought he would be in hospital for a few days, get some IV antibiotics etc. He never came home, he died on March 19. In what seems like a split second my life changed forever. You just never know.
I lived this last March. My husband died at age 50, totally unexpected from a very treatable acute illness (kidney stones. yes, really). I took him to the ER on Feb 27th. I thought he would be in hospital for a few days, get some IV antibiotics etc. He never came home, he died on March 19. In what seems like a split second my life changed forever. You just never know.
Hope you all have someone there to support you.
Jan 22nd 2015, 3:16 pm
#34
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Re: Life is fragile
I wasn't going to post my sad story but since this thread is underway....my sixteen year old daughter had a tragic car accident on the 2nd January. On the 4th I had to sign the papers to take her off life support and she passed away quietly two hours later. She had everything in front of her, was a nationally recognized swimmer and guaranteed a college scholarship. My wife and I are heartbroken, she meant everything to us. Never in a million years would I ever have imagined this could happen to us.
Jan 22nd 2015, 3:16 pm
#35
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Re: Life is fragile
Since i emmigrated 2 of my friends have passed away on the Squash Court and one on a running machine at a gym.
My brother is on his own so I try and call, I am sure it has always happened but somehow seems more common nowadays.
I have an uncle who my aunt calls once a week, the only time he turns his mobile on.
Somebody I know is on their last legs with cancer, not a nice way to go. Better to go with a bang.
My brother is on his own so I try and call, I am sure it has always happened but somehow seems more common nowadays.
I have an uncle who my aunt calls once a week, the only time he turns his mobile on.
Somebody I know is on their last legs with cancer, not a nice way to go. Better to go with a bang.
Jan 22nd 2015, 3:31 pm
#36
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Re: Life is fragile
Thanks to everyone for their kind words. Our local community, and also the swimming community in Florida, has been wonderfully supportive and very comforting for my wife.
Jan 22nd 2015, 3:42 pm
#38
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Re: Life is fragile
Welshgator, Mae fy nghydymdeimlad dwysaf. My deepest condolences to all who have lost precious loved ones and friends. It's hard, I know. Life can be so very cruel at times. 
Jan 22nd 2015, 3:54 pm
#39
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Re: Life is fragile
Since i emmigrated 2 of my friends have passed away on the Squash Court and one on a running machine at a gym.
My brother is on his own so I try and call, I am sure it has always happened but somehow seems more common nowadays.
I have an uncle who my aunt calls once a week, the only time he turns his mobile on.
Somebody I know is on their last legs with cancer, not a nice way to go. Better to go with a bang.
My brother is on his own so I try and call, I am sure it has always happened but somehow seems more common nowadays.
I have an uncle who my aunt calls once a week, the only time he turns his mobile on.
Somebody I know is on their last legs with cancer, not a nice way to go. Better to go with a bang.
When my friend in England's husband died at first she wanted to talk about him all the time, and her kids couldn't handle it, I grew up with them, so I spent hours on the 'phone just listening to all the stories about how they met and stuff.
There's always a way to be kind to people who are struggling.
And I know I'm old-fashioned but politeness too is really important. Even when I get angry I know to tell someone- I know this isn't your fault. Some of these people working customer service earn minimum wage.
The saddest thing about this whole thread though to me was actually that Welshgator felt they had to apologise for introducing a potentially difficult or depressing subject. He's going through personal hell, the worst kind of suffering, and is worried about upsetting someone?
We're expats on a support forum, what could be a better reason for needing support.
Jan 22nd 2015, 6:23 pm
#40
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Re: Life is fragile
So so sorry Welshgator, glad you have people in Florida helping you x
Jan 22nd 2015, 9:01 pm
#42
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Re: Life is fragile
I wasn't going to post my sad story but since this thread is underway....my sixteen year old daughter had a tragic car accident on the 2nd January. On the 4th I had to sign the papers to take her off life support and she passed away quietly two hours later. She had everything in front of her, was a nationally recognized swimmer and guaranteed a college scholarship. My wife and I are heartbroken, she meant everything to us. Never in a million years would I ever have imagined this could happen to us.
The link I'm leaving here is a genuine organization of people that have lost a child. When you are ready I recommend that you contact your local chapter. (There is one in Gainesville)
It's just a group of people offering sympathy and support knowing how it feels because they have suffered similar loss themselves. It is not a group of people who are strong and 'fixed', many are raw and hurting.
They have no affiliations to anything, just parents (and other family members) who have lost children.
My best to you and yours.
Home Page – The Compassionate Friends
Jan 22nd 2015, 9:16 pm
#43
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Re: Life is fragile
So sorry for your loss. We went through similar when our 17 yo daughter was killed in an accident.
The link I'm leaving here is a genuine organization of people that have lost a child. When you are ready I recommend that you contact your local chapter. (There is one in Gainesville)
It's just a group of people offering sympathy and support knowing how it feels because they have suffered similar loss themselves. It is not a group of people who are strong and 'fixed', many are raw and hurting.
They have no affiliations to anything, just parents (and other family members) who have lost children.
My best to you and yours.
Home Page – The Compassionate Friends
The link I'm leaving here is a genuine organization of people that have lost a child. When you are ready I recommend that you contact your local chapter. (There is one in Gainesville)
It's just a group of people offering sympathy and support knowing how it feels because they have suffered similar loss themselves. It is not a group of people who are strong and 'fixed', many are raw and hurting.
They have no affiliations to anything, just parents (and other family members) who have lost children.
My best to you and yours.
Home Page – The Compassionate Friends
thanks again to folk on here for their sympathetic words.
Jan 22nd 2015, 9:21 pm
#44
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Re: Life is fragile
Welshgator, I agree with nutmegger, words are totally inadequate. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Jan 22nd 2015, 9:28 pm
#45
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Re: Life is fragile
Very sad to read this thread and see the stories of recent bereavement among member's close friends and family.
Sincere condolences to everyone affected.
Sincere condolences to everyone affected.
