petitefrancaise

I still get a bit surprised when people tell me that they couldn't just up-sticks and move to a new country as we have done, twice now. There's no point telling them that we get anxious/fearful about it too but do it anyway. My way through the worry is to get as much information as I possibly can, maybe get in touch with people, prepare, prepare and prepare... but getting on that plane to go to a new life has me shaking and usually a bit tearful.

I've had a few wobbly moments in the last few months and quite honestly if I think too much about the future, it's a bit scary. So when I feel this anxiety building I follow a friend's advice and say "this week, I'm ok".

What do the rest of you do? Just curious.

scrubbedexpat099

Never thought about it to be honest.

scrubbedexpat091

I try and not think of the future. I cant predict what will happen tomorrow let alone months or years away, so I try and just live in the current day.

When it came to moving to Canada, I just did it but probably would have done more planning now if I had to do it over again.

That said I am a worrier by nature and always have been as far as my memory goes so its really hard and takes a lot of work to live in today and not let the future cause worry.


Suppose if I was moving somewhere with an ocean between me and my home country things would have been different. Cant exactly just get home in an emergency affordably if the only option really is plane.

I dont even consider the move to Canada any different then moving to a state similiar to California, BC is more or less the same as the 3 US west coast states.

mrken30

I don't have any more anxiety living in the US than I did in the UK. Normal stuff like is my job safe, what happens if I'm ill. The only regret is I lost some personal item during my move. The actual move wasn't a problem at all. For me though I had a place to live and I knew I wouldn't starve. Fortunately it didn't take long to find a job.

Pulaski

I had expected the answer, based on the thread title, to be "a 12 guage by the bed".

The nearest I come to insecurity is occasional flashs of "WTF am I doing here?" They usually occur when I am on my own, for example when I was sitting astride the ridge of a roof demolishing the chimney, or slithered up under a crawlspace working on the plumbing. I just get this feeling that my upbringing and education in the UK hasn't prepared me for whatever situation I find myself in.

sir_eccles

Drink

petitefrancaise

There have been spate of vehicle break-ins in the last few nights, both of my neighbours had their cars "broken into" (they had left the doors unlocked!). Unusually, I had left my car outside the garage but locked. My dog was barking at 2.30 am and I just thought she needed a pee.... so I came downstairs, switching lights on, let her out of the back door and probably scared them off from my place.

It didn't occur to me to be frightened.

in terms of moving countries, some advice given to me a long time ago was that something will go wrong, hope that it's not too important and realise that in most cases, money will sort it out so make sure that the hiring manager isn't too tight fisted..... which hasn't been too far off the mark.

themadpooper

Xanex/therapy

scrubbedexpat099

Somebody has his truck broken into nearby last year, unlocked.

One of the local bears had worked out how to flip the handle, quite a mess. Not a common issue in London.

scrubbedexpat099

Well from that perspective London was far worse, so a downgrade. At least I could easily pope out and get a 12 gauge tomorrow if I wanted one. And I have my pup, also not a London possibility.

I had an accident on my ATV fortunately nothing serious , but made me think.

Just shifted half a cord of wood. now that is not something I used to do. Would not have know what a cord was.

scrubbedexpat100

I've never had the 'Wobbles' at moving countries, maybe just as well since we've now lived in 5 different ones lol

As you mentioned above, you can try to research as much as you can about your new location, but the actual day to day living can seem so different to what you find online etc... And at the end of the day, you just have to embrace change and try to enjoy the good, and the bad

A good quote I read once was, 'Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.'

Pulaski

Ah yes, my chainsaw has brought on more than its fair share of "WTF am I doing here?" moments.

scrubbedexpat099

Then bring it here

petitefrancaise

I like this newbie....

Please stay, I think we will get on very well!

Pulaski

Sounds to me like he's full of crap!
Dream on. ..... I just put a new bar and chain on it last weekend!