lisag8070

OK, OK when you put it like that....you win hands down...

britvic

We take that risk when our child gets an invite to a birthday party, like tomorrow for instance, I've never met the family but my OH has told me the child's house is in a really rough area, now we dont have much either so I'm not being a snob here just a tad worried, my Son really wants to go. I know what you might be thinking 'dont be silly you cant rap them up in cotton wool'.

Emma M

Yep, you're right

lisag8070

Can I ask, do you stay at the party or pick the child up later..? Is that the norm here?, I'm only asking as I prefer to stay with my DD (because of her age). and I just wondered if I'm breaking some unspoken Mom rule..

britvic

I've only ever dropped him off at parties, not unless it's at another family members house. I've heard many a Brit on here saying that the adults stayed as well

cybersecretary

Unless its a family we know well or there is another parent staying that we know well, one of us will always stay - even if its at one of those activity places. Not paranoia, I like to know my children are safe, and I like to see them having fun.

Neathborn

Maybe it's the company you keep Or perhaps I've been lucky as I've never had kids here help themselves to stuff in my fridge and for the most part, I get thank yous -- if the kids themselves don't say thank you, then usually the parents remind them to. I'm afraid I would have taken the balloons away from the child if, on my first asking, she didn't stop the behaviour.

Jerseygirl

I remember someone saying before you let your child go to a friend's house you should ask the parents if there is a gun on the premises...if so is it safely locked away out of the reach of the children. It makes sense to find out but it's not a question I could bring myself to ask.

britvic

I've just had a chat with the boy's mum and she said I'm welcome to stay, but I only needed directions, I'll see what's what when we get there but I dont fancy staying really.

britvic

I'm with you mate I couldn't ask

cybersecretary

Unless its a family we know well or there is another parent staying that we know well, one of us will always stay - even if its at one of those activity places. Not paranoia, I like to know my children are safe, and I like to see them having fun.

cybersecretary

Holy shit! My stress levels are now through the roof!

britvic

Strange didn't you just say that whats going on need I ask BE's playing up again.

JEM3110

So far, my son has only been to parties held at various venues around the area, not in the home, so it's Chuck E Cheese's, Gymnasium, Bowling, Cinema, etc. I usually suss it out when I get there, sometimes I stay just to keep an eye - if the party is well supervised and the other parents are just dropping off I often slip away myself...

He is going to a party next weekend at a friend's house - a pool party, I don't really know what the situation is re: parents staying. I am a bit concerned as - they have an inground pool and I'm not sure how deep it is, we don't know the family that well (although they seem normal), I don't want him to burn in the sun and he probably will ditch his baseball cap as soon as my back is turned! I will call the mother and find out more details.

Regarding the age thing, as my son is nearly 7, I feel a bit more relaxed with just dropping him off, obviously if the place seems safe etc. Often, he's pushing me out the door - probably not cool to have your mum around, or something! When he was (5 or younger) I would definately stay, this seems to be the case with American mums too.

cybersecretary

yes i am having problems, it will scroll on forever trying to take the post and when i hit refresh i think it post it and then will possibly create a duplicate!