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Spin-off thread: Women, have you ever been sexually harrassed?

Old May 25th 2015, 3:25 pm
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Old May 25th 2015, 3:48 pm
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Ok, I'll bite.

teenager at boarding school: the teacher told the entire class there was no point in myself and my friends studying as we'd just grow up, get married and have babies anyway. All the boys cheered.

Our bodies were rated as we left the classroom to go to the other classrooms by the boys, who stood in two lines either side of the door so we had to walk between them. This happened every day.

Some of us were smart, we were threatened with physical violence for being "bitches" and "up ourselves".

I actually saw one of the tormenters years later when I was at uni and had a panic attack.

Bus trips at that school were the worst.

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Young adult: au pair in france, sexually assaulted by my employer's father.

sexually assaulted on the metro

chased home by men x 2

mistaken for prostitute, taken down dark alley, managed to talk him out of it x 1

and there were numerous hand-on-the-bum hey you wanna ****? from complete strangers


That's just for starters. I know I'm not the only one.

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Default Re: Spin-off thread: Women, have you ever been sexually harrassed?

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Have you?
I am a man, I have been sexually harassed at work, it's not a one way street.....a woman used to run her hands up my back all the time, she was 10 or 12 years older than me, she was quite open about her appetite for men, more prick than a dart board comes to mind, plenty took up her offer in the stationery cupboard, did it make me feel uncomfortable? sometimes, but life is not a clinical event free experience.
Had I complained would she have been dismissed? Probably not.
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I would guess every woman on here has experienced 2,3 and 4.
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I would guess every woman on here has experienced 2,3 and 4.
Indeed. Rude, aggressive, predatory behaviour based on and related to sex isn't new or uncommon.
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I would guess every woman on here has experienced 2,3 and 4.
Originally Posted by Lion in Winter View Post
Indeed. Rude, aggressive, predatory behaviour based on and related to sex isn't new or uncommon.
We could probably all file a lawsuit or two based on today's laws.
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We could probably all file a lawsuit or two based on today's laws.
Hell yeah.
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Indeed. Rude, aggressive, predatory behaviour based on and related to sex isn't new or uncommon.
... nor exclusive to one sex...
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... nor exclusive to one sex...
How common is that for men from women, really?
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How common is that for men from women, really?
exactly
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I am a man, I have been sexually harassed at work, it's not a one way street.....a woman used to run her hands up my back all the time, she was 10 or 12 years older than me, she was quite open about her appetite for men, more prick than a dart board comes to mind, plenty took up her offer in the stationery cupboard, did it make me feel uncomfortable? sometimes, but life is not a clinical event free experience.
Had I complained would she have been dismissed? Probably not.
The summer after I did my A-levels, I worked in a clothing factory - 150 women and 4 male mechanics.

The blokes had to go to the toilets in pairs.

But it's ok, it was all just banter and a bit of fun...

I was a well developed, sporty 13 year old. 'Banter' was a way of life at school, during sport (outside school), all the way through my early jobs until I had kids. (And apparently turned into a fat hag )

Most of it was low grade offensive, the worst was a squash instructor who was obsessed with my tits and rubbing up against me as he 'corrected my stance' and a physics teacher who wouldn't let me do A-level Physics because I'd never go in the office with him.
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How common is that for men from women, really?
I think it's a lot more common than people would believe. Men, however are expected to be "flattered" that women make sexual remarks to/about them.

My boyfriend works in a very male dominated workplace. There are 3 women who work in the place, 2 in the office and one in the yard and about 40 men. One of the women from the office likes to come down to the lunch room, across the train yard, to sit with "the boys" for her breaks. A couple of weeks ago he had been in a pit under a train and was covered with grease. She walked up to him, in front of the rest of his workmates, and put her hand on the side of his face and stroked his cheek with her thumb and said "Oh Tony, you're so dirty". Now, had that been one of the men who did that to her what do you think would have happened?
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The summer after I did my A-levels, I worked in a clothing factory - 150 women and 4 male mechanics.

The blokes had to go to the toilets in pairs.

But it's ok, it was all just banter and a bit of fun...

I was a well developed, sporty 13 year old. 'Banter' was a way of life at school, during sport (outside school), all the way through my early jobs until I had kids. (And apparently turned into a fat hag )

Most of it was low grade offensive, the worst was a squash instructor who was obsessed with my tits and rubbing up against me as he 'corrected my stance' and a physics teacher who wouldn't let me do A-level Physics because I'd never go in the office with him.
When I said I wanted to go to law school after I graduated high school I was told that "Girls don't become lawyers. They're secretaries or teachers or nurses" Funny that...I'm a secretary studying to be a nurse.
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