View Poll Results: Women: have you ever
been raped?




6
35.29%
been touched sexually in a way that was unwanted?




12
70.59%
received derogatory comments due to your gender?




12
70.59%
felt unsafe due to your gender?




10
58.82%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 17. You may not vote on this poll
Spin-off thread: Women, have you ever been sexually harrassed?
#1
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Have you?

#2
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Ok, I'll bite.
teenager at boarding school: the teacher told the entire class there was no point in myself and my friends studying as we'd just grow up, get married and have babies anyway. All the boys cheered.
Our bodies were rated as we left the classroom to go to the other classrooms by the boys, who stood in two lines either side of the door so we had to walk between them. This happened every day.
Some of us were smart, we were threatened with physical violence for being "bitches" and "up ourselves".
I actually saw one of the tormenters years later when I was at uni and had a panic attack.
Bus trips at that school were the worst.
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Young adult: au pair in france, sexually assaulted by my employer's father.
sexually assaulted on the metro
chased home by men x 2
mistaken for prostitute, taken down dark alley, managed to talk him out of it x 1
and there were numerous hand-on-the-bum hey you wanna ****? from complete strangers
That's just for starters. I know I'm not the only one.
teenager at boarding school: the teacher told the entire class there was no point in myself and my friends studying as we'd just grow up, get married and have babies anyway. All the boys cheered.
Our bodies were rated as we left the classroom to go to the other classrooms by the boys, who stood in two lines either side of the door so we had to walk between them. This happened every day.
Some of us were smart, we were threatened with physical violence for being "bitches" and "up ourselves".
I actually saw one of the tormenters years later when I was at uni and had a panic attack.
Bus trips at that school were the worst.
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Young adult: au pair in france, sexually assaulted by my employer's father.
sexually assaulted on the metro
chased home by men x 2
mistaken for prostitute, taken down dark alley, managed to talk him out of it x 1
and there were numerous hand-on-the-bum hey you wanna ****? from complete strangers
That's just for starters. I know I'm not the only one.
Last edited by ExKiwilass; May 25th 2015 at 3:51 pm.

#3

I am a man, I have been sexually harassed at work, it's not a one way street.....a woman used to run her hands up my back all the time, she was 10 or 12 years older than me, she was quite open about her appetite for men, more prick than a dart board comes to mind, plenty took up her offer in the stationery cupboard, did it make me feel uncomfortable? sometimes, but life is not a clinical event free experience.
Had I complained would she have been dismissed? Probably not.
Had I complained would she have been dismissed? Probably not.

#4
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I would guess every woman on here has experienced 2,3 and 4.

#12
slanderer of the innocent










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thank you for voting ladies.

#13

I am a man, I have been sexually harassed at work, it's not a one way street.....a woman used to run her hands up my back all the time, she was 10 or 12 years older than me, she was quite open about her appetite for men, more prick than a dart board comes to mind, plenty took up her offer in the stationery cupboard, did it make me feel uncomfortable? sometimes, but life is not a clinical event free experience.
Had I complained would she have been dismissed? Probably not.
Had I complained would she have been dismissed? Probably not.
The blokes had to go to the toilets in pairs.
But it's ok, it was all just banter and a bit of fun...
I was a well developed, sporty 13 year old. 'Banter' was a way of life at school, during sport (outside school), all the way through my early jobs until I had kids. (And apparently turned into a fat hag

Most of it was low grade offensive, the worst was a squash instructor who was obsessed with my tits and rubbing up against me as he 'corrected my stance' and a physics teacher who wouldn't let me do A-level Physics because I'd never go in the office with him.

#14

I think it's a lot more common than people would believe. Men, however are expected to be "flattered" that women make sexual remarks to/about them.
My boyfriend works in a very male dominated workplace. There are 3 women who work in the place, 2 in the office and one in the yard and about 40 men. One of the women from the office likes to come down to the lunch room, across the train yard, to sit with "the boys" for her breaks. A couple of weeks ago he had been in a pit under a train and was covered with grease. She walked up to him, in front of the rest of his workmates, and put her hand on the side of his face and stroked his cheek with her thumb and said "Oh Tony, you're so dirty". Now, had that been one of the men who did that to her what do you think would have happened?
My boyfriend works in a very male dominated workplace. There are 3 women who work in the place, 2 in the office and one in the yard and about 40 men. One of the women from the office likes to come down to the lunch room, across the train yard, to sit with "the boys" for her breaks. A couple of weeks ago he had been in a pit under a train and was covered with grease. She walked up to him, in front of the rest of his workmates, and put her hand on the side of his face and stroked his cheek with her thumb and said "Oh Tony, you're so dirty". Now, had that been one of the men who did that to her what do you think would have happened?

#15

The summer after I did my A-levels, I worked in a clothing factory - 150 women and 4 male mechanics.
The blokes had to go to the toilets in pairs.
But it's ok, it was all just banter and a bit of fun...
I was a well developed, sporty 13 year old. 'Banter' was a way of life at school, during sport (outside school), all the way through my early jobs until I had kids. (And apparently turned into a fat hag
)
Most of it was low grade offensive, the worst was a squash instructor who was obsessed with my tits and rubbing up against me as he 'corrected my stance' and a physics teacher who wouldn't let me do A-level Physics because I'd never go in the office with him.
The blokes had to go to the toilets in pairs.
But it's ok, it was all just banter and a bit of fun...
I was a well developed, sporty 13 year old. 'Banter' was a way of life at school, during sport (outside school), all the way through my early jobs until I had kids. (And apparently turned into a fat hag

Most of it was low grade offensive, the worst was a squash instructor who was obsessed with my tits and rubbing up against me as he 'corrected my stance' and a physics teacher who wouldn't let me do A-level Physics because I'd never go in the office with him.

