Too Much Bickering - It Spoils the Fun of B Expats
Dec 16th 2007, 3:32 pm
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Too Much Bickering - It Spoils the Fun of B Expats
I haven't been a member of Expat's long but have enjoyed and learnt loads about Life in Spain. Thanks to those that share experiences and knowledge over the Brit Expat's Forum.
However it is quite noticeable that threads started with good intentions are hi-jacked or spoiled by petty bickering and sometime downright nastiness or take on a meaning beyond that intended.
This in my opinion takes some of the fun out of the experience and the 'community' must suffer for this. People probably leave too because if this on-line bullying.
Can we all be a bit more grown up and those that need to, ditch their egos please.
Is it possible to send a member bad karma - cos I certainly can think of a few that should find better things to do that just pick on people.
I hope most of you support the above sentiment?
However it is quite noticeable that threads started with good intentions are hi-jacked or spoiled by petty bickering and sometime downright nastiness or take on a meaning beyond that intended.
This in my opinion takes some of the fun out of the experience and the 'community' must suffer for this. People probably leave too because if this on-line bullying.
Can we all be a bit more grown up and those that need to, ditch their egos please.
Is it possible to send a member bad karma - cos I certainly can think of a few that should find better things to do that just pick on people.
I hope most of you support the above sentiment?
Dec 16th 2007, 3:38 pm
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Re: Too Much Bickering - It Spoils the Fun of B Expats
I haven't been a member of Expat's long but have enjoyed and learnt loads about Life in Spain. Thanks to those that share experiences and knowledge over the Brit Expat's Forum.
However it is quite noticeable that threads started with good intentions are hi-jacked or spoiled by petty bickering and sometime downright nastiness or take on a meaning beyond that intended.
This in my opinion takes some of the fun out of the experience and the 'community' must suffer for this. People probably leave too because if this on-line bullying.
Can we all be a bit more grown up and those that need to, ditch their egos please.
Is it possible to send a member bad karma - cos I certainly can think of a few that should find better things to do that just pick on people.
I hope most of you support the above sentiment?
However it is quite noticeable that threads started with good intentions are hi-jacked or spoiled by petty bickering and sometime downright nastiness or take on a meaning beyond that intended.
This in my opinion takes some of the fun out of the experience and the 'community' must suffer for this. People probably leave too because if this on-line bullying.
Can we all be a bit more grown up and those that need to, ditch their egos please.
Is it possible to send a member bad karma - cos I certainly can think of a few that should find better things to do that just pick on people.
I hope most of you support the above sentiment?
Dec 16th 2007, 3:44 pm
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Re: Too Much Bickering - It Spoils the Fun of B Expats
It happens all over the world.
From the mis spelling/punctuation pickers to the ego manic`s.
You just have to learn how to get around them and most people realise who they are, there not that good at hiding and don`t seem to understand how stupid they come across.Which makes it impossible to teach them the errors of there ways, usually they got nothing more in there lives than sitting here having meaningless digs at people.
I find them easy to wind up, sometimes they brighten up my day.
I`d say keep them here for entertainment use.
From the mis spelling/punctuation pickers to the ego manic`s.
You just have to learn how to get around them and most people realise who they are, there not that good at hiding and don`t seem to understand how stupid they come across.Which makes it impossible to teach them the errors of there ways, usually they got nothing more in there lives than sitting here having meaningless digs at people.
I find them easy to wind up, sometimes they brighten up my day.
I`d say keep them here for entertainment use.
Dec 16th 2007, 4:25 pm
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Re: Too Much Bickering - It Spoils the Fun of B Expats
It happens all over the world.
From the mis spelling/punctuation pickers to the ego manic`s.
You just have to learn how to get around them and most people realise who they are, there not that good at hiding and don`t seem to understand how stupid they come across.Which makes it impossible to teach them the errors of there ways, usually they got nothing more in there lives than sitting here having meaningless digs at people.
I find them easy to wind up, sometimes they brighten up my day.
I`d say keep them here for entertainment use.
From the mis spelling/punctuation pickers to the ego manic`s.
You just have to learn how to get around them and most people realise who they are, there not that good at hiding and don`t seem to understand how stupid they come across.Which makes it impossible to teach them the errors of there ways, usually they got nothing more in there lives than sitting here having meaningless digs at people.
I find them easy to wind up, sometimes they brighten up my day.
I`d say keep them here for entertainment use.
I haven't noticed much bickering on here. A bit of tongue in cheek friendly banter but nothing to get wound up about. It's best to ignore the wind up merchants
Dec 16th 2007, 5:07 pm
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Re: Too Much Bickering - It Spoils the Fun of B Expats
If you don`t like the comments of some posters just put them on "ignore", then you won`t see their posts.
It is only friendly banter usually, if its not then the moderaters or admin will step in. ;-))
It is only friendly banter usually, if its not then the moderaters or admin will step in. ;-))
Dec 16th 2007, 6:06 pm
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Re: Too Much Bickering - It Spoils the Fun of B Expats
Can't understand what the fuss is about,this is a great forum with lots of friendly peeps OK there is a handful that bicker with each other BUT generally it is jesting and makes some of us laughwithout them it wouldn't be the same,and I'm sure if they were to meet for a drink they would get on like a house on fire
From time to time there is a difference of opinion,isn't that the point of a forum , well I just love the ones with all the banter
I have had many a laugh with them , keep it up, is what I say
without them it wouldn't be the same,and I'm sure if they were to meet for a drink they would get on like a house on fire From time to time there is a difference of opinion,isn't that the point of a forum , well I just love the ones with all the banter
I have had many a laugh with them , keep it up, is what I say
Dec 16th 2007, 8:10 pm
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Re: Too Much Bickering - It Spoils the Fun of B Expats
Im quite suprised .... I haven't noticed any significant bickering on the Spanish forum. 
We have the odd flare up, but not too often
You're not confusing friendly banter with bickering are you?
We have the odd flare up, but not too oftenYou're not confusing friendly banter with bickering are you?
Dec 16th 2007, 8:17 pm
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Re: Too Much Bickering - It Spoils the Fun of B Expats
Have I missed something?
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Dec 16th 2007, 8:27 pm
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Re: Too Much Bickering - It Spoils the Fun of B Expats
A while ago we all had a bit of friendly banter, some of us took it further with some of the posters who seemed to enjoy it, and with others we were just a little cheeky.
The problem is that all too often people are taken the wrong way, so someone takes offence and it escalates, then people start to "gang" up and problems are born.
Last spring if someone had of corrected someone else's grammar or spelling or whatever then everyone would have had a laugh about it and people would have been called silly names, hell I don't think there is a single person who hasn't called me something, and have I EVER complained? Have I EVER reported it?
No.
Some of the problem is that people believe what they read, if someone's Sig line says something then they believe it is indicative of them, not realising that sometimes people do things because they know it annoys other people.
So what do we do? All comply with the general consensus and follow the party line?
One of the things I love about Spain is the passion of the Spanish, it is infectious and so unlike the passionless Northern Europeans.
So for some reason we travel all the way to Spain and pick up so many different customs but always we shun that passion, we forget the real reason we love the Latins.
As has already been said, if someone's posts annoy you then just ignore them, the problem is that we ALL have an ego, and we ALL want to comment, because we ALL think that our opinions are more important than everyone else's.
As much as it pains me to say it some of you need to post in the lounge, it can get a little hairy in there but it also puts a little bit of a perspective on things, gets us chatting to everyone. The problem is that some people can be very insular, VERY narrow minded and don't want to have to communicate with anyone they either don't want to have to or don't feel they are important enough.
I have joked about it before but the Spain forum is the ONLY forum I hardly ever get Karma in, now before anyone says anything, I couldn't give a crap about Karma, but it does tell you something................in the Lounge people just pop a little K message to say hi.
Now for a while I used to do gardening pages, I still have a couple to post but to be honest I just cant be arsed, it causes all sorts of people to post things that try and contradict what I said. I always said that the gardening stuff was just a bit of light advice offered for free, it could be taken or not, it was up to you, but it still brought a few out of the woodwork trying to "top trump" each other.
And that's the problem, so many people want to top trump and look good, I have made my mistakes and am one of the first to hold my hands up, but come on, do we honestly want a serious forum where only a few post and we just go round and round in circles discussing registration of a left hand drive car?
The problem is that all too often people are taken the wrong way, so someone takes offence and it escalates, then people start to "gang" up and problems are born.
Last spring if someone had of corrected someone else's grammar or spelling or whatever then everyone would have had a laugh about it and people would have been called silly names, hell I don't think there is a single person who hasn't called me something, and have I EVER complained? Have I EVER reported it?
No.
Some of the problem is that people believe what they read, if someone's Sig line says something then they believe it is indicative of them, not realising that sometimes people do things because they know it annoys other people.
So what do we do? All comply with the general consensus and follow the party line?
One of the things I love about Spain is the passion of the Spanish, it is infectious and so unlike the passionless Northern Europeans.
So for some reason we travel all the way to Spain and pick up so many different customs but always we shun that passion, we forget the real reason we love the Latins.
As has already been said, if someone's posts annoy you then just ignore them, the problem is that we ALL have an ego, and we ALL want to comment, because we ALL think that our opinions are more important than everyone else's.
As much as it pains me to say it some of you need to post in the lounge, it can get a little hairy in there but it also puts a little bit of a perspective on things, gets us chatting to everyone. The problem is that some people can be very insular, VERY narrow minded and don't want to have to communicate with anyone they either don't want to have to or don't feel they are important enough.
I have joked about it before but the Spain forum is the ONLY forum I hardly ever get Karma in, now before anyone says anything, I couldn't give a crap about Karma, but it does tell you something................in the Lounge people just pop a little K message to say hi.
Now for a while I used to do gardening pages, I still have a couple to post but to be honest I just cant be arsed, it causes all sorts of people to post things that try and contradict what I said. I always said that the gardening stuff was just a bit of light advice offered for free, it could be taken or not, it was up to you, but it still brought a few out of the woodwork trying to "top trump" each other.
And that's the problem, so many people want to top trump and look good, I have made my mistakes and am one of the first to hold my hands up, but come on, do we honestly want a serious forum where only a few post and we just go round and round in circles discussing registration of a left hand drive car?
Dec 16th 2007, 8:37 pm
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Re: Too Much Bickering - It Spoils the Fun of B Expats
It's been really manic Jon.....been working 15 hour days for weeks now! Haven't had a day without work for about 2 months.
The web stuff is growing all the time, plus the home user hardware work has increased dramatically cos I'm now covering everywhere within a 40 mile radius. Not out of choice or planning, just down to word of mouth recommendation really.
I'm permanently on-call.....I built the business on service, so I've got to keep the momentum going.
The web stuff is growing all the time, plus the home user hardware work has increased dramatically cos I'm now covering everywhere within a 40 mile radius. Not out of choice or planning, just down to word of mouth recommendation really.
I'm permanently on-call.....I built the business on service, so I've got to keep the momentum going.
Dec 16th 2007, 8:39 pm
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Re: Too Much Bickering - It Spoils the Fun of B Expats
It's been really manic Jon.....been working 15 hour days for weeks now! Haven't had a day without work for about 2 months.
The web stuff is growing all the time, plus the home user hardware work has increased dramatically cos I'm now covering everywhere within a 40 mile radius. Not out of choice or planning, just down to word of mouth recommendation really.
I'm permanently on-call.....I built the business on service, so I've got to keep the momentum going.
The web stuff is growing all the time, plus the home user hardware work has increased dramatically cos I'm now covering everywhere within a 40 mile radius. Not out of choice or planning, just down to word of mouth recommendation really.
I'm permanently on-call.....I built the business on service, so I've got to keep the momentum going.
Dec 16th 2007, 8:41 pm
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