The perfect Mother
Dec 5th 2011, 5:42 pm
#151
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Re: The perfect Mother
Believe me, I was actually controlling myself!!! 
It was your decision, and you took responsibility. That is serious parenting. I wish more young people were responsible. Personally, for me responsibility was far easier: a combination of pills and condoms.... Even having to travel to another city to make sure that the guy at the chemist wouldn't tell my parents
It was your decision, and you took responsibility. That is serious parenting. I wish more young people were responsible. Personally, for me responsibility was far easier: a combination of pills and condoms.... Even having to travel to another city to make sure that the guy at the chemist wouldn't tell my parents
To be honest I had to get my act together, I have a Gallego father and mother who were screaming and a future Gallego Father and mother in law, who were ready to cut my nuts off or string me up, or both.
I came home one day and found that my father had sold my car.....I had just had it doneup, and he sold it to a friend of his for his son, and told him that I did not have any need for such a vehicle.
Dec 5th 2011, 5:46 pm
#152
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Re: The perfect Mother
To be honest I had to get my act together, I have a Gallego father and mother who were screaming and a future Gallego Father and mother in law, who were ready to cut my nuts off or string me up, or both.
I came home one day and found that my father had sold my car.....I had just had it doneup, and he sold it to a friend of his for his son, and told him that I did not have any need for such a vehicle.
I came home one day and found that my father had sold my car.....I had just had it doneup, and he sold it to a friend of his for his son, and told him that I did not have any need for such a vehicle.
Dec 5th 2011, 5:51 pm
#153
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Re: The perfect Mother
To be honest I had to get my act together, I have a Gallego father and mother who were screaming and a future Gallego Father and mother in law, who were ready to cut my nuts off or string me up, or both.
I came home one day and found that my father had sold my car.....I had just had it doneup, and he sold it to a friend of his for his son, and told him that I did not have any need for such a vehicle.
I came home one day and found that my father had sold my car.....I had just had it doneup, and he sold it to a friend of his for his son, and told him that I did not have any need for such a vehicle.
You were raised in the UK and had, what 2 kids by the age of 21? Do you think that having the UK benefits to fall back on if the worst would happen helped you make the decision to have children so early?
If you lived in Spain would you have done the same?
A year or so ago I would have said that there are a complete lack of teenage parents in Spain. While that may be true in the North or in well-to-do areas, it definitely isnt here in Andalucia, well, at least in the villages. And given that there are no benefits, they must have very understanding families!
Dec 5th 2011, 5:55 pm
#155
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Re: The perfect Mother
Dec 5th 2011, 5:57 pm
#156
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Re: The perfect Mother
Not only that, it was just before Christmas when the brown stuff hit the fan, and everyone really enjoyed rubbing it in, I think it was to make an example of me.
Anyway, the christmas presents that year, were all baby stuff, I remember opening a box and there was a bright yellow potty in it. I was fuming, I think they were hell bent on making sure my brother did not make the same mistake as me............
I was supposed to go to my in laws later, but I rang them and said if they had bought me baby stuff as my christmas present just to make me feel bad, that I would not go to their house, my suegro said that they would not do such a thing, and then added that they would not even give me a turd in a box after what I had done to their innocent daughter...
Anyway, the christmas presents that year, were all baby stuff, I remember opening a box and there was a bright yellow potty in it. I was fuming, I think they were hell bent on making sure my brother did not make the same mistake as me............
I was supposed to go to my in laws later, but I rang them and said if they had bought me baby stuff as my christmas present just to make me feel bad, that I would not go to their house, my suegro said that they would not do such a thing, and then added that they would not even give me a turd in a box after what I had done to their innocent daughter...
Dec 5th 2011, 6:05 pm
#157
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Re: The perfect Mother
Is that the archaic idea where children had a mother and a father who, heaven forbid, might even have been married?
I have even heard that sometimes - in "families" - that the parents even had another generation older than them called "grandparents".
It may seem odd but I understand that the "parents" and "grandparents" actually used to take some pride in seeing their offspring (nowadays known as a "benefit resource") actually receive a good education and end up better off than their "parents" and "grandparents".
It seems like a silly idea to me - it couldn't possibly work any more
Dec 5th 2011, 6:10 pm
#158
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Re: The perfect Mother
This may be too personal of a Q but I'll ask it anyway
You were raised in the UK and had, what 2 kids by the age of 21? Do you think that having the UK benefits to fall back on if the worst would happen helped you make the decision to have children so early?
If you lived in Spain would you have done the same?
A year or so ago I would have said that there are a complete lack of teenage parents in Spain. While that may be true in the North or in well-to-do areas, it definitely isnt here in Andalucia, well, at least in the villages. And given that there are no benefits, they must have very understanding families!
You were raised in the UK and had, what 2 kids by the age of 21? Do you think that having the UK benefits to fall back on if the worst would happen helped you make the decision to have children so early?
If you lived in Spain would you have done the same?
A year or so ago I would have said that there are a complete lack of teenage parents in Spain. While that may be true in the North or in well-to-do areas, it definitely isnt here in Andalucia, well, at least in the villages. And given that there are no benefits, they must have very understanding families!
So the desision to have number one was taken out of my hands, as for number 2, if you have one, another does not make much difference, we were already married, and were enjoying being parents.
The fact that there were benfits in the UK made no difference to me, with my closest family being Spanish, the question of benfits did not arise, it could have been that Gallegos as well as other notherners in Spain have alway had a reputation for being hard workers, and it was drummedinto us that we had to support our own, and as I lived in Spain from the age of 7, it was sort of the norm for me too.
As you point out benfits are there in the worst case senario, and it does make the going easier, but I think that the desicion to have children with benfits in mind is only a certain group of people.
Dec 5th 2011, 6:15 pm
#159
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Re: The perfect Mother
What's this "family" thing?
Is that the archaic idea where children had a mother and a father who, heaven forbid, might even have been married?
I have even heard that sometimes - in "families" - that the parents even had another generation older than them called "grandparents".
It may seem odd but I understand that the "parents" and "grandparents" actually used to take some pride in seeing their offspring (nowadays known as a "benefit resource") actually receive a good education and end up better off than their "parents" and "grandparents".
It seems like a silly idea to me - it couldn't possibly work any more
Is that the archaic idea where children had a mother and a father who, heaven forbid, might even have been married?
I have even heard that sometimes - in "families" - that the parents even had another generation older than them called "grandparents".
It may seem odd but I understand that the "parents" and "grandparents" actually used to take some pride in seeing their offspring (nowadays known as a "benefit resource") actually receive a good education and end up better off than their "parents" and "grandparents".
It seems like a silly idea to me - it couldn't possibly work any more
They will have to support her and the baby in every way evan financially and with housing as the state does not in Spain.
Dec 5th 2011, 6:28 pm
#161
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Re: The perfect Mother
Hey I know! How about the ones that have blonde hair and blue eyes are the lucky ones?
Do you think it could work?
Dec 5th 2011, 6:33 pm
#162
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Re: The perfect Mother
Not only that, it was just before Christmas when the brown stuff hit the fan, and everyone really enjoyed rubbing it in, I think it was to make an example of me.
Anyway, the christmas presents that year, were all baby stuff, I remember opening a box and there was a bright yellow potty in it. I was fuming, I think they were hell bent on making sure my brother did not make the same mistake as me............
I was supposed to go to my in laws later, but I rang them and said if they had bought me baby stuff as my christmas present just to make me feel bad, that I would not go to their house, my suegro said that they would not do such a thing, and then added that they would not even give me a turd in a box after what I had done to their innocent daughter...
Anyway, the christmas presents that year, were all baby stuff, I remember opening a box and there was a bright yellow potty in it. I was fuming, I think they were hell bent on making sure my brother did not make the same mistake as me............
I was supposed to go to my in laws later, but I rang them and said if they had bought me baby stuff as my christmas present just to make me feel bad, that I would not go to their house, my suegro said that they would not do such a thing, and then added that they would not even give me a turd in a box after what I had done to their innocent daughter...
At the end of the day, at least they help you with all the little things that babies are supposed to need... but I'm sure your brother took the hint.
Dec 5th 2011, 7:09 pm
#163
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Re: The perfect Mother
and supply number 3By then I was forgiven......
Dec 5th 2011, 7:12 pm
#164
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Re: The perfect Mother
gawd, what a load of crap. Don't any of you know any normal people Do you all live or have lived on only sinkhole estates?
Do you all live or have lived on only sinkhole estates?
Dec 5th 2011, 7:14 pm
#165
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Re: The perfect Mother
Ya Vol!
