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My thoughts on moving back to the UK

Old Mar 29th 2011, 11:11 am
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Originally Posted by Mitzyboy View Post
Well there you go then ..... the whole of village life written off

I lived in a large village until I was about 18. It was nice in that you knew many people and even at that age popping down the pub was great, because it was a nice atmosphere

Then I spent the next 30 years in and around Birmingham, moving back to the countryside for the last few years or so that we were in the UK. I never came across what you mention, but experience tells me that because everyone knows you ... what you do gets around. So if you are extremely rude to one person, everyone knows and treats you differently

Village life is like a big internet forum. What you say or do can bee seen by everyone, as opposed to city life where you just get lost in the size of it and maybe dont even know your next door neighbour that well

In a village, to coin a phrase, you reap what you sew
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[QUOTE=bil;9271388]I spent most of my life in a fairly leafy village, and you can have it. The small minded petit bourgeois, the backstabbing neighbours... boy, when you have a problem there, you soon know who your friends are. When my mother had her stroke, and we were busting our balls trying to keep our heads above water, there were half a dozen people who really did something to help us. When we wanted to sell the land behind our house, we had a sustained campaign to stop us by the neighbours we thought we got on with. The 'funny' part was that it was lead by one who had sold off half of their garden not long before, and the members were all people whose houses were built on slices of other people's gardens. /QUOTE]

Doesnt quite add up.......village life is crap yet half a dozen people rallied around to help out in a time of need?

As for people campaigning to stop an individual selling their own property....impossible.
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I have to say that given unlimited funds I would probably live in England but I would spend a long time picking the location. I have had both sides of the coin in England, where I was brought up was a great friendly area of Sheffield and a wonderful childhood I had. Then I got married, and moved to a village on the outskirts where new housing had been built. Strangely the old locals were extremely friendly but the incomers were out and out keep up with the Joneses snobs. Moved southwards to Bexhill at the end of the seventies and met some of the friendliest people I have ever met then moved to Eastbourne to a road of some forty or so houses where no-one talked to one another and so one became more insulated and ended up with a sod the lot of them attitude. When we moved to Spain we did not tell anyone that we were leaving, not that they would have been interested.
Out of interest the worst piece of dislike, unfriendliness, call it what you will was in an off the tourist area part of Cornwall, I went to the bar in a pub and with my northern accent asked for the menu. I was told that they were not serving food even though they had a board outside. Returned to Rosemary and told her, she went to the bar and in her west country accent asked the same question and was given the menu. It is something I shall never forget.

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Old Mar 29th 2011, 12:10 pm
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Originally Posted by agoreira View Post
I bet all those neighbours spoke highly of you as well, I bet they are missing you!
Well, the big joke is that they wanted to stop us putting 4 nice houses on there, which at the time would have been a nice little earner, and I could have retired on the spot.

Now the rules have changed, half the land has to go to 'social ' housing, they are getting twice the number of houses (sadly we are getting a small fraction of what we would have got) and they now have a more down market housing group on their doorstep.

Had we been unable to sell, my fallback option was to sell the land for a pittance to the nastiest bunch of gypsies I could have found.
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Agree, the problem is people lump all of UK together, they know the part they come from well, and very little about the rest of UK. I walk the coast path a lot, and last weekend I commented to wife that people here (Bil, namely, but I put that down to him being a grumpy old, moaning shit! ) reckon people are unfriendly in UK, nobody speaks to you. During the course of the week, out walking every day, we must have passed hundreds of walkers, and not one failed to speak. Some just an hello, how's things, others quite long conversations. We sat outside a pub having food, again everybody chatting. I know everyone in my street, we all take parcels in for each other if out, (also know Ann the postie well) when we are in Spain I let me neighbour use my drive to park his car, he takes stuff to the tip for me in his trailer etc,etc. I just don't recognise the world some here tell us about, but obviously towns and cities can be pretty unfriendly places. Bil tells us everyone speaks to him now, but he's retired, he doesn't go out to work all day, he has time to spend chatting to people in bars, in the street etc, it's a different situation completely. Tell me where you came from Bil, so I make sure I never go there, sounds like a hell hole!

Yeah, funny that. People tend to describe me as negative and pessimistic. I say it's realism. I was in that village for the best part of 40 years, so I got to know the politics and so on of it. When you discover that a big slice of people who are nice to your face are sticking the knife in your back to their best ability, well, that kind of sets you against them.

Some areas in the UK are friendlier, tho if you are going to base your experiences on how nice other walkers are to you, well all I can say is, 'quel surprise!'

Try going to south wales. The people in the northern half of wales tends to be nice, the rest not so.
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Doesnt quite add up.......village life is crap yet half a dozen people rallied around to help out in a time of need?

As for people campaigning to stop an individual selling their own property....impossible.
Out of all the people we thought we knew well, 6 wasn't much, and actually included two we didn't really know that well.

As for the rest, well when you have sold off your land, or have benefited from that process, if you then speak against it it just makes you a hypocrite.

Plus when the hypocrites are telling lies to the planners, that gets really, really annoying.
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Well there you go then ..... the whole of village life written off

I lived in a large village until I was about 18. It was nice in that you knew many people and even at that age popping down the pub was great, because it was a nice atmosphere

Then I spent the next 30 years in and around Birmingham, moving back to the countryside for the last few years or so that we were in the UK. I never came across what you mention, but experience tells me that because everyone knows you ... what you do gets around. So if you are extremely rude to one person, everyone knows and treats you differently

Village life is like a big internet forum. What you say or do can bee seen by everyone, as opposed to city life where you just get lost in the size of it and maybe dont even know your next door neighbour that well

In a village, to coin a phrase, you reap what you sew


Mitz, not all villages are heaven on earth, and not all villagers are decent, caring folk.

When people talk of idyllic village life, it's often because they don't look carefully at what goes on behind the lace curtains.
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Mitz, not all villages are heaven on earth, and not all villagers are decent, caring folk.

When people talk of idyllic village life, it's often because they don't look carefully at what goes on behind the lace curtains.
And not all village life is crap either Not all city people are decent caring folk. Not all your neighbours where you are will be decent caring folk.

I'm sorry you had a hard time, but aren't you just generalising far too much .... I actually did know what was going on behind the lace curtains in our village because for a few years I ran and owned a furniture cleaning franchise. Strangely enough I got a lot of business in my village, was in a lot of houses, and got to know quite a few people.

What I am saying is that if you cause trouble, which is clearly what the people thought it was (even if it wasn't) in your village, then that's what you get back

Strangely enough though, there was a little village near us called Fenny Compton. The majority of people who lived there were not from Fenny Compton and it seems weren't interested in village life so hardly mixed with each other. They were commuters as it was relatively close to the M40
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And not all village life is crap either Not all city people are decent caring folk. Not all your neighbours where you are will be decent caring folk.

I'm sorry you had a hard time, but aren't you just generalising far too much .... I actually did know what was going on behind the lace curtains in our village because for a few years I ran and owned a furniture cleaning franchise. Strangely enough I got a lot of business in my village, was in a lot of houses, and got to know quite a few people.

What I am saying is that if you cause trouble, which is clearly what the people thought it was (even if it wasn't) in your village, then that's what you get back

Strangely enough though, there was a little village near us called Fenny Compton. The majority of people who lived there were not from Fenny Compton and it seems weren't interested in village life so hardly mixed with each other. They were commuters as it was relatively close to the M40
I am beginning to see a pattern emerge.

People often complain about curtain twitchers in the UK in the smaller villages or towns, and lack of acceptance from the locals.

Spanish people often complain about the same thing in Spain, and the cool reception they get when they move to a new area in the "aldea".
They

The ones from say, Madird or other Spanish cities, spend their lives without ever being really accepted in the village, and yet you hear stories of British that go live in these small communites, and the welcome mat is there, the fatted calf brought out (proverb) and they are welcomed with open arms, all this despite a lot of them hardly being able to string a sentance together in Spanish.

It is quite a mystery
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It is quite a mystery
Life is full of them so they say.

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People often complain about curtain twitchers in the UK in the smaller villages or towns, and lack of acceptance from the locals.
It is quite a mystery
IMO its mostly the fault of the ¨incomer¨ especially in the UK.

Some will be brash and pushy and demand recognition and attention from the natives, others will be so far up themselves as to be ridiculous, some will be scruffs and undesirables, some will be Guardian readers.

Can a stray animal force his way into a new pack? humans are no different.
Except that humans can smile, behave with decorum and most importantly be polite and welcoming themselves ......... these are the ones that ease into their new society.
However, many cant and they are the ones that will not/cannot integrate.

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IMO its mostly the fault of the ¨incomer¨.

Some will be brash and pushy and demand recognition and attention from the natives, others will be so far up themselves as to be ridiculous, some will be scruffs and undesirables, some will be Guardian readers.

Can a stray animal force his way into a new pack? humans are no different.
Except that humans can smile, behave with decorum and most importantly be polite and welcoming themselves ......... these are the ones that ease into their new society.
However, many cant and they are the ones that will not/cannot integrate.
I am talking about Spanish people moving to other Spanish areas, (no Guardian readers at all) not being accepted smaller Spanish villages.

Just like some say it is in the UK, but the British often talk about acceptance they receive as "all enveloping, and clasped to the bosom type of welcome, in those very same villages.
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IMO its mostly the fault of the ¨incomer¨.

Some will be brash and pushy and demand recognition and attention from the natives, others will be so far up themselves as to be ridiculous, some will be scruffs and undesirables, some will be Guardian readers.

Can a stray animal force his way into a new pack? humans are no different.
Except that humans can smile, behave with decorum and most importantly be polite and welcoming themselves ......... these are the ones that ease into their new society.
However, many cant and they are the ones that will not/cannot integrate.
My grand mother was born in that village. My mother was born in that village. In all I lived in that village from when I was 9 to when I was about 50.

So, I was no incomer. By comparison, they were. My crime was in having a large house in a much larger than average plot of land, running a chimney sweeping business, and not giving a damn.

Plus I was a guardian reader. I have to say you do come across as the kind of person that would see that as the ultimate crime.
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I am talking about Spanish people moving to other Spanish areas, (no Guardian readers at all) not being accepted smaller Spanish villages.

Just like some say it is in the UK, but the British often talk about acceptance they receive as "all enveloping, and clasped to the bosom type of welcome, in those very same villages.
I wouldn't say that our welcome here is 'all enveloping. ' I know I'm always going to be a foreigner, no matter how long I live here. However, the people smile more, they are more chatty, and our welcome here has been far kinder than when we moved to Royston in the UK for 3 years.
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I am talking about Spanish people moving to other Spanish areas, (no Guardian readers at all) not being accepted smaller Spanish villages.

Just like some say it is in the UK, but the British often talk about acceptance they receive as "all enveloping, and clasped to the bosom type of welcome, in those very same villages.
I think when foreigners move abroad to a village then they are just happy not to be ran out of town with a pitchfork.

While Londoners or Madrilenos going to the sticks in their own country probably expect to be greeted with open arms and for the locals to thank them for finally bringing some civility to their village

Different expectations
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