I want to come back
Feb 15th 2010, 4:25 pm
#46
Yaaarp
Joined: Oct 2009
Location: Trying to get the hell outta Spain!
Posts: 1,354
Re: I want to come back
A chocolate sandwich is a Spanish speciality 
And there are Spanish people who eat Chorizo and Morcilla every day which isnt so healthy.
An unhealthy person in the UK will be unhealthy in Spain. It will make no difference. Where they may have thought it was too cold to go for a walk in the UK they will say it is too hot to do so in Spain during the summer, there is always an excuse. Add to that, it hasnt stopped raining for 2 months in the part of Spain I'm in!
And there are Spanish people who eat Chorizo and Morcilla every day which isnt so healthy.
An unhealthy person in the UK will be unhealthy in Spain. It will make no difference. Where they may have thought it was too cold to go for a walk in the UK they will say it is too hot to do so in Spain during the summer, there is always an excuse. Add to that, it hasnt stopped raining for 2 months in the part of Spain I'm in!
Thanks for the kind replies and general support from some lovely member although I would be lying if I said that some of the posts that have been put on this thread were not hurtfull 
. I think some people should actually think before they post as right now I am very hurt by some people who have not bothered to take the time and read the post properly
. Like some members have pointed out I was talking about coming back to Spain not asking advice on how to lose weight or be healthier. I never blamed Glasgow for making me obese or unhealthy...Its a different way of life I am living here that I didnt in Spain. To be honest I am really put off this forum now by some of the downright insensitive and to be honest rather nasty replies that have been put on this thread
.
Again I want to thank the people who were kind enough to offer proper advice without judging.
. I think some people should actually think before they post as right now I am very hurt by some people who have not bothered to take the time and read the post properly. Like some members have pointed out I was talking about coming back to Spain not asking advice on how to lose weight or be healthier. I never blamed Glasgow for making me obese or unhealthy...Its a different way of life I am living here that I didnt in Spain. To be honest I am really put off this forum now by some of the downright insensitive and to be honest rather nasty replies that have been put on this thread.Again I want to thank the people who were kind enough to offer proper advice without judging.
(SNIP)
Last edited by Madridboy; Feb 15th 2010 at 5:14 pm. Reason: I will be the last to edit my own posts lol
Feb 15th 2010, 4:35 pm
#47
Senior Moment
Joined: Jan 2006
Location: On the edge
Posts: 20,460
Re: I want to come back
I won't ask again
Feb 15th 2010, 5:01 pm
#48
Forum Regular
Joined: Jul 2009
Location: Lincoln hope to be CDS
Posts: 292
Re: I want to come back
Hope you find a way of going back and being very happy x
Feb 15th 2010, 5:05 pm
#49
Not Banned (yet)
Joined: Aug 2008
Location: Madrid
Posts: 6,400
Re: I want to come back
Hi
Just looking for some advice really. I lived in Benidorm for a couple of years but moved back to the UK as my teenage daughter was missing my parents too much. However we have all had trouble settling here including my daughter. I alone have put on 4 stone in weight due to the lack of healthy living, motivation and being generally depressed about having to return to the UK. My daughter absolutely loathes being in the UK as well as my partner. I would love to return but would have to try and secure a large enough rented home with land and a granny flat attached for my parents to come often as that was the issue the last time. I would also have to find some form of work. im not fussed at all about what i would do as im a taxi driver in the UK so dont have any fancy big career to throw away. My husband would contune to run his home internet business which we done in Spain before. I know my parents would be so upset for me to return but honestly I just cant do this anymore here. I feel trapped and so unhappy. I am looking on doing this within 2 years. Any advice or comments would so be appreciated.
Just looking for some advice really. I lived in Benidorm for a couple of years but moved back to the UK as my teenage daughter was missing my parents too much. However we have all had trouble settling here including my daughter. I alone have put on 4 stone in weight due to the lack of healthy living, motivation and being generally depressed about having to return to the UK. My daughter absolutely loathes being in the UK as well as my partner. I would love to return but would have to try and secure a large enough rented home with land and a granny flat attached for my parents to come often as that was the issue the last time. I would also have to find some form of work. im not fussed at all about what i would do as im a taxi driver in the UK so dont have any fancy big career to throw away. My husband would contune to run his home internet business which we done in Spain before. I know my parents would be so upset for me to return but honestly I just cant do this anymore here. I feel trapped and so unhappy. I am looking on doing this within 2 years. Any advice or comments would so be appreciated.
Hi, I can't blame you for wanting to return as Spain does offer a lot. Especially as you say you can exist on your husband's internet work. But when you say you feel trapped and unhappy, is this because making the move seems too daunting? Maybe you could break in down into smaller steps eg
i) take a nightclass to brush up your Spanish
ii) perhaps learn something that could give you part-time income out there eg hairdressing, manicures etc. Posters here will tell you jobs are scarce, but at some time (we all hope) things will get better again
iii) Start looking for relevant rentals - but also keep telling your parents you'll only move when you've found somewhere that can accommodate them
iv) (easier said than done) save money for the move
Funnily enough Glasgow's one of my favourite UK cities; I found people very hospitable when I had the good fortune to work there. Hope you can settle down there even if your plan is to return to Spain eventually. And if Glasgow does get you down, why not allocate a day out in Edinburgh (or even Largs if you like the sea) just to escape from things?
Good luck
Feb 15th 2010, 5:15 pm
#50
Banned
Joined: Dec 2009
Posts: 34
Re: I want to come back
This is very sound advice.
It always helps to break things down into smaller more managable chunks.
Very good post
It always helps to break things down into smaller more managable chunks.
Very good post
Feb 15th 2010, 6:13 pm
#51
Forum Regular
Thread Starter
Joined: May 2007
Location: Glasgow
Posts: 110
Re: I want to come back
dear lynda
i hope i havent upset you bringing up what agoreira wrote,i just thought it was plain rude,when he doesnt even know you.
i hope you do decide to go back and give it another go,as they say you only live once,at least you want to better your life.
i lived in spain a few years ago,but we rushed into it with blinkers on lol,it didnt work for us so we came home.i now have 2 children and like you i want whats best for my family,i miss spain too.
were planning to move back out jan next year,but were definatly not going to rush into it this time,if you can make it happen then give it another try just dont cut all your ties in uk just incase,so youve got a security net if things dont work,but at least you can say you tried,and you dont spend the rest of youre life wondering what might have been.
good uick in what ever you decide,if you want any advice just ask,try to ignore the ignorant
elle
i hope i havent upset you bringing up what agoreira wrote,i just thought it was plain rude,when he doesnt even know you.
i hope you do decide to go back and give it another go,as they say you only live once,at least you want to better your life.
i lived in spain a few years ago,but we rushed into it with blinkers on lol,it didnt work for us so we came home.i now have 2 children and like you i want whats best for my family,i miss spain too.
were planning to move back out jan next year,but were definatly not going to rush into it this time,if you can make it happen then give it another try just dont cut all your ties in uk just incase,so youve got a security net if things dont work,but at least you can say you tried,and you dont spend the rest of youre life wondering what might have been.
good uick in what ever you decide,if you want any advice just ask,try to ignore the ignorant
elle
Please dont think that you have upset me. In actual fact you have been such a support.
Many Thanks
Feb 15th 2010, 6:15 pm
#52
Forum Regular
Thread Starter
Joined: May 2007
Location: Glasgow
Posts: 110
Re: I want to come back
(trying to bring the thread back on line)
Hi, I can't blame you for wanting to return as Spain does offer a lot. Especially as you say you can exist on your husband's internet work. But when you say you feel trapped and unhappy, is this because making the move seems too daunting? Maybe you could break in down into smaller steps eg
i) take a nightclass to brush up your Spanish
ii) perhaps learn something that could give you part-time income out there eg hairdressing, manicures etc. Posters here will tell you jobs are scarce, but at some time (we all hope) things will get better again
iii) Start looking for relevant rentals - but also keep telling your parents you'll only move when you've found somewhere that can accommodate them
iv) (easier said than done) save money for the move
Funnily enough Glasgow's one of my favourite UK cities; I found people very hospitable when I had the good fortune to work there. Hope you can settle down there even if your plan is to return to Spain eventually. And if Glasgow does get you down, why not allocate a day out in Edinburgh (or even Largs if you like the sea) just to escape from things?
Good luck
Hi, I can't blame you for wanting to return as Spain does offer a lot. Especially as you say you can exist on your husband's internet work. But when you say you feel trapped and unhappy, is this because making the move seems too daunting? Maybe you could break in down into smaller steps eg
i) take a nightclass to brush up your Spanish
ii) perhaps learn something that could give you part-time income out there eg hairdressing, manicures etc. Posters here will tell you jobs are scarce, but at some time (we all hope) things will get better again
iii) Start looking for relevant rentals - but also keep telling your parents you'll only move when you've found somewhere that can accommodate them
iv) (easier said than done) save money for the move
Funnily enough Glasgow's one of my favourite UK cities; I found people very hospitable when I had the good fortune to work there. Hope you can settle down there even if your plan is to return to Spain eventually. And if Glasgow does get you down, why not allocate a day out in Edinburgh (or even Largs if you like the sea) just to escape from things?
Good luck
and it has certainly brightened up my day.Many Thanks
Feb 15th 2010, 6:48 pm
#53
Just Joined
Joined: Feb 2010
Posts: 20
Re: I want to come back
you said you lived in benidorm,thats where im thinking of moving to,where did you live,is there anywhere youd recommend,what school did your daughter go to did she settle ok,i did put up a post asking for advice but the threads strayed slightly lol its on page 1,any advice from you would be great.
thanks elle x
Last edited by elle79; Feb 15th 2010 at 7:08 pm.
Feb 15th 2010, 7:25 pm
#54
Not Banned (yet)
Joined: Aug 2008
Location: Madrid
Posts: 6,400
Re: I want to come back
Actually these boards can be a great resource and we can all find out a lot from other posters here. Just don't get take it to heart if threads go off-topic or someone puts a snide comment in. Once again good luck!
Feb 15th 2010, 7:36 pm
#55
Joined: Mar 2006
Posts: 1,980
Re: I want to come back
Haha, male I am! For driving a taxi you need, drivinglicence B with the BTP authorization, a theoretical exam of 20 questions (In Spanish). For buying a licence, go to city hall to see if there´s a wating list. Or straight to the taxistand. Prices vary a lot, in Ayamonte € 20.000 in Madrid € 150.000 
Feb 15th 2010, 8:29 pm
#56
BE Enthusiast
Joined: Sep 2007
Posts: 773
Re: I want to come back
Hi
Just looking for some advice really. I lived in Benidorm for a couple of years but moved back to the UK as my teenage daughter was missing my parents too much. However we have all had trouble settling here including my daughter. I alone have put on 4 stone in weight due to the lack of healthy living, motivation and being generally depressed about having to return to the UK. My daughter absolutely loathes being in the UK as well as my partner. I would love to return but would have to try and secure a large enough rented home with land and a granny flat attached for my parents to come often as that was the issue the last time. I would also have to find some form of work. im not fussed at all about what i would do as im a taxi driver in the UK so dont have any fancy big career to throw away. My husband would contune to run his home internet business which we done in Spain before. I know my parents would be so upset for me to return but honestly I just cant do this anymore here. I feel trapped and so unhappy. I am looking on doing this within 2 years. Any advice or comments would so be appreciated.
Just looking for some advice really. I lived in Benidorm for a couple of years but moved back to the UK as my teenage daughter was missing my parents too much. However we have all had trouble settling here including my daughter. I alone have put on 4 stone in weight due to the lack of healthy living, motivation and being generally depressed about having to return to the UK. My daughter absolutely loathes being in the UK as well as my partner. I would love to return but would have to try and secure a large enough rented home with land and a granny flat attached for my parents to come often as that was the issue the last time. I would also have to find some form of work. im not fussed at all about what i would do as im a taxi driver in the UK so dont have any fancy big career to throw away. My husband would contune to run his home internet business which we done in Spain before. I know my parents would be so upset for me to return but honestly I just cant do this anymore here. I feel trapped and so unhappy. I am looking on doing this within 2 years. Any advice or comments would so be appreciated.
If you and your family don't adapt again to your country, and have you been happy in Spain (with all its defects and all its virtues) and do you want to continue living in Spain, do I ask you, why if you can change the situation (Spain at 2 or 3 hours of flight of UK, no?) why you don't back to Spain?? If it happens to the contrary that I visit or I live in UK, where I have been very happy (with all its defects and all its virtues) and when to back to Spain I don't adapt to my country, and I miss a lot to UK, I would make the possible thing to back to UK, and more having the security of a work
I think
Last edited by Relampago; Feb 15th 2010 at 9:38 pm.
Feb 15th 2010, 9:44 pm
#57
Ex Expat
Joined: Oct 2006
Location: West Midlands, ex Granada province
Posts: 2,140
Re: I want to come back
Life can be as healthy, or as unhealthy as you choose to make it, wherever you are living. IMHO, Spain is no healthier than UK, there are lots of fat, obese people in both.
http://www.typicallyspanish.com/news...le_23835.shtml
As for the great outdoor life, I'm still in UK, and I am out walking for many hours nearly every day, I doubt many here spend much more time outdoors than I do. Whenever we are in Spain, people seem to be tucked up somewhere in the shade trying to avoid the sun, or driving in an air conditioned car to an air conditioned supermercado/bar/restaurant. I see far more people out walking nowadays here in UK than I ever used to, yesterday I passed a local beach and there were loads of people out with kids. I think it's a bit of a myth that expats spend their time in the great outdoors in Spain, that certainly doesn't reflect what I have seen. Going by the threads in expat forums, they all only seem interested in Brit TV!
http://www.typicallyspanish.com/news...le_23835.shtml
As for the great outdoor life, I'm still in UK, and I am out walking for many hours nearly every day, I doubt many here spend much more time outdoors than I do. Whenever we are in Spain, people seem to be tucked up somewhere in the shade trying to avoid the sun, or driving in an air conditioned car to an air conditioned supermercado/bar/restaurant. I see far more people out walking nowadays here in UK than I ever used to, yesterday I passed a local beach and there were loads of people out with kids. I think it's a bit of a myth that expats spend their time in the great outdoors in Spain, that certainly doesn't reflect what I have seen. Going by the threads in expat forums, they all only seem interested in Brit TV!
I am also one of the people who, in the summer in Spain, is sitting in the house in front of the fan, or in the car in front of the air-con. I would not go outside at all in the daytime in the summer if I had any choice about it.
Anyway, to the OP, if you want to come back and can manage on your husband's wage, them do so, but be aware that things have changed drastically in the last couple of years.
Hope it works out for you.
Last edited by scampicat; Feb 15th 2010 at 9:50 pm.
Feb 16th 2010, 8:31 am
#58
Lost in BE Cyberspace
Joined: Jan 2009
Posts: 5,368
Re: I want to come back
Feb 16th 2010, 8:59 am
#59
Forum Regular
Joined: May 2009
Location: Whitley Bay for a while.
Posts: 99
Re: I want to come back
I don't know what to say, how do you all do it??? Lynda, yes go, be happy. Its grim and if you feel you were happier there then your children will be happier for you.
However, can I ask you all how you did it? I know it seems a strange question. We have abandoned our plan to go to Canada for many reasons which became very apparent after a health crisis and being forced to ask what I really wanted. Not others.
I have been doing a bit of thinking and Spain/France are emerging. But I cant take my work there and I am a bit stuck. I work in the NHS. Any wirds of wisdom?
However, can I ask you all how you did it? I know it seems a strange question. We have abandoned our plan to go to Canada for many reasons which became very apparent after a health crisis and being forced to ask what I really wanted. Not others.
I have been doing a bit of thinking and Spain/France are emerging. But I cant take my work there and I am a bit stuck. I work in the NHS. Any wirds of wisdom?
Feb 16th 2010, 10:50 am
#60
BE Enthusiast
Joined: Jun 2009
Posts: 474
Re: I want to come back
What are the Symptoms from SAD ? (IE:Living in Glasgow ?)
SAD can be difficult to diagnose, since many of the symptoms are similar to those of other types of depression or bipolar disorder. Even physical conditions, such as thyroid problems, can look like depression. Generally, symptoms that recur for at least 2 consecutive winters, without any other explanation for the changes in mood and behaviour, indicate the presence of SAD. They may include:
change in appetite, in particular a craving for sweet or starchy foods
weight gain
decreased energy
fatigue
tendency to oversleep
difficulty concentrating
irritability
avoidance of social situations
feelings of anxiety and despair
The symptoms of SAD generally disappear when spring arrives. For some people, this happens suddenly with a short time of heightened activity. For others, the effects of SAD gradually dissipate.
Symptoms of summer depression may include:
poor appetite
weight loss
trouble sleeping
--
DSB.
