Going home to die
Mar 9th 2012, 6:50 pm
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Re: Going home to die
I can understand that some Doctors are not willing to put their jobs on the line whilst the law is not clear. I could imagine a family with a lot of siblings and they don't all agree, then problems arise.
Same as the debate about people with alzheimers being given tranquilising drugs. Some relatives, like my Cousin will not face up to the fact that they are not all sweet happy old people who have lost it, many are trapped in a nightmare.
One funny but sad story. Went to see my relative, a lovely home (used to belong to Lord Baden-Powell). many are allowed to wander around the enclosed garden and lounges. One old woman came up to me really distressed. She said the nazis in here have cut off all the buttons on my cardigan. When I looked she had it on inside out and didn't notice the buttons. She still blamed the staff though when I put it on the right way for her
Same as the debate about people with alzheimers being given tranquilising drugs. Some relatives, like my Cousin will not face up to the fact that they are not all sweet happy old people who have lost it, many are trapped in a nightmare.
One funny but sad story. Went to see my relative, a lovely home (used to belong to Lord Baden-Powell). many are allowed to wander around the enclosed garden and lounges. One old woman came up to me really distressed. She said the nazis in here have cut off all the buttons on my cardigan. When I looked she had it on inside out and didn't notice the buttons. She still blamed the staff though when I put it on the right way for her
Mar 9th 2012, 6:55 pm
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Re: Going home to die
getting a gaggle of doctors to agree is the same as expecting a ledger of economists to agree.
some of the reasons for banning or not banning a doctor after a BMA enquiry seem as bizarre as the reasons for banning or not banning a solicitor
whilst a doctor has to work to his (old or new) Oath, he is also being pushed and pulled by the patient, the patient's relatives, the hospital board, the BMA. Sometimes it is small wonder they make the odd mistake.
some of the reasons for banning or not banning a doctor after a BMA enquiry seem as bizarre as the reasons for banning or not banning a solicitor
whilst a doctor has to work to his (old or new) Oath, he is also being pushed and pulled by the patient, the patient's relatives, the hospital board, the BMA. Sometimes it is small wonder they make the odd mistake.
Mar 10th 2012, 9:17 am
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Re: Going home to die
"sweet happy old people" it most definitely is not.
Mar 10th 2012, 9:34 am
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Re: Going home to die
Sometimes, there is just the one person left, widowed, old and ill. A nice lady companion shows up and befriends him or her. She takes them out and around; visits them in hospital or the 'residence', does little chores.
Gets the credit card... becomes signatory at the bank...
Cleans out the house, wallops the car.
Goes looking for another one.
Gets the credit card... becomes signatory at the bank...
Cleans out the house, wallops the car.
Goes looking for another one.
Mar 11th 2012, 12:06 am
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Re: Going home to die
Sometimes, there is just the one person left, widowed, old and ill. A nice lady companion shows up and befriends him or her. She takes them out and around; visits them in hospital or the 'residence', does little chores.
Gets the credit card... becomes signatory at the bank...
Cleans out the house, wallops the car.
Goes looking for another one.
Gets the credit card... becomes signatory at the bank...
Cleans out the house, wallops the car.
Goes looking for another one.
Fortunately I had the card marked of the person thinking of doing that with my mother, guess what....she has been nowhere to be seen since mum went into the home and I sorted out her affairs.
Mum is now well looked after and is nice and secure for the rest of her life, and anyone thinking of doing the dirty on her has to get past me first.
Mar 11th 2012, 10:06 am
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Re: Going home to die
That is just soooo true!
Fortunately I had the card marked of the person thinking of doing that with my mother, guess what....she has been nowhere to be seen since mum went into the home and I sorted out her affairs.
Mum is now well looked after and is nice and secure for the rest of her life, and anyone thinking of doing the dirty on her has to get past me first.
Fortunately I had the card marked of the person thinking of doing that with my mother, guess what....she has been nowhere to be seen since mum went into the home and I sorted out her affairs.
Mum is now well looked after and is nice and secure for the rest of her life, and anyone thinking of doing the dirty on her has to get past me first.
after he died they put a bill into the lawyer for 'watching the property' while my dad was in Spain - they claimed they had an agreement with him that he would pay them .......not one that I knew about for sure
I reckon they weren't happy with what he left them......they always seemed to be going to funerals though
Mar 11th 2012, 11:18 am
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Re: Going home to die
beats going to the WI, they don't have the wine and food you get at a good funeral
joking aside, does this person realise that there will be no one left to see him off ??
joking aside, does this person realise that there will be no one left to see him off ??
Mar 11th 2012, 1:09 pm
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Re: Going home to die
I had a good pal back in London who was doing well in life when divorce floored him. His four children took his ex-wife's side and he didn't see them for years which destroyed him completely.
He lost his business and went downhill until all he had left was some jewellery, mainly a diamond ring which cost a fortune, and a company pension which he spent in the pub.
He was living alone when he got cancer and I wondered who was going to look after him. But all of his children, now adults, suddenly appeared and looked after his every need.
He confided in me that they were only after his money but was not going to tell them that he'd spent it all. He asked me to sell his diamond ring for him and replace it with a snide so that his children wouldn't notice. I got 12K for it in Hatton Garden and the snide cost me £20. The 12K went in the pub safe.
His daughter would wheel him to the pub every day and he would be surrounded by his mates who ran his bets up to the betting shop. He left her the diamond ring.
He lost his business and went downhill until all he had left was some jewellery, mainly a diamond ring which cost a fortune, and a company pension which he spent in the pub.
He was living alone when he got cancer and I wondered who was going to look after him. But all of his children, now adults, suddenly appeared and looked after his every need.
He confided in me that they were only after his money but was not going to tell them that he'd spent it all. He asked me to sell his diamond ring for him and replace it with a snide so that his children wouldn't notice. I got 12K for it in Hatton Garden and the snide cost me £20. The 12K went in the pub safe.
His daughter would wheel him to the pub every day and he would be surrounded by his mates who ran his bets up to the betting shop. He left her the diamond ring.
Mar 12th 2012, 8:54 am
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Re: Going home to die
My aunts step-daughters mother died shortly after her partner. (There was no will) They had not married but were together a long time during which they bought a property. The step-daughter took the lot without consideration to the daughters of the partner.
Legally correct, morally reprehensible.
