Aladin888

Hello please I need an advise.
What are the options for someone on spouse visa but his partner has a serious mental illness (BIPOLAR disorder) and being aggressive not physically but humiliation and living in hell, spend all the time cleaning and cooking for her, I thought it's temporary but she start making it as it's an obligation for me to do everything while she's sleeping or watching tv .. if i try to speak, she say go home where you was ... I feel like I am a slave ... please give me options..


Thank you in advance

spouse of scouse

Sorry to hear of your situation. You haven't said what your plans are, but if you're experiencing domestic violence, are thinking of separating from your wife but still wish to live in the UK then the links below provide some information and options:

https://www.gov.uk/government/public...estic-violence
https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/im...ter-a-divorce/

Aladin888

Thanks for the answer.. my situation is I knew my wife on 2016, she was totally normal, loving and kind woman, she kept visiting me in my country every 2 months for a month at a time, she met all my family, by the way my wife has BIPOLAR disorder and she was ok. On Dec 2018 I got my visa.. and everything becomes upside down, she becomes aggressive (not physically) but she insult she oblige me to clean the pow of the dog and the house to wash ... and she just sleep or watch tv ... in addition her son threats me because i am Muslim. And if i try to talk she say go home .. and she start insult me my country my family ... her family and her kids estranged her before she meet me. She is totally alone since I came to the UK now nearly 4 months no one visit her I didn't see anyone try to call her... my problem is she make me feel slave and stressed i had diabetes second month of coming here because of stress, she start telling me I am a burden on national health service, lately she start living fiction more than reality and she thinks that There's a conspiracy if i try to talk to my family or friends I disabled my Facebook, she told me that my sister is my GF despite she spend a month with her and her husband and kids ... if i try to get a job she stop me because they will stop her benefits, I swear i stay hungry till she went to shop to buy me some noodle sorry for the details but I don't have no one here to speak to .. I want just to stay here without her sponsorship..


thank you in advance

spouse of scouse

I'm sorry to hear that things are so difficult for you. If you want to separate from your wife and remain in the UK, you need assistance to explore your options. The Citizens Advice website I linked to in my last post has links to specialist immigration lawyers and advises that it may be possible to receive this advice free of charge. Please read the links and follow the advice given. Domestic violence is not just physical violence, it's also emotional abuse, controlling behaviour and withholding necessities such as food. I would strongly advise you to visit your doctor and talk about the situation with him/her - if after seeking specialist advice you find that you are able to apply to remain in the UK on the basis of experiencing abuse from your partner then evidence from your doctor would be important. Your doctor may also be able to help you in other ways, so please do make an appointment to see them. Wishing you the best of luck.

Aladin888

Thank you so much for your advice, I am worried that I will lost my status here (visa) then they send me home .

Pulaski

Are you more concerned about your wife or your visa status?

Aladin888

If you want to talk about my wife i need a whole day to explain but I will go with it and make it simple for you ... I sleep with the dogs without food, clean whole house, wash her clothes and cook while she watch tv, I am not allowed to work cuz they will stop her benefits, I got diabetes type 1 injecting myself twice a day without proper food, I do everything I helped her but she treat me less than her animals, if i she wants me to go to the street without food or money or a job, I have to be concerned about who please? If her son threats me because of my religion, you want me to be concerned about my life or about her watching tv.. please when people seeking a help cuz in my country they don't treat diabetes and I want to keep my treatment here cuz i got it because of stress 24/24, people like you come to talk about visa and this shit..

Pollyana

Have you taken the advice given to you above and contacted Citizens Advice?

Pulaski

Then you posted " …. I am worried that I will lost my status here (visa) then they send me home. " It looks to me like you married a severally troubled woman so you could get a visa to live in the UK.

Aladin888

Yes sure I called them but it looks like they don't know anything... they said to call police or see a lawyer but I can't offer my food let alone a solicitor, just try to feel it when someone with diabetes is hungry, I don't want her to be in problem with police as she has mental illness and she doesn't need more stress I want a peaceful solution to have my DVILR without problems for her

Aladin888

first of all I don't know why a polish person like you stick defending about the visa and this things. Second when i married her you wasn't with me and you don't know anything about my situation that time but it looks like you're a bit thick.. ok before i marry her She was ok with me for years she visits me every 2 months for a month at a time, after I came here they made a changment in her medicine for BIPOLAR which make he situation worst and if you read my thread and use whatever in your head which i don't think it's a brain... I said I don't want any problem for her and I don't want to live less than a dog mister VISA

Pollyana

The people on this forum are all lay people. We cannot help you with a complex legal matter like this. You need to speak to Citizens Advice and see if they can organise for you to speak to a lawyer regarding your visa, and your legal position in the UK if you split fromn your wife.
Many legal firms will give a brief overview cheaply or free of charge, and you may even be eligible for Legal Aid.

No one on here is going to be able to solve your problem - it seems like you are basically asking what will happen to your visa if you leave your wife. We are not going to be able to answer that as there are too many other factors involved. That is why you need professional advice.

Pollyana

If you want people on here to remain sympathetic and to continue to try to help then I suggest you stop insulting them.

Aladin888

Thanks

Aladin888

if you come back to all my responses, you will find me explaining my situation and seeking some advices ... but for someone who is polish and try to be hypocrit and lick the boots ... by making me as a person trying to get a visa and stay here ... I think he is a bit rude not me. And if i want to stay i could do it illegally and live till i sort it out but i am trying to seek a legal way ... anyway my point is if somalone like him can't help at least he can read and keep silent

thanks