Where do you want to be buried?
Apr 2nd 2013, 8:10 am
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Re: Where do you want to be buried?
I'm very much of the 'once your dead your dead' school of thought so really have no concerns over what happens to me afterwards. I always think that what happens to people after their dead is more of a comfort to remaining family and friends than anything else, after all, your dead, you have no idea whats going on anymore (I admit this is coming from my occasionally radical atheist view point)
Don't want to take up a space in the ground anywhere, don't mind being cremated but have no need to have ashes scattered anywhere specific.
Actually considering donating my body to science (if they want it!)
Don't want to take up a space in the ground anywhere, don't mind being cremated but have no need to have ashes scattered anywhere specific.
Actually considering donating my body to science (if they want it!)
Apr 2nd 2013, 10:07 am
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Re: Where do you want to be buried?
My father-in-law did that ... only problem was when the time came they had too many bodies and wouldn't take him.
Apr 2nd 2013, 11:07 am
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Re: Where do you want to be buried?
Not bothered about myself at all either, as we don't have any central place where family are all together - although if I were to die before my parents I think they may have other ideas.
I really can't see much point in being here in NZ, buried or cremated alone without any other family here. Graves and memorial things are for those left behind and there's nobody I can think of thats likely to visit mine.
If himself were a gone burger I would however make every effort to get his ashes over to the UK and scatter them on home soil in the UK as it would matter more to his family, albeit that they are gone already I think that's what they would want and expect.
I really can't see much point in being here in NZ, buried or cremated alone without any other family here. Graves and memorial things are for those left behind and there's nobody I can think of thats likely to visit mine.
If himself were a gone burger I would however make every effort to get his ashes over to the UK and scatter them on home soil in the UK as it would matter more to his family, albeit that they are gone already I think that's what they would want and expect.
Apr 2nd 2013, 5:53 pm
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Re: Where do you want to be buried?
Not troubled at all. All that matters (to me), is that I die with £1 in my account.
I'm a firm believer that we are essentially an electro-chemical being, so our physical bodies have no relevence beyond that, vis-a-vis our ashes.
For me, I don't care where I die, or am burried, as long as I've enjoyed where i've been, and what I've done!
Amen. . . .
I'm a firm believer that we are essentially an electro-chemical being, so our physical bodies have no relevence beyond that, vis-a-vis our ashes.
For me, I don't care where I die, or am burried, as long as I've enjoyed where i've been, and what I've done!
Amen. . . .
Apr 2nd 2013, 7:02 pm
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Re: Where do you want to be buried?
I'm very much of the 'once your dead your dead' school of thought so really have no concerns over what happens to me afterwards. I always think that what happens to people after their dead is more of a comfort to remaining family and friends than anything else, after all, your dead, you have no idea whats going on anymore (I admit this is coming from my occasionally radical atheist view point)
Don't want to take up a space in the ground anywhere, don't mind being cremated but have no need to have ashes scattered anywhere specific.
Actually considering donating my body to science (if they want it!)
Don't want to take up a space in the ground anywhere, don't mind being cremated but have no need to have ashes scattered anywhere specific.
Actually considering donating my body to science (if they want it!)
Apr 2nd 2013, 8:13 pm
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Re: Where do you want to be buried?
I intend to be cremated & have my ashes placed in an empty magnum of Veuve Cliquot. (The previous contents having been enjoyed by my close friends). Not decided if the bottle should be buried or set adrift on the ocean's currents. Doesn't really matter as I'll be gone & won't know a thing.
Apr 2nd 2013, 9:23 pm
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Re: Where do you want to be buried?
I know it sounds like a weird question, but I met a lady today who is 85 and has lived in NZ since she was 12. I'm doing some research into expats' life stories and this lovely lady wanted to tell me her story. She has loved her life here and has kids, grandkids and great grandkids, but she is going back to the UK to , as she said, "end my days and be buried in the UK as I can't stand the thought of being buried anywhere than my homeland". I was so taken aback that I couldn't think of anything to say. But it got me thinking if there are other expats who would want to do the same? Mortality is not often something people want to think about so maybe people on here haven't thought about the question, but for those who have, where do you want to be buried? Or does it matter to you?
Apr 2nd 2013, 10:06 pm
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Re: Where do you want to be buried?
Die in New Zealand ? I don't even want to live here !
However if I do die in NZ I've written that my ashes are to be scattered in Britain, same place as my grandparents ashes were scattered. To bad my mum's ashes aren't scattered there too but my Dad had other ideas about where to scatter her ashes and wasn't for listening.
He basically scattered them by a stream where he proposed to her. Sounds romantic ? Not to me. Her ashes were just dumped on unconsecrated ground. Her ashes should have been scattered where her parent's ashes were.
Anyway
However if I do die in NZ I've written that my ashes are to be scattered in Britain, same place as my grandparents ashes were scattered. To bad my mum's ashes aren't scattered there too but my Dad had other ideas about where to scatter her ashes and wasn't for listening.
He basically scattered them by a stream where he proposed to her. Sounds romantic ? Not to me. Her ashes were just dumped on unconsecrated ground. Her ashes should have been scattered where her parent's ashes were.
Anyway
Apr 2nd 2013, 10:45 pm
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Re: Where do you want to be buried?
Cremated and then want my ashes to be scattered along the 2nd green at ilford golf club
The place where I got my first hole in one
The place where I got my first hole in one
Apr 3rd 2013, 1:54 am
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Re: Where do you want to be buried?
I will be buried wherever my children are (within reason) probably more relevant if I die when they are young. If we were in the UK and they were settled there then I guess I would be buried there but would definitely want something in NZ, scattered sonewhere. I would want something at "home". If I die at an old age and they are not in the UK (and we were) I would probably want to be returned to NZ. Have thought about it probably too much!
Apr 3rd 2013, 3:27 am
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I don't care really as I will cease to exist anymore, maybe put my ashes in a wine bottle 
Well said genesis 
Just had a thought, I could have my body parts scattered in parts of NZ and the uk, that would be different
I don't care!! I will be dead
Burned in a cardboard box and chucked of the local bridge into the river. Want a no frills, cheap as funeral too. Everyone dressed as inappropriately as possible. I never ever want a 'place' where folk may feel the need to come. Scatter me to the 4 winds and don't waste your time at my grave side.
Just had a thought, I could have my body parts scattered in parts of NZ and the uk, that would be different
I don't care!! I will be dead
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Apr 3rd 2013, 6:50 am
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Re: Where do you want to be buried?
Burned in a cardboard box and chucked of the local bridge into the river. Want a no frills, cheap as funeral too. Everyone dressed as inappropriately as possible. I never ever want a 'place' where folk may feel the need to come. Scatter me to the 4 winds and don't waste your time at my grave side.
Apr 3rd 2013, 10:42 am
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Re: Where do you want to be buried?
It's also about what will make the people that love us feel comfortable to though , isn't it ? It isn't just about us.
We make our wishes plain before the event & they carry them out, without the burden of having to make hard decisions and so they are then free to feel they have made the best farewell.
In my heart , we will be scattered on home soil. The people that love us are more than happy to help that happen and that is the more important thing for all of us.
We make our wishes plain before the event & they carry them out, without the burden of having to make hard decisions and so they are then free to feel they have made the best farewell.
In my heart , we will be scattered on home soil. The people that love us are more than happy to help that happen and that is the more important thing for all of us.
Apr 3rd 2013, 8:29 pm
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Re: Where do you want to be buried?
This is something I keep thinking about, can't make a decision and then decide to leave it. I do procrastinate exceedingly well!
It all depends on when I die: if before my parents then split me between NZ and the UK; if after then I'll stay here with Mr S I suppose.
I'm not too bothered really, once I'm dead then that's it. It matters more to those left behind, those who have memories.
I wouldn't like to go to medical science though I realise that is an irrational and emotional decision on my part. I remember being fascinated by the half dissected human heads [in formalin] we were shown in anatomy - still not sure why we were shown human heads unless it was to show the similarities between all mammals
It all depends on when I die: if before my parents then split me between NZ and the UK; if after then I'll stay here with Mr S I suppose.
I'm not too bothered really, once I'm dead then that's it. It matters more to those left behind, those who have memories.
I wouldn't like to go to medical science though I realise that is an irrational and emotional decision on my part. I remember being fascinated by the half dissected human heads [in formalin] we were shown in anatomy - still not sure why we were shown human heads unless it was to show the similarities between all mammals
Apr 3rd 2013, 9:32 pm
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Re: Where do you want to be buried?
Can I just offer some sage advice to those who want there ashes to be scattered to the four winds. Well, it's more for the people involved in the scattering really.
A very good friend of mine lost her Dad & his wish was to have his ashes scattered on Warrington's Rugby League ground. Her Dad was a former mayor of Warrington, so they got the go ahead. Unfortunately as the scattering began there was a wee gust of wind that caused some of the ashes to be blown back into my friend's face. Plus she was wearing flip-flops & ended up with quite a bit of her Dad between her toes.
She had to try & dislodge him without her Mum seeing it. Her mother is very critical of her daughter.
NB: Keep your mouth shut & don't wear open-toed footwear.
A very good friend of mine lost her Dad & his wish was to have his ashes scattered on Warrington's Rugby League ground. Her Dad was a former mayor of Warrington, so they got the go ahead. Unfortunately as the scattering began there was a wee gust of wind that caused some of the ashes to be blown back into my friend's face. Plus she was wearing flip-flops & ended up with quite a bit of her Dad between her toes.
She had to try & dislodge him without her Mum seeing it. Her mother is very critical of her daughter.
NB: Keep your mouth shut & don't wear open-toed footwear.