Work Explosions
May 30th 2017, 3:26 am
#16
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Re: Work Explosions
I like to think that I am generally unflappable, at the coal face of construction makes you pretty adept at managing the daily calamities of any project.
However I am currently on a reasonably stressful project with a micromanaging client who is incredibly difficult to work with or build any kind of rapport. I have to say it has become a tedious experience, and for the first time I have experienced dread going to work on some days.
Anyhow last week I had a couple of days sick leave (thanks to food poisoning) which gave me a chance to think and reset my compass a bit. I was the proverbial frog in the increasing temperature water but hadn't noticed. A couple of days to clear your head and get your perspective back is a great de-stressing tool, though you can do it with the trots also. Even the very act of me describing my client as difficult is a way of identifying a problem and gaining proper perspective.
In my younger years I would have blown up a few times a year as my safety valve triggered, but that's probably a lot more acceptable on a building site than the quiet confines of an office.
..and breathe
However I am currently on a reasonably stressful project with a micromanaging client who is incredibly difficult to work with or build any kind of rapport. I have to say it has become a tedious experience, and for the first time I have experienced dread going to work on some days.
Anyhow last week I had a couple of days sick leave (thanks to food poisoning) which gave me a chance to think and reset my compass a bit. I was the proverbial frog in the increasing temperature water but hadn't noticed. A couple of days to clear your head and get your perspective back is a great de-stressing tool, though you can do it with the trots also. Even the very act of me describing my client as difficult is a way of identifying a problem and gaining proper perspective.
In my younger years I would have blown up a few times a year as my safety valve triggered, but that's probably a lot more acceptable on a building site than the quiet confines of an office.
..and breathe
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May 30th 2017, 3:31 am
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Re: Work Explosions
This week I am going to drop an atom bomb on one particular c-unit
May 30th 2017, 5:14 am
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Re: Work Explosions
My advice is be nice to everyone as you rise, you never know when they might be needed. Arseholes are everywhere, slag them off to your missus. Build a voodoo doll.
May 30th 2017, 5:17 am
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Re: Work Explosions
Firstly, thanks all.
MAT - didn't quote you but you're saying what I'm thinking when calmer.
Yup, being treated like an idiot / child because your age is lower than the average is incredibly frustrating...It's hard to not sound like an arrogant jumped up **** but I'm really not bad at what I do and have done it for a decade now. I spend more time telling people how to do it than anything else, yet still have 'stakeholders' (lets be general) who want to just be helmets.
I can afford to for a period but don't want to waste savings so won't.
Yeah. I'm trying to settle myself to expect very little. But I don't feel I should settle for very little, but other opportunities are limited in the market unless I go back to sales side, which feels like a step back. This is the dilemma.
I can show frustration but never let it boil over. To date I've never done anything I'm ashamed of, apart from the odd day where I do **** all work and just surf the net but it hurts me more than them, I'm bored and end up sad that I've wasted a day.
Good point though. I don't wish to be nasty.
More good advice.
I'm going on leave tomorrow afternoon for the first time this year. 3 days in the UK with my Mum. Hopefully will help.
MAT - didn't quote you but you're saying what I'm thinking when calmer.
Yeah. I'm trying to settle myself to expect very little. But I don't feel I should settle for very little, but other opportunities are limited in the market unless I go back to sales side, which feels like a step back. This is the dilemma.
Never gone nuts at work. Never will. Had people shout at me and a couple of times I've shown more frustration than I would have liked at times but generally have play it cool.
As for joining in / trying to change others / screwing people over / or cutting off nose to spite your face ... as Mikey J once said: take a look at yourself and make that change.
As for joining in / trying to change others / screwing people over / or cutting off nose to spite your face ... as Mikey J once said: take a look at yourself and make that change.
Good point though. I don't wish to be nasty.
Anyhow last week I had a couple of days sick leave (thanks to food poisoning) which gave me a chance to think and reset my compass a bit. I was the proverbial frog in the increasing temperature water but hadn't noticed. A couple of days to clear your head and get your perspective back is a great de-stressing tool, though you can do it with the trots also.
I'm going on leave tomorrow afternoon for the first time this year. 3 days in the UK with my Mum. Hopefully will help.
May 30th 2017, 10:06 am
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Re: Work Explosions
Slagging off on here has been might helpful / productive.
I've actually done work today to get on before I have a few days away. There are only 5 unread emails in my inbox
Thanks.
May 30th 2017, 10:54 am
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Re: Work Explosions
i did 'explode'...not verbally...but via an email to my FD (Financial Director). A few weeks later i was made 'redundant' with 3 months notice pay, plus a further 3 months redundancy pay (all tax free).....with my skills and personality 
i foundd another position within a couple of weeks.....so i was laughing all the way to the bank 
PS this was back in 2005
i foundd another position within a couple of weeks.....so i was laughing all the way to the bank PS this was back in 2005
May 30th 2017, 11:12 am
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Re: Work Explosions
Someone else can be the butt of jokes.
Did you go on holiday with all the extra cash?
i did 'explode'...not verbally...but via an email to my FD (Financial Director). A few weeks later i was made 'redundant' with 3 months notice pay, plus a further 3 months redundancy pay (all tax free).....with my skills and personality i foundd another position within a couple of weeks.....so i was laughing all the way to the bank
PS this was back in 2005
i foundd another position within a couple of weeks.....so i was laughing all the way to the bank PS this was back in 2005
May 31st 2017, 9:59 am
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Re: Work Explosions
i did 'explode'...not verbally...but via an email to my FD (Financial Director). A few weeks later i was made 'redundant' with 3 months notice pay, plus a further 3 months redundancy pay (all tax free).....with my skills and personality i foundd another position within a couple of weeks.....so i was laughing all the way to the bank
PS this was back in 2005
i foundd another position within a couple of weeks.....so i was laughing all the way to the bank PS this was back in 2005
May 31st 2017, 11:08 am
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May 31st 2017, 11:51 am
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