whatever happened to...
...old fashioned good manners...
when i was little, i remember the only bad thing about christmas and birthdays was having to write the sodding thank you letters...my mum made us tailor each one to include a mention of the actual gift and why you liked it, etc etc... today, if my kids go to a birthday party, they rarely get a thank you card, or occasionally i get a text from the mum...one party they went to the mum handed out a printed card saying "thank you for my present" as soon as it was handed over, which kinda defeats the point really... i dunno, progress is all well and good, but i think teaching kids these manners is important...maybe it's just a brit thing...? MM, xx |
Re: whatever happened to...
Originally Posted by Madam Medusa
(Post 8353159)
...old fashioned good manners...
when i was little, i remember the only bad thing about christmas and birthdays was having to write the sodding thank you letters...my mum made us tailor each one to include a mention of the actual gift and why you liked it, etc etc... today, if my kids go to a birthday party, they rarely get a thank you card, or occasionally i get a text from the mum...one party they went to the mum handed out a printed card saying "thank you for my present" as soon as it was handed over, which kinda defeats the point really... i dunno, progress is all well and good, but i think teaching kids these manners is important...maybe it's just a brit thing...? MM, xx Never seen the point in thank you cards. A personal thank you always had more effect. Miss RK has been taught to thank people for presents...except me, of course. I just get a look of disgust. Maybe I should get something other than a Barbie Doll now she's a teenager? |
Re: whatever happened to...
Originally Posted by Madam Medusa
(Post 8353159)
today, if my kids go to a birthday party, they rarely get a thank you card, or occasionally i get a text from the mum...one party they went to the mum handed out a printed card saying "thank you for my present" as soon as it was handed over, which kinda defeats the point really...
that's odd - we get loads of tailored thank you cards (most of them are still stuck on the fridge) Mrs Flares can be a tad overzealous in recording who gave what whilst the kids tear the wrapping off and she does a great Columbo if there's a piece of the puzzle missing - i.e. who gave the Bakugan power ball set. Classier lot in Abu Dhabi though MM |
Re: whatever happened to...
Originally Posted by Madam Medusa
(Post 8353159)
...old fashioned good manners...
when i was little, i remember the only bad thing about christmas and birthdays was having to write the sodding thank you letters...my mum made us tailor each one to include a mention of the actual gift and why you liked it, etc etc... today, if my kids go to a birthday party, they rarely get a thank you card, or occasionally i get a text from the mum...one party they went to the mum handed out a printed card saying "thank you for my present" as soon as it was handed over, which kinda defeats the point really... i dunno, progress is all well and good, but i think teaching kids these manners is important...maybe it's just a brit thing...? MM, xx I suspect part of it has to be with our consumer society. Children seem to have hundreds of toys and are bought them for no special reason, whereas when we were small you really only received gifts at Christmas or on your birthday and that made the receiving more special. If you have been brought up with everything you wanted, why bother thanking for something you are likely to receive anyway from another source. I think manners are very important and that thanking people shows appreciation and class. Even a phone call or SMS to a friend is worthwhile. RK - it doesn't matter whether the child likes writing thank you letters. It's the principle that is important. Perhaps it also teaches that not everything is life is fun and that it's a small price to pay for being given a gift? - |
Re: whatever happened to...
Originally Posted by Meow
(Post 8353312)
I suspect part of it has to be with our consumer society. Children seem to have hundreds of toys and are bought them for no special reason, whereas when we were small you really only received gifts at Christmas or on your birthday and that made the receiving more special. If you have been brought up with everything you wanted, why bother thanking for something you are likely to receive anyway from another source.
I think manners are very important and that thanking people shows appreciation and class. Even a phone call or SMS to a friend is worthwhile. RK - it doesn't matter whether the child likes writing thank you letters. It's the principle that is important. Perhaps it also teaches that not everything is life is fun and that it's a small price to pay for being given a gift? - Why cut down more tress just to print something that will go in the bin...or onto a fridge. |
Re: whatever happened to...
Originally Posted by Roadking
(Post 8353327)
Not saying there shouldn't be a thank you, but a direct thanks, I think, has more power than a written card. Also, we don't exactly have reliable postal service here and kids are far more technologically advanced than when I was a kid; sms, email, msn etc.
Why cut down more tress just to print something that will go in the bin...or onto a fridge. - |
Re: whatever happened to...
No it's not a Brit thing - the French are the worst.
Good friends of mine moved to France several years ago, with their two (then very young) daughters. After getting to know some families in the village (having worked hard to overcome the traditional and ubiquitous hatred shown by the locals for all people and things non-French), they invited every child in the area of a similar age to the birthday party of one of their daughters (I think she was about 6 or 7). Afterwards, the French children all agreed it was the best party they'd ever been to, but neither they nor the parents who came to collect them said anything remotely resembling a 'thank you'. A whole year went by, and not one of the children, nor their parents, ever returned the invitation......... :frown: |
Re: whatever happened to...
Originally Posted by saudiflares
(Post 8353259)
that's odd - we get loads of tailored thank you cards (most of them are still stuck on the fridge)
Mrs Flares can be a tad overzealous in recording who gave what whilst the kids tear the wrapping off and she does a great Columbo if there's a piece of the puzzle missing - i.e. who gave the Bakugan power ball set. Classier lot in Abu Dhabi though MM MM, xx |
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A thank you of any kind is nice. When you are in a different part of the world personal thank you's can be difficult. I would love a thank you from some of my ungrateful nieces and nephews. If for no other reason than to know they received it. Every year I keep threatening not to send them anything anymore. If they can't be bothered to thank me, I can't be bothered to get them something. Of course, I haven't done it yet, would feel too mean!
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Re: whatever happened to...
Originally Posted by 1chumly
(Post 8353606)
A thank you of any kind is nice. When you are in a different part of the world personal thank you's can be difficult. I would love a thank you from some of my ungrateful nieces and nephews. If for no other reason than to know they received it. Every year I keep threatening not to send them anything anymore. If they can't be bothered to thank me, I can't be bothered to get them something. Of course, I haven't done it yet, would feel too mean!
MM, xx |
Re: whatever happened to...
Originally Posted by Madam Medusa
(Post 8353758)
yeah, that's the other part of it, you don't know they received it unless they say thank you...ignorant little sods...
MM, xx There's actually nothing I hate more than an awkward, churned out thank-you note because you know, deep down that the child considers it a chore to write. I'd rather hear a hasty "aww, thanks!" as the person tears off the wrapping paper than a brief fill-in-the-spaces note through the post weeks later. |
Re: whatever happened to...
Originally Posted by Hello.Kitty
(Post 8353886)
I have always thanked in person and will get my kids to do so too.
There's actually nothing I hate more than an awkward, churned out thank-you note because you know, deep down that the child considers it a chore to write. I'd rather hear a hasty "aww, thanks!" as the person tears off the wrapping paper than a brief fill-in-the-spaces note through the post weeks later. |
Re: whatever happened to...
Originally Posted by Hello.Kitty
(Post 8353886)
I have always thanked in person and will get my kids to do so too.
There's actually nothing I hate more than an awkward, churned out thank-you note because you know, deep down that the child considers it a chore to write. I'd rather hear a hasty "aww, thanks!" as the person tears off the wrapping paper than a brief fill-in-the-spaces note through the post weeks later. and that is my point, it is a chore for the kid to write, as they have a million other things to do...but it's a chore for the person to go out and buy the present in the first place...it's a chore for kids to eat healthy food, but we make them do that too...good manners mean you send a thank you (of whatever format)... MM, xx |
Re: whatever happened to...
Originally Posted by Madam Medusa
(Post 8354168)
rather presupposes you are there when they are actually opening the present though...
and that is my point, it is a chore for the kid to write, as they have a million other things to do...but it's a chore for the person to go out and buy the present in the first place...it's a chore for kids to eat healthy food, but we make them do that too...good manners mean you send a thank you (of whatever format)... MM, xx |
Re: whatever happened to...
Originally Posted by shakh your bootie
(Post 8354199)
Wouldn't a FB post or a tweet do nowadays, rather than a proper note? Think of the carbon footprint of all those "Thanks for my Bratz disco-diva outfit" thank you notes being disseminated amongst middle class children.....
MM, xx |
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