whatever happened to...
#16
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Re: whatever happened to...
not wishing to spoil the moment but I certently disapprove of those B'day, xmas and thank you cards: they r just a bloody waste of paper and r just a result of capitalism. I was brought up in Italy where we dont have such traditions and I dont think I am a less polite person than any other who was taught to write thank you cards. And tbh a lot of the "thank you and please" we ear are said with no meaning. If you went to Italy you would probably think: what a buch or rude people, but actually if you ever have a problem, strangers do go out of their way to help you...thats what really counts.
This morning I was about to get on the bus in Oxford with my 19months and 4months old sons- it was pooring down with rain- the bus driver refused to take my five pound note because he refused to give me £2.50 change_ and this is common practice here in Oxford. If I am in a public place and my son cryes I feel all the eyes of people on me as to say: what the bloody hell r you doing here, take your screeming child away.....but then they are very quick at using their thank you......
I guess that what Im trying to say is that sometimes actions are more meaningful than words...
btw I am not intending to upset any brits, I do have a lot of respect for you guys.
This morning I was about to get on the bus in Oxford with my 19months and 4months old sons- it was pooring down with rain- the bus driver refused to take my five pound note because he refused to give me £2.50 change_ and this is common practice here in Oxford. If I am in a public place and my son cryes I feel all the eyes of people on me as to say: what the bloody hell r you doing here, take your screeming child away.....but then they are very quick at using their thank you......
I guess that what Im trying to say is that sometimes actions are more meaningful than words...
btw I am not intending to upset any brits, I do have a lot of respect for you guys.
#17
Re: whatever happened to...
Filling in the gaps on a pre-printed pad isn't a thank you imo... it says nothing apart from "my mum has told me I need to do this"
Also, I don't think "learning manners" or being polite should be a chore, it should be spontaneous and pleasurable.
#20
Re: whatever happened to...
not wishing to spoil the moment but I certently disapprove of those B'day, xmas and thank you cards: they r just a bloody waste of paper and r just a result of capitalism. I was brought up in Italy where we dont have such traditions and I dont think I am a less polite person than any other who was taught to write thank you cards. And tbh a lot of the "thank you and please" we ear are said with no meaning. If you went to Italy you would probably think: what a buch or rude people, but actually if you ever have a problem, strangers do go out of their way to help you...thats what really counts.
This morning I was about to get on the bus in Oxford with my 19months and 4months old sons- it was pooring down with rain- the bus driver refused to take my five pound note because he refused to give me £2.50 change_ and this is common practice here in Oxford. If I am in a public place and my son cryes I feel all the eyes of people on me as to say: what the bloody hell r you doing here, take your screeming child away.....but then they are very quick at using their thank you......
I guess that what Im trying to say is that sometimes actions are more meaningful than words...
btw I am not intending to upset any brits, I do have a lot of respect for you guys.
This morning I was about to get on the bus in Oxford with my 19months and 4months old sons- it was pooring down with rain- the bus driver refused to take my five pound note because he refused to give me £2.50 change_ and this is common practice here in Oxford. If I am in a public place and my son cryes I feel all the eyes of people on me as to say: what the bloody hell r you doing here, take your screeming child away.....but then they are very quick at using their thank you......
I guess that what Im trying to say is that sometimes actions are more meaningful than words...
btw I am not intending to upset any brits, I do have a lot of respect for you guys.
#26
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Re: whatever happened to...
Thank you notes and all that was pretty common among my sister and her friends when they were at school and university and afterwards sharing cramped flats in London. Whenever a gaggle of girls came around the house for a weekend or dinner in due time M would get a bunch of thank you notes. I even sent a few myself after spending a weekend at a friend's parents place at the prodding of M (and this reminds me of the time I accidentally slipped 20 quid along with the note when I slipped it into the post box).
I don't think the lack of notes is indicative of poor manners. Saying thank you for a great dinner or weekend when you leave is fine. The notes are cultural more than mannerism.
But it's a tradition that is dying out. There's a big cultural gap between people my sister's generation who came of age in the mid 1990s and those coming of age today. I blame it on New Labour.
I don't think the lack of notes is indicative of poor manners. Saying thank you for a great dinner or weekend when you leave is fine. The notes are cultural more than mannerism.
But it's a tradition that is dying out. There's a big cultural gap between people my sister's generation who came of age in the mid 1990s and those coming of age today. I blame it on New Labour.
#27
Re: whatever happened to...
a related issue I have.... I am always doing the polite thing of holding doors open for people and it irritates me no end when they don't even acknowledge you or say thank you....
you know a simple thank you wouldn't kill you....
you know a simple thank you wouldn't kill you....
#29
Re: whatever happened to...
MM, xx