maudawia

If you betray someone, it is often best to come clean. Accept responsibility for personal failure and personally apologize. Demonstrate how you will fix process failure, and offer compensation.
The alternatives to these recovery actions may cost you much more.it costs you may be your life ,
Trust is fragile and can be lost instantly or there is a hysterisis whereby a long-earned trust may be eroded and then suddenly lost.
we all suffering of this misbehavior ......

maudawia

betrayal can destroy a marriage, family and community .

auzdafluff

Is this about something in particular, or you just preaching?

Seagull_smash

I have a feeling it might develop into something quite special over the next few days. This guy is a trailblazer, a real maverick. I look forward to the next installment.

Boomhauer

Well hopefully it wasn't your dog/cat, cause wife/girlfriend betrayal is one thing but if your pet betrays you, thats the worst thing in the world.

lullabelle

Ahhhh

no

this is a "maid is shagging the husband/teenage son/doorman" thread...

But because this is British Expats and not the whingywoman one, it has been dressed up as a lecture in the psycology of betrayal.

So, yeah betrayal is BAD. Have you thought about installing a nannycam?

slapphead_otool

Can you point me to the whinywoman one?

Does it have the optional Zumba classes and Friday brunches for the girls in it?

maudawia

no it no't iam Discussing it at as a general cause of betraying or treason , i know it is bad and but iwant to read diifferent views ... thanks

maudawia

trailblazer , a real maverick ... it is great of u

maudawia

just preaching

UKCityGent

The fruitcake of 2012 - perhaps with too much brandy ?

maudawia

may be ..may not

Norm_uk

Always best to come clean....but at the same time what someone doesn't know cannot hurt them.

Obviously it depends on the nature of the betrayal I suppose.

N.

slapphead_otool

There is always something Shakesperian about a major betrayal, but something sordid about a minor one.

maudawia

In William Shakespeare's play King Lear (circa 1600), when the King learns that his daughter Regan has publicly dishonoured him, he says They could not, would not do 't; 'tis worse than murder: a conventional attitude at that time. In Dante Alighieri's Inferno, the ninth and lowest circle of Hell is reserved for traitors; Judas Iscariot, who betrayed Jesus, suffers the worst torments of all: being constantly gnawed at by one of Lucifer's own three mouths. His treachery is considered so notorious that his name has long been synonymous with traitor, a fate he shares with Benedict Arnold, Marcus Junius Brutus (who too is depicted in Dante's Inferno, suffering the same fate as Judas along with Cassius Longinus), and Vidkun Quisling. Indeed, the etymology of the word traitor originates with Judas' handing over of Jesus to the Roman authorities: the word is derived from the Latin traditor which means "one who delivers."[2] Christian theology and political thinking until after the Enlightenment considered treason and blasphemy as synonymous, as it challenged both the state and the will of God. Kings were considered chosen by God and to betray one's country was to do the work of Satan.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Treason