MataHari

tut tut...

TGFKASE

Lebo's don't count....

Try somewhere other than Boudoir.....

MataHari

I don't ask for passports...

not been there for ages...think it must have been a year ago...

TGFKASE

If hotels can, I think its only fair that we can ask for passports to confirm the identity of people...

So, where is the selectionne du jour nowadays? Obviously not Noveau Dubai, as I think I would have spotted you in Nelsons...

MataHari

nah...don't even know where that is...
but I am all over the place otherwise...variety is the spice etc...

Sarahb79

Hi. Don't know how the alarm search is going and poss not much help but M and S in the Uk are now selling personal alarms. Bout the size of your finger I think and will fit on your keys easily. Obviously don't know if they'll sell them in Dubai as I'm still in Uk but though might be of some use.

It might be worth seeing if the police have a supply too? You never know.

Emerald_Eyes

Thanks Sarah, I'm going on holiday with my parents next week so my dad is going to bring one over for me. I spotted the M&S ones, they look quite cool, almost like very slim mobiles that link to your key ring. I've suggested that one, but who knows. Haven't spotted him again lately, so I'm quite relieved.

Spugsy

Maybe you could get a gun?

Nic1

sounds more like Saudi every day . . . . "Hello, you want to be my friend ?"

N

mohogony

If he approaches you again tell him your married and your husband does'nt like you talking to other men, l think thats a way of telling him to go away without making him feel you have rejected him so l doubt he would get angry or upset.

admon

You obviously don't live here.

Having a nice discussion with these men to try and ward them off generally doesn't discourage them - it actually gives them hope and the next step in their psyche is likely to be ''but we do not have to tell your husband'' (so the wife has told me). These pricks don't give a F whether the woman is married or not.

Unfortunately, it's the F off or I will scream/tell that big bloke over there you are harassing me/threaten to call the police that does the trick.

kittycat1

Hi Emerald- this sounds awful- I hope you haven't had any more trouble.

I had a stalker in London which was horrible- I had to get the police involved in the end which was an ordeal in itself- they made me feel like id encouraged him and made me feel very much like a stupid little girl.

I know its very different over there but they gave me a few tips.

If a guy talks to you ie do you know where this place is, always say no and don't start a conversation with them- look them in the face so you can give a good description of him, as someone mentioned taking his registration number would be a good idea. Never give away any personal information about yourself. Don't feel the need to be friendly. If you are on your way home and close to your flat do not let him see where you are going ( take a detour to the shop). If he is really loitering be assertive and go straight up to him and ask him if he is following you- loud enough for other people to hear.

If you walk away from them, and they are behind you and they follow you, stop look him in the face and let him walk by. If they continue to follow you then you should face them straight on looking in the face and firmly and loudly say - Leave me alone- I dont know you- hands up in front of your body as if you are pushing him away- this body language is firm and a clear no. This is important as if you say leave me alone on its own people around you may assume you are together and havinga barny, so make sure you say clearly and loudly that this is unwanted attention from a stranger.

Shouting for help has been shown to be pretty useless- however screaming Fire really loudly is much more effective. If you use a rape alarm try to hold it next to his ear so that is has a deafening effect on him.

As tempting as it is to call a friend do not make a call whilst he is near to you as this makes you more vunerable, although have your mobile handy. If you still feel vunerable go into the nearest place where there are other people and call the police, or hail a taxi even if you are only going a short distance.
If you feel you have someone stalking you make sure you vary your schedule- theres no point saying your married as if he is watching you he willknow you aren't. So just try to do things at different times each week.

You should also report everything to the police no matter how trivial you think it is. Better to report it early and then keep a diary of events- times and places where you have seen him. You are more likely to geta prosecution against a guy with this info.

If you feel it is a mugging then they suggest throwing your bag behind the mugger and run in the opposite direction.

In the event of him assaulting you, there are 3 very effective but basic manouevres,

stamping hard on his foot ( I mean really hard) this will give you time to run a way.
Knee to the groin- always effective and runa away.
Palm of your hand thrust up to his nose- again hard. This will break his nose and yep- run away.

As soon as you can run away. And call the police as soon as you feel safe (in a populated area).

Basically be assertive, be confident and be positive, if he feels you are in control he will be more likely to leave you alone, if you seem vunerable and submissive he will see you as an easy target.

If you are interested in doing a self defence class I'd be happy to join you.

Kittycat
xxx

spart

Yep.

It has happened a few times now to friends of ours - single girls who live alone. They have been quiet badly shaken, as the message has now gotten around.

Emerald_Eyes

Thanks Kittycat - the self defense class sounds awesome!

I carry a personal alarm on my keys now. After I posted this thread I went away on holiday for over two weeks and I haven't seen the guy since, so hopefully he's disappeared.

Ray

I just showed my wife this thread ..she is shocked you ladies don't carry a
.38 for pecker shootin or even pepper spray ....