OriginalSunshine

It was meant to be boorish. I get dismissed and ignored by women because their husband is a paygrade above mine. There are people truly that shallow. I'm quite happy to be boorish to, or even quite frankly ignore, people like that.

Millhouse - lol. It prob does come across as a chip, but the outrageous sexism from men & women (as Meow describes) is just so freaking wearisome.

Theseus - nice try.

weasel decentral

Well it can be successful in my ways in my opinion even if you get hurt maybe its the price of getting some self awareness and growing up a little. So in general the benefits outweigh the negatives.
If you can look back at it and not regret that you met in the first place then maybe it was successful.

scrubbedexpat141

I don't care what you earn. Genuinely. (Unless I'm trying to place you).

I literally couldn't give a monkeys. Do I care? Not one bit.

Position and pay grades - don't care about them either. Give me a title of '****wit Extrordinaire' and I'll carry on happy, dishing out cards like I'm the boss.

All I'm interested in is whether someone is a decent human being or a ****. I've met people on this board for example who I like a lot....who are much more senior than me (in position and years you bunch of old gits) and earn much, much more. Yeah there are comments on here looking down on me as a lowly rec-con struggling to make money sometimes but I just don't care.

If you're a decent person and friendly, I'm not interested if your rich or poor. If you're a prick, I want to know and if rich, you're a bigger prick, if poor then I'll just laugh more at you for being poor and a prick.

It just doesn't matter, if people in that conference were looking at you like a secretary then who cares? Who the **** cares? OS, you know what you do, you know what you earn, you don't need to wlak around caring what other people think. If people judge by what their husbands do then that is their problem, not yours. If your bloke is happy then **** 'em.

Focus your efforts on making sure then next generation of OriginalSunshine's grow up as decent human beings so they never care if they are judged.

**** the world, **** the women who sneer at your blokes job, **** the people who expect you to be a tea maker, **** them. **** them all.

**** this shit.

britexpat76

Having a good day mate?

OriginalSunshine

Scamp - thank you.

hnd

My parents are an example of this ... they've been married for just over 60 years and, generally speaking, can't abide each other. They've spent pretty much the past 40 odd years making life as miserable for the other as they possibly can. Why they felt they had to 'celebrate' their anniversary last year is beyond me.

britexpat76

That just made me smile. Have some Karma

Kix

Secrets? No secret, stay single and rent, it's cheaper in the long run.

Allegedly.

hnd

Thanks

Guess it may be a good thing they didn't divorce - they may have remarried and made two more people as miserable as they are

LaLaLayla

Original Sunshine, it sounds like you need to get yourself some new friends. Seriously.

OriginalSunshine

They are not friends. But sadly in this expat life, they are often friends of friends, or acquaintances, or people at a ball (I now avoid sh*t like that) etc. You know how it is.

My friends, my real friends, range from CEOs & CFOs through to part-time primary school teacher assistants. Like Scamp, *I* don't care what a person does, or "who" they are, but what kind of person are they. And I detest people who judge others simply by status, and apply the same standards back. Some days/weeks though, the cumulative wankiness gets to me.... shrug.

Patsy Stoned

Years ago, when I launched my pub/restaurant and invited the *allegedly* important people within the community a woman came up to me and said "We understand that you are running this restaurant"..Me.."yes I am".."We also understand that you are running it on your own"..."Yes I am"... "Oh!..Don't you have a husband then?".... " Well, not one of my own darling..."

Patsy Stoned

I remember sitting at my bar, with my bar manager, having coffee, just before we opened... A salesman pulled into the car park and the conversation went...
Me.. (to my bar manager) "watch this..he is going to come in and ignore me and speak to you"
My BM.. "I think you're right about that"
Salesman to BM.. Good morning.. Is your boss here?"
BM,, "Yes"
Me.. "Hi, may I help you?"
SM.. to BM.. after a cursory nod in my direction... " May I speak to him?"
BM... "Errr It's not a him.. this..( looking at me)...is my boss"
I smile...
SM.."morning love, can I speak to your husband?"
Me.." Well you could, but..I haven't spoken to him for 7 years so I wish you luck! Also, I want to give you some advise..next time you walk into a pub, stop and take the time to glance up at the board above the door....if you had done that you would have seen that it said..'Mrs *******, licensed to sell.... and as you walked into this pub you would have spoken to me not my bar manager. Now leave"

fluffymoo

Brilliant xx

OriginalSunshine

exactly!