Ethos83

We've only been together for ten months or so although we've known each other for ages. I was at school with her brother. I won't be proposing for another year.

What really holds me back is how this relationship emerged. It wasn't a question of love at first sight or all that shit but a mutual understanding that we're two people of similar backgrounds and interests and families and we don't find each other repulsive, so why not just get together and get this whole stupid courtship over with and settle down so we can grow old and spare with each other, pop out a couple kids that'll nearly bankrupt us in school fees and spend out our days in a slightly shabby Georgian house in a village somewhere that'll smell of wet wool and aged dogs?

I like her and am quite happy with her but so far I haven't experienced real passion. Though I'm not sure if its fair for someone like me to expect passion in a relationship.

scrubbedexpat141

What do you mean?

Sounds pretty good though, if you're happy you're happy then it's good.

I can't really provide any opinion, I'm probably half your age but it sounds decent, especially about living in the country with a couple of dogs.

Bahtatboy

I've popped one of these in the post for you.



Unless of course you don't intend having dogs around and its she who smells of wet dogs. In which case you're in need of more than a book.

Seriously, though (yes, I can do serious sometimes): Why don't you expect passion? Even for those who've had their hearts seemingly ripped out or frozen to ice, surely passion will come--either at first in a sudden rush, or it will build slowly. Maybe you need to let go of something. Unless you're old and merely looking for companionship (which I don't think you are), I believe passion should be there in a courtship because for most couples feelings wane (or transmute into something better, for the lucky ones), and if you don't start off with something heady then in a few years' time you'll be wondering what the hell you're doing.

Neverthless, good luck--that's only my view, I think you're big enough to know what you're doing.

Meow

This thread has been sullied by Ethos83's passionless love life

littlejimmy

Da Vinci Code is a good shout. Couldn't get past the first page.

Also Harry Potter. Got a bit further with it that DVC, but soon realised that it should only be read by 11-year-old boys. My 11-year-old son loves it (as much as I loved Star Wars at his age).

kittycat1

Aww Ethos, nice to hear you have found a lady ( and I am sure she has a title), but I'm concerned about your lack of passion- how can you never have experienced passion? It's what keeps a relationship alive- the arguments, the making up, the furniture breaking sex- having never met you I get the impression you're a little uptight- comes with being posh- you need to find a bit of fire in yourself and go for it- don't holdback- sweep her off her feet and she'll react to it- unless she is equally as uptight in which case I can see you in 25 years reading books (see I bought it back to the thread) with separate night lights in your m and s nightwear kissing each other on the cheek before rolling over and going to sleep- not even spooning! Unleash the animal inside you Ethos- you've got one inside of you somewhere, forget what ever it is your worried about ( being too conservative I suspect) and jump in both feet! You wont regret it I promise!

Bahtatboy

KittyKat, Ethos' rumpy-pumpy would never break any of his furniture. And that's nothing to do with his vigour or lack of.

Millhouse

Nice. I like that. For factual accuracy we now have three 4x4s. If only you knew mate.

Millhouse

Maybe if he didn't started his sexual advances with the phrase 'if I wash it, will you suck it' he might get a bit more spice

The Dean

That post has just given me my first erection since 1996........

kittycat1

lol dean- life in the old dog yet eh!

Sandboy

better hurry before the rohypnol wears off

seven seas

Atlas Shrugged.

pile of shit.

Boomhauer

Anyone read The Satanic Verses? I have this suspicion that Rushdie only attained notoriety because of the Fatwa.

Norm_uk

Marx's works have cause far more death and destruction than Mein Kampf...

I'd add Protocols of the Eldars of Zion, all of David Icke's nonsense and one or two religious books only (which I cannot mention as the internet is now policed it seems).

N.