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Right you jaded lot, what do you know about divorce here?

Old Mar 1st 2013, 1:36 pm
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Default Right you jaded lot, what do you know about divorce here?

How do the custody and financial issues get sorted under shariah?

Which way would/ did you go? Why?

It's not me but a friend who has rather been landed in it, with 3 children under 5.

Any divorce lawyer recommendations would be nice too.
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Old Mar 1st 2013, 2:04 pm
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Default Re: Right you jaded lot, what do you know about divorce here?

leave the country now if it is acrimonious

if there's a custody battle, the husband wins, whatever the circumstances (e.g. he's got himself a shiny 19 yr old Philippina)

in the UK at least there is the chance of joint custody and maintenance payments
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Your friend needs to leave the country now..take the kids with her... once she is back home then she can get her ducks in a row and start divorce proceeding. She should take whatever she can, but just get the kids out of here. The courts will be on her husband's side and she could lose the kids.
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Originally Posted by al dente View Post
How do the custody and financial issues get sorted under shariah?

Which way would/ did you go? Why?

It's not me but a friend who has rather been landed in it, with 3 children under 5.

Any divorce lawyer recommendations would be nice too.
Is your friend male or female?
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If she is a foreigner and the husband is an Emirati........................................... .....................................
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Originally Posted by scot47 View Post
If she is a foreigner and the husband is an Emirati........................................... .....................................
Define 'foreigner', she's English?
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She's British, he's Australian. She wants to stay and work here and she's pretty certain he doesn't want the kids (told her several times) but she wants and (he wants currently) to still see the kids on a basic level.

Passed on the initial 'leave now' advice, but she is certain that he wouldn't do that. Does anyone have friends who have divorced and behaved like that? I know of three couples (not well!) who have split up and the wife stayed here no problems. Two delayed divorcing until the kids were much older and the other the wife was also working.

I know it would be hard to enforce a British ruling of alimony etc here but it might be a better starting point.

But if a shariah ruling is reasonable than it's something to consider too.
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Originally Posted by al dente View Post

But if a shariah ruling is reasonable than it's something to consider too.
Those words do not go together.
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Old Mar 2nd 2013, 6:54 am
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I got divorced while living here. We had it all done in Holland (all by email, no need to actually go there). All straight forward and we applied the rules as they are back home.
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Default Re: Right you jaded lot, what do you know about divorce here?

Originally Posted by MataHari View Post
I got divorced while living here. We had it all done in Holland (all by email, no need to actually go there). All straight forward and we applied the rules as they are back home.
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What Mata said. If neither of you are Arab or muslim, then basically shariah law isn't imposed.

I got divorced a few years back (in UK, even though both of us were in Dubai), ex got custody in Dubai courts too. No problem, I still see junior - although that might be because of the money I pay her...

The first year is the worst, I actually get on better with the ex now - she's even offered me a place to stay when I go to Dubai.

Funny old world.
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Originally Posted by Kix View Post

The first year is the worst, I actually get on better with the ex now - she's even offered me a place to stay when I go to Dubai.

Funny old world.
Maybe she is after a friendly
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Maybe she is after a friendly
She needs a razor then....
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She needs a razor then....
???????? To trim what?
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???????? To trim what?
Perhaps she was his beard?
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Thanks for sensible advice of what can be possible.

Hoping it remains amicable.
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