Relationship - what to do?
Aug 24th 2008, 4:53 pm
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Relationship - what to do?
Hi,
I have recently moved out to Dubai, in the last two months, working for a good company, nice apartment on marina, going really well. However, literally a week after I moved out a girl that I really like became single, we've been friends for a couple of years but the timing for us has never been right, we have had our moments in the past too, we get on so well and have been speaking on phone and facebook all the time since ive been here. I really want to have a relationship with her and she tells me that she feels the same. She is apprehensive about moving here as her dad has been ill recently and she had a tumor removed from her head a few years ago and obviously still undergoes regular check ups and such.
My question is what do people think I should do? Stay for money or go home for love?
Also i work in construction so getting a job back home isnt going to be the simplest thing to do at the moment.
Anyones views are welcome.
Thanks
I have recently moved out to Dubai, in the last two months, working for a good company, nice apartment on marina, going really well. However, literally a week after I moved out a girl that I really like became single, we've been friends for a couple of years but the timing for us has never been right, we have had our moments in the past too, we get on so well and have been speaking on phone and facebook all the time since ive been here. I really want to have a relationship with her and she tells me that she feels the same. She is apprehensive about moving here as her dad has been ill recently and she had a tumor removed from her head a few years ago and obviously still undergoes regular check ups and such.
My question is what do people think I should do? Stay for money or go home for love?
Also i work in construction so getting a job back home isnt going to be the simplest thing to do at the moment.
Anyones views are welcome.
Thanks
Aug 24th 2008, 4:59 pm
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Re: Relationship - what to do?
Hi,
I have recently moved out to Dubai, in the last two months, working for a good company, nice apartment on marina, going really well. However, literally a week after I moved out a girl that I really like became single, we've been friends for a couple of years but the timing for us has never been right, we have had our moments in the past too, we get on so well and have been speaking on phone and facebook all the time since ive been here. I really want to have a relationship with her and she tells me that she feels the same. She is apprehensive about moving here as her dad has been ill recently and she had a tumor removed from her head a few years ago and obviously still undergoes regular check ups and such.
My question is what do people think I should do? Stay for money or go home for love?
Also i work in construction so getting a job back home isnt going to be the simplest thing to do at the moment.
Anyones views are welcome.
Thanks
I have recently moved out to Dubai, in the last two months, working for a good company, nice apartment on marina, going really well. However, literally a week after I moved out a girl that I really like became single, we've been friends for a couple of years but the timing for us has never been right, we have had our moments in the past too, we get on so well and have been speaking on phone and facebook all the time since ive been here. I really want to have a relationship with her and she tells me that she feels the same. She is apprehensive about moving here as her dad has been ill recently and she had a tumor removed from her head a few years ago and obviously still undergoes regular check ups and such.
My question is what do people think I should do? Stay for money or go home for love?
Also i work in construction so getting a job back home isnt going to be the simplest thing to do at the moment.
Anyones views are welcome.
Thanks
Also, if its THAT meant to be -ish...then... it'll happen eventually!!!Party on
Aug 24th 2008, 5:06 pm
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Re: Relationship - what to do?
Hi,
I have recently moved out to Dubai, in the last two months, working for a good company, nice apartment on marina, going really well. However, literally a week after I moved out a girl that I really like became single, we've been friends for a couple of years but the timing for us has never been right, we have had our moments in the past too, we get on so well and have been speaking on phone and facebook all the time since ive been here. I really want to have a relationship with her and she tells me that she feels the same. She is apprehensive about moving here as her dad has been ill recently and she had a tumor removed from her head a few years ago and obviously still undergoes regular check ups and such.
My question is what do people think I should do? Stay for money or go home for love?
Also i work in construction so getting a job back home isnt going to be the simplest thing to do at the moment.
Anyones views are welcome.
Thanks
I have recently moved out to Dubai, in the last two months, working for a good company, nice apartment on marina, going really well. However, literally a week after I moved out a girl that I really like became single, we've been friends for a couple of years but the timing for us has never been right, we have had our moments in the past too, we get on so well and have been speaking on phone and facebook all the time since ive been here. I really want to have a relationship with her and she tells me that she feels the same. She is apprehensive about moving here as her dad has been ill recently and she had a tumor removed from her head a few years ago and obviously still undergoes regular check ups and such.
My question is what do people think I should do? Stay for money or go home for love?
Also i work in construction so getting a job back home isnt going to be the simplest thing to do at the moment.
Anyones views are welcome.
Thanks
I get letters like this all the time from readers.
Firstly,you need to decide whether this relationship is one that is worth changing your life for,and that she feels the same.It is understandable that she is aprehensive about leaving the country at the moment.Is her father likely to recover from his illness?Is moving out here something she might warm to?If not you have to decide is she is worth going home for.Only your heart can answer that.
Aunty MD.
Aug 24th 2008, 5:08 pm
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Re: Relationship - what to do?
Hi,
I have recently moved out to Dubai, in the last two months, working for a good company, nice apartment on marina, going really well. However, literally a week after I moved out a girl that I really like became single, we've been friends for a couple of years but the timing for us has never been right, we have had our moments in the past too, we get on so well and have been speaking on phone and facebook all the time since ive been here. I really want to have a relationship with her and she tells me that she feels the same. She is apprehensive about moving here as her dad has been ill recently and she had a tumor removed from her head a few years ago and obviously still undergoes regular check ups and such.
My question is what do people think I should do? Stay for money or go home for love?
Also i work in construction so getting a job back home isnt going to be the simplest thing to do at the moment.
Anyones views are welcome.
Thanks
I have recently moved out to Dubai, in the last two months, working for a good company, nice apartment on marina, going really well. However, literally a week after I moved out a girl that I really like became single, we've been friends for a couple of years but the timing for us has never been right, we have had our moments in the past too, we get on so well and have been speaking on phone and facebook all the time since ive been here. I really want to have a relationship with her and she tells me that she feels the same. She is apprehensive about moving here as her dad has been ill recently and she had a tumor removed from her head a few years ago and obviously still undergoes regular check ups and such.
My question is what do people think I should do? Stay for money or go home for love?
Also i work in construction so getting a job back home isnt going to be the simplest thing to do at the moment.
Anyones views are welcome.
Thanks
Aug 24th 2008, 10:13 pm
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Re: Relationship - what to do?
Pull yourself togeather lad, what are you thinking? Are you going to do this just for the chance to shag some daft slapper? 
Look I like women as much as the next (straight) guy but no girl is worth moving for (except maybe Jessica Alba if it's just down the street and she's going to climb into bed to give you BJs every morning).
I hope this helps
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Look I like women as much as the next (straight) guy but no girl is worth moving for (except maybe Jessica Alba if it's just down the street and she's going to climb into bed to give you BJs every morning).
I hope this helps
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Aug 25th 2008, 3:17 am
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Re: Relationship - what to do?
Sounds like a head case ....
Aug 25th 2008, 5:45 am
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Re: Relationship - what to do?
oh my god you lot are so funny! Mister are you serious!
Im all up for the true love happily ever after - big shrek fan but come on.
There is no reason you can not start a relationship while you are here and then take it from there! Tell her to come over for a holiday....... see how she likes it, see if you still have things in common.
dont jump in with both feet and go home, nutter!!!
Im all up for the true love happily ever after - big shrek fan but come on.
There is no reason you can not start a relationship while you are here and then take it from there! Tell her to come over for a holiday....... see how she likes it, see if you still have things in common.
dont jump in with both feet and go home, nutter!!!
Aug 25th 2008, 6:07 am
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Re: Relationship - what to do?
How can she suddenly become single? Did she murder her husband? Surely if she was going through a divorce, you would have known about it? Anyway, FWIW, my view is try and keep the job AND the girl. Like somebody said earlier, spend holidays together. The health situation is a worry, though. It sounds like you may become a long term hospital visitor in years to come if you are not too careful. Is she really worth it? I hope so
Aug 25th 2008, 3:49 pm
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Re: Relationship - what to do?
How can she suddenly become single? Did she murder her husband? Surely if she was going through a divorce, you would have known about it? Anyway, FWIW, my view is try and keep the job AND the girl. Like somebody said earlier, spend holidays together. The health situation is a worry, though. It sounds like you may become a long term hospital visitor in years to come if you are not too careful. Is she really worth it? I hope so
Aug 25th 2008, 6:30 pm
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Re: Relationship - what to do?
Thanks for all your comments, i should have expected as much from the blokes (although its probably the things Id say if i saw this question on a forum) strangely enough im still unsure, she told me today that she doesn't want to move here (thats today anyway) so i think a holiday to ease her in could well be in order.
Oh yeah...That's love alright...
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Aug 26th 2008, 10:48 am
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Re: Relationship - what to do?
maybe she is just after a holiday in Dubai? 
Aug 26th 2008, 11:11 am
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Re: Relationship - what to do?
dump her, she will pop her clogs soon anyway......
kidding,
hell what is this site, an agony aunt column?
kidding,
hell what is this site, an agony aunt column?
Aug 28th 2008, 12:10 pm
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Re: Relationship - what to do?
well i think she is there cuz she wants to be with her dad (maybe he is alone) - after all there is no quality of life in the uk anymore - infact u have to be a millionaire to stay here.
in sure she will re-consider a holiday once her dad gets better.
dont worry about the boys - they just jealous!!!
in sure she will re-consider a holiday once her dad gets better.
dont worry about the boys - they just jealous!!!