My ex wife wants to visit !
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My ex wife wants to visit !
My ex wife and I are still very good friends, and everything is very amicable between us (probably something to do with the extortionate amount of maintenance I pay her every month ! )
Anyway, she keeps asking me if I would mind if she came out for a few days and stayed with me, as she wants to see Dubai, as she has heard how nice it is from my boys when they visit, and said it would be nice to be shown around and for us to chat etc.
Do you think she just wants a freebie holiday so to speak or by using the phrase 'we could chat', has ideas of us rekindling something ?
It was a traumatic time for both of us when we split up and I dont want to stir up feelings on both sides for that to happen again, but feel guilty saying no to her...
Any ideas ?
Anyway, she keeps asking me if I would mind if she came out for a few days and stayed with me, as she wants to see Dubai, as she has heard how nice it is from my boys when they visit, and said it would be nice to be shown around and for us to chat etc.
Do you think she just wants a freebie holiday so to speak or by using the phrase 'we could chat', has ideas of us rekindling something ?
It was a traumatic time for both of us when we split up and I dont want to stir up feelings on both sides for that to happen again, but feel guilty saying no to her...
Any ideas ?
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Re: My ex wife wants to visit !
My ex wife and I are still very good friends, and everything is very amicable between us (probably something to do with the extortionate amount of maintenance I pay her every month ! )
Anyway, she keeps asking me if I would mind if she came out for a few days and stayed with me, as she wants to see Dubai, as she has heard how nice it is from my boys when they visit, and said it would be nice to be shown around and for us to chat etc.
Do you think she just wants a freebie holiday so to speak or by using the phrase 'we could chat', has ideas of us rekindling something ?
It was a traumatic time for both of us when we split up and I dont want to stir up feelings on both sides for that to happen again, but feel guilty saying no to her...
Any ideas ?
Anyway, she keeps asking me if I would mind if she came out for a few days and stayed with me, as she wants to see Dubai, as she has heard how nice it is from my boys when they visit, and said it would be nice to be shown around and for us to chat etc.
Do you think she just wants a freebie holiday so to speak or by using the phrase 'we could chat', has ideas of us rekindling something ?
It was a traumatic time for both of us when we split up and I dont want to stir up feelings on both sides for that to happen again, but feel guilty saying no to her...
Any ideas ?
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Re: My ex wife wants to visit !
My ex wife and I are still very good friends, and everything is very amicable between us (probably something to do with the extortionate amount of maintenance I pay her every month ! )
Anyway, she keeps asking me if I would mind if she came out for a few days and stayed with me, as she wants to see Dubai, as she has heard how nice it is from my boys when they visit, and said it would be nice to be shown around and for us to chat etc.
Do you think she just wants a freebie holiday so to speak or by using the phrase 'we could chat', has ideas of us rekindling something ?
It was a traumatic time for both of us when we split up and I dont want to stir up feelings on both sides for that to happen again, but feel guilty saying no to her...
Any ideas ?
Anyway, she keeps asking me if I would mind if she came out for a few days and stayed with me, as she wants to see Dubai, as she has heard how nice it is from my boys when they visit, and said it would be nice to be shown around and for us to chat etc.
Do you think she just wants a freebie holiday so to speak or by using the phrase 'we could chat', has ideas of us rekindling something ?
It was a traumatic time for both of us when we split up and I dont want to stir up feelings on both sides for that to happen again, but feel guilty saying no to her...
Any ideas ?
She's fishing for something I think.
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Re: My ex wife wants to visit !
I sense a case of deja vu - haven't you had this dilemma before???
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Re: My ex wife wants to visit !
i recall this from over a year ago and to be honest i was embarrased by my comments at the time and i think bangleman has never forgiven me.
SO, here is my new found wisdomous retort;
as long as she pays the flight, go for it. If you both have feelings then what have you got to loose, you are clearly a great dad and miss your lads painfully, and ill bet your ex will see the aftermath (that you dont see) of how much they love and miss you..
if it doesnt work out, carry on, as you were...
good luck my gay hammer
SO, here is my new found wisdomous retort;
as long as she pays the flight, go for it. If you both have feelings then what have you got to loose, you are clearly a great dad and miss your lads painfully, and ill bet your ex will see the aftermath (that you dont see) of how much they love and miss you..
if it doesnt work out, carry on, as you were...
good luck my gay hammer
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Re: My ex wife wants to visit !
if my memory serves me right, I remember a conversation about the wife and the best friend coming over for a threesome...
i take it that never happened then..
i take it that never happened then..
Last edited by admon; Mar 13th 2009 at 6:22 am. Reason: posted at the same time as 2 above posts...
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Re: My ex wife wants to visit !
Im just worried if I do it will come back to bite me on the arse.
She will come out here, see the sun, the lifestyle etc, and then assume I have one with no worries, leading the life of Riley etc etc, when the reality is much different of course, and try and use that to her advantage at some point in the future
She will come out here, see the sun, the lifestyle etc, and then assume I have one with no worries, leading the life of Riley etc etc, when the reality is much different of course, and try and use that to her advantage at some point in the future
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Re: My ex wife wants to visit !
i recall this from over a year ago and to be honest i was embarrased by my comments at the time and i think bangleman has never forgiven me.
SO, here is my new found wisdomous retort;
as long as she pays the flight, go for it. If you both have feelings then what have you got to loose, you are clearly a great dad and miss your lads painfully, and ill bet your ex will see the aftermath (that you dont see) of how much they love and miss you..
if it doesnt work out, carry on, as you were...
good luck my gay hammer
SO, here is my new found wisdomous retort;
as long as she pays the flight, go for it. If you both have feelings then what have you got to loose, you are clearly a great dad and miss your lads painfully, and ill bet your ex will see the aftermath (that you dont see) of how much they love and miss you..
if it doesnt work out, carry on, as you were...
good luck my gay hammer
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