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Old Apr 27th 2016, 5:59 am
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I was just wondering how many marriages survived expat life?

Specifically referring to one spouse working abroad and the other one staying at home, whether it be male of female.

And also if it didn't last what would be the reason for a second (3rd, 4th) marriage to an "international" partner rather than to a fellow countrymen/women.
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Old Apr 27th 2016, 8:15 am
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Old Apr 27th 2016, 5:15 pm
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Been working abroad for 7 years now, with 'er indoors at home in UK. Marriage has survived, but not sure whether that's because of or in spite of the separation.
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I've often thought becoming an expat (Dubai) as a couple was a relationship killer. I know loads who have moved out and then split while over here.
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I've often thought becoming an expat (Dubai) as a couple was a relationship killer. I know loads who have moved out and then split while over here.
I moved here with a girlfriend I'd had for a year (just over) in the UK. I was going to do about 6 months here before she arrived, so I flew home something like 4 times to see her and she came out once.

The whole time - every single mate - 'It won't last', 'bin it off', 'you'll split when she's here' etc etc etc. I didn't listen obviously, but saw lots of it happening.

Fortunately, she's stuck with me (how could she not)....5 years later, still here, still happy, still not married.

Now you know someone who hasn't split.
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My wife and I had been married a couple of months when I came over here. She stayed in the UK for 4-5 months to sell the house and finish up at work before coming over here. 6 and a bit years and 2 kids later, still here still happily married.
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Ah good to see hear the good news stories......

There is hope :-)
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I've often thought becoming an expat (Dubai) as a couple was a relationship killer. I know loads who have moved out and then split while over here.
I'd guess that they either had issues before they moved here and any stresses widened the cracks rather than bringing them closer, or one party fell for the "Dubai lifestyle" nonsense.

Most people I know have been just fine and being expats has been beneficial as they have had joint experiences.

The OP's query is a bit odd as it seems to assume that only one party is overseas and the other is in the UK. That set up is a minority.
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I'd guess that they either had issues before they moved here and any stresses widened the cracks rather than bringing them closer, or one party fell for the "Dubai lifestyle" nonsense.

Most people I know have been just fine and being expats has been beneficial as they have had joint experiences.

The OP's query is a bit odd as it seems to assume that only one party is overseas and the other is in the UK. That set up is a minority.
except during the summer months when the wives and kids go home and the husbands get to play!
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except during the summer months when the wives and kids go home and the husbands get to play!
Back to my original comment "Tinder and banging Hoes"
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except during the summer months when the wives and kids go home and the husbands get to play!
Not all wives and children go back to a home country all summer. In fact few disappear for months on end, especially as many wives actually work!
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Back to my original comment "Tinder and banging Hoes"
Do you really have to be so crass all the time? I can see why they kicked you off the other forum.

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Do you really have to be so crass all the time? I can see why they kicked you off the other forum.

Oh no I never ever spoke like this on the Green Forum, i feel this forum has a more best mate feel about it. I got kicked off for Spelling mistakes...Moving on
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Not all wives and children go back to a home country all summer. In fact few disappear for months on end, especially as many wives actually work!
I just play more golf...
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