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How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)

Old May 28th 2018, 11:25 am
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The difference between the grizzled old male expats and the (non grizzled) women is rather remarkable!
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Old May 28th 2018, 11:37 am
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Originally Posted by IKnowNothing View Post
So, my mate and his missus have pretty much ended their relationship, he drinks too much, she lies constantly. So, how does he get shot of her? She's refusing to move out, doesn't have a job (although is looking), he's even offered to pay a month's rent for her to find somewhere else.

The atmosphere at their place is toxic to say the least, not good for anyone.

My opinion is that she should take the cash, set her up for a month or so and just go (he pays the rent and the apartment is in his name), he's even offered her the cash to go home (she's a flip-flop_, but no, it's a stalemate, he's not the sort of guy to chuck someone out on the street but what can he do?

Any ideas I can pass on?
I would have her keys off her and when she did go out have the locks changed
otherwise unless she is going to leave voluntarily he is stuck. The last thing he needs is a big bust up and the Police called. He may have to put on his big boy pants on and get firm with her

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Old May 28th 2018, 11:44 am
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I've been pretty rude about him too I think and you shouldn't turn what's said to fit an agenda or preconception though, that's not very fair. For example, I'm not saying throw her out like a piece of trash, I'm saying give her a week and then expect her to be gone (I'd say the same if it was her paying the bills and rent etc). But paying someone to leave? Isn't it basically enticing or bribing someone to bugger off that bit quicker? Unless they are desperate and need it, it seems a bit of a waste of money to pay someone to go.

OP asked for opinions, mine's just one of those. Good luck to his mate and his mate's, er, 'flip-flop'.
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Remove access to any bank accounts, phone lines, credit cards, safes, internet, passwords etc.

Pack her bags, change locks, and take her to the airport himself. With a one way ticket home. If necessary, pay for shipping of any personal belongings.

if he wants to assuage guilt, then some cash to help her out when she gets back to the Philippines is kind, but cash only.
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Old May 28th 2018, 12:37 pm
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Originally Posted by OriginalSunshine View Post
Remove access to any bank accounts, phone lines, credit cards, safes, internet, passwords etc.

Pack her bags, change locks, and take her to the airport himself. With a one way ticket home. If necessary, pay for shipping of any personal belongings.

if he wants to assuage guilt, then some cash to help her out when she gets back to the Philippines is kind, but cash only.
Great answer, I think that's the honourable thing to do and that's what I said to him.
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Old May 28th 2018, 12:49 pm
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Give the money to an actual charity instead.
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Also, Western Union any cash to the Philippines as an incentive to actually get on the plane. No one but her can get the money in Phil, and the last thing you want is for her to turn up at the door making a scene after you've got rid, having already forked out.
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You should write novels.
I'm on the difficult second album. Though these kind of threads of bad human behaviour do inspire me.
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Old May 29th 2018, 7:47 am
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I'm on the difficult second album. Though these kind of threads of bad human behaviour do inspire me.
I look forward to it :-). On my bucket list is a film script, might take a course for that.
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Old May 30th 2018, 10:54 am
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I do hope that you will let us know what your mate does Iknownothing and the subsequent results of it
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Old Jun 4th 2018, 9:55 am
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So what did you, I mean he, do?
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Old Jun 4th 2018, 10:22 am
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He gave her another chance.

So we'll see how it works out for them.
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Originally Posted by IKnowNothing View Post
He gave her another chance.
Sounds like he succumbed to her charms (and probable tears, wailing and beating of bare bossoms !) - i guess he will have to re-cross this bridge in 2 months later
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He gave her another chance.
Another chance to tolerate him being a borderline alcoholic? Lucky woman
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Another chance to tolerate him being a borderline alcoholic? Lucky woman
love is blind all the time there is food in the refi
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