How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
May 27th 2018, 9:17 pm
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
Book a weeks vacation, take her back to Phil, give her a bit of cash, say goodbye.
enjoy the rest of the week's vacation, without her
problem solved
enjoy the rest of the week's vacation, without her
problem solved
May 28th 2018, 4:18 am
#17
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
Some pretty horrific answers in here, lots of tough talking old geezers 
Your red nosed 'friend' has a degree of responsibility here especially if he has basically provided for her or at least the understanding between them was that was to be the case. A proper deadline with a ticket home seems like the honourable thing to do, if she doesn't have her own visa or legitimate reason to be in the UAE.
Sensible advice aside; bringing another girl home and organising a jelly pool wrestling tournament for the dubious honour of living with the alky seems a viable comedy option.
Your red nosed 'friend' has a degree of responsibility here especially if he has basically provided for her or at least the understanding between them was that was to be the case. A proper deadline with a ticket home seems like the honourable thing to do, if she doesn't have her own visa or legitimate reason to be in the UAE.
Sensible advice aside; bringing another girl home and organising a jelly pool wrestling tournament for the dubious honour of living with the alky seems a viable comedy option.
May 28th 2018, 4:33 am
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
I honestly don't see paying her to leave, buying a ticket or donating funds as an actual answer.
Whilst it may seem more 'honorable' it's just buying your way out of a problem and giving yourself a pat on the back for being a good guy....when we all know throwing money at things is just a very easy way out.
Just asking this person leave and giving them notice is plenty. Quite why someone would hang around at the end of a relationship is beyond me. Perhaps because they want something? Like some cash or a flight or help with rent? Bugger me sideways. What a surprise.
If they're genuinely ****ed and can't do anything then help to buy them a ticket home and ask them to pay you back. It's a fairly short relationship and you're under no obligation to provide for someone for the next X period of time.
Whilst it may seem more 'honorable' it's just buying your way out of a problem and giving yourself a pat on the back for being a good guy....when we all know throwing money at things is just a very easy way out.
Just asking this person leave and giving them notice is plenty. Quite why someone would hang around at the end of a relationship is beyond me. Perhaps because they want something? Like some cash or a flight or help with rent? Bugger me sideways. What a surprise.
If they're genuinely ****ed and can't do anything then help to buy them a ticket home and ask them to pay you back. It's a fairly short relationship and you're under no obligation to provide for someone for the next X period of time.
May 28th 2018, 5:47 am
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
Some great ideas here, I've sent him a link - he wasn't happy at being called a borderline alcoholic......
May 28th 2018, 5:52 am
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
I honestly don't see paying her to leave, buying a ticket or donating funds as an actual answer.
Whilst it may seem more 'honorable' it's just buying your way out of a problem and giving yourself a pat on the back for being a good guy....when we all know throwing money at things is just a very easy way out.
Just asking this person leave and giving them notice is plenty. Quite why someone would hang around at the end of a relationship is beyond me. Perhaps because they want something? Like some cash or a flight or help with rent? Bugger me sideways. What a surprise.
If they're genuinely ****ed and can't do anything then help to buy them a ticket home and ask them to pay you back. It's a fairly short relationship and you're under no obligation to provide for someone for the next X period of time.
Whilst it may seem more 'honorable' it's just buying your way out of a problem and giving yourself a pat on the back for being a good guy....when we all know throwing money at things is just a very easy way out.
Just asking this person leave and giving them notice is plenty. Quite why someone would hang around at the end of a relationship is beyond me. Perhaps because they want something? Like some cash or a flight or help with rent? Bugger me sideways. What a surprise.
If they're genuinely ****ed and can't do anything then help to buy them a ticket home and ask them to pay you back. It's a fairly short relationship and you're under no obligation to provide for someone for the next X period of time.
In my opinion these relationships are mostly based on financial terms (if it's not directly spoken about, it's certainly implied), the tap of love turns off when the funds run dry. So the balance of power or equality in the relationship is hugely skewed in favour of the guy, hence why I'm saying the honourable thing. Nobody is going to come out of it feeling good, or giving themselves a pat on the back, but as a relatively wealthy expat he could cough up something rather than throwing her out the door.
May 28th 2018, 6:20 am
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
According to him it's been two years.
In my opinion these relationships are mostly based on financial terms (if it's not directly spoken about, it's certainly implied), the tap of love turns off when the funds run dry. So the balance of power or equality in the relationship is hugely skewed in favour of the guy, hence why I'm saying the honourable thing. Nobody is going to come out of it feeling good, or giving themselves a pat on the back, but as a relatively wealthy expat he could cough up something rather than throwing her out the door.
In my opinion these relationships are mostly based on financial terms (if it's not directly spoken about, it's certainly implied), the tap of love turns off when the funds run dry. So the balance of power or equality in the relationship is hugely skewed in favour of the guy, hence why I'm saying the honourable thing. Nobody is going to come out of it feeling good, or giving themselves a pat on the back, but as a relatively wealthy expat he could cough up something rather than throwing her out the door.
Binning her and kicking her out is harsh if she's stuck with nowhere to go, no money and no hope....of course.
But supporting someone when a relationship has ended seems pointless, especially if entering into a relationship based on these terms (directly or implied).
Dunno...I sound horrid perhaps but dragging these things out or slowly funding someone to restart their 'life' is always going to be the start of a slippery slope.
May 28th 2018, 7:46 am
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
Anyhow the entire scenario sounds rather grim, I'm imagining a red nosed and faced northern type, from a trades turned 'management' background, mid 50's living in squalor in a 2 bed flat in some expat ghetto and a similarly pot bellied Filipina nail polisher plucked from a shit hole village.
May 28th 2018, 8:15 am
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
He's pissing his spare cash against the wall maybe
Anyhow the entire scenario sounds rather grim, I'm imagining a red nosed and faced northern type, from a trades turned 'management' background, mid 50's living in squalor in a 2 bed flat in some expat ghetto and a similarly pot bellied Filipina nail polisher plucked from a shit hole village.
Anyhow the entire scenario sounds rather grim, I'm imagining a red nosed and faced northern type, from a trades turned 'management' background, mid 50's living in squalor in a 2 bed flat in some expat ghetto and a similarly pot bellied Filipina nail polisher plucked from a shit hole village.
I also don’t see the need to set her up beyond driving her and the stuff to the new bed space to save on the taxi fare.
If nothing, she will be highly resourceful when it comes to survival without him. If moving another girl in isn’t a viable solution, then taking all processed food out of the fridge and replacing it with vegetables might be.
May 28th 2018, 8:30 am
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
Some pretty horrific answers in here, lots of tough talking old geezers
Your red nosed 'friend' has a degree of responsibility here especially if he has basically provided for her or at least the understanding between them was that was to be the case. A proper deadline with a ticket home seems like the honourable thing to do, if she doesn't have her own visa or legitimate reason to be in the UAE.
Sensible advice aside; bringing another girl home and organising a jelly pool wrestling tournament for the dubious honour of living with the alky seems a viable comedy option.
Your red nosed 'friend' has a degree of responsibility here especially if he has basically provided for her or at least the understanding between them was that was to be the case. A proper deadline with a ticket home seems like the honourable thing to do, if she doesn't have her own visa or legitimate reason to be in the UAE.
Sensible advice aside; bringing another girl home and organising a jelly pool wrestling tournament for the dubious honour of living with the alky seems a viable comedy option.
May 28th 2018, 8:31 am
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
My bet is that she doesn’t want to go home.
May 28th 2018, 8:37 am
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
He's pissing his spare cash against the wall maybe
Anyhow the entire scenario sounds rather grim, I'm imagining a red nosed and faced northern type, from a trades turned 'management' background, mid 50's living in squalor in a 2 bed flat in some expat ghetto and a similarly pot bellied Filipina nail polisher plucked from a shit hole village.
Anyhow the entire scenario sounds rather grim, I'm imagining a red nosed and faced northern type, from a trades turned 'management' background, mid 50's living in squalor in a 2 bed flat in some expat ghetto and a similarly pot bellied Filipina nail polisher plucked from a shit hole village.
I think your description is pretty much spot on though. I'm placing him in either Barsha or Bur Dubai.
We have the same mental image, only mine is a one bed flat in JLT and she is skinny.
I also don’t see the need to set her up beyond driving her and the stuff to the new bed space to save on the taxi fare.
If nothing, she will be highly resourceful when it comes to survival without him. If moving another girl in isn’t a viable solution, then taking all processed food out of the fridge and replacing it with vegetables might be.
Skinny is irrelevant, she'll probably still wear clothes that are 4 sizes too small for her like every Filipino.
May 28th 2018, 8:42 am
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
Maybe, maybe not, I'm sure we'll never know.
I think your description is pretty much spot on though. I'm placing him in either Barsha or Bur Dubai.
JLT. Interesting shout.
Skinny is irrelevant, she'll probably still wear clothes that are 4 sizes too small for her like every Filipino.
I think your description is pretty much spot on though. I'm placing him in either Barsha or Bur Dubai.
JLT. Interesting shout.
Skinny is irrelevant, she'll probably still wear clothes that are 4 sizes too small for her like every Filipino.
May 28th 2018, 8:54 am
#28
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
With a hand on her knee and a fag in mouth.
May 28th 2018, 9:20 am
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
He's pissing his spare cash against the wall maybe
Anyhow the entire scenario sounds rather grim, I'm imagining a red nosed and faced northern type, from a trades turned 'management' background, mid 50's living in squalor in a 2 bed flat in some expat ghetto and a similarly pot bellied Filipina nail polisher plucked from a shit hole village.
Anyhow the entire scenario sounds rather grim, I'm imagining a red nosed and faced northern type, from a trades turned 'management' background, mid 50's living in squalor in a 2 bed flat in some expat ghetto and a similarly pot bellied Filipina nail polisher plucked from a shit hole village.
May 28th 2018, 9:29 am
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Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
He could of corse take the easy option and do nothing. Ride out the visa expiry and don’t let her back... pray no job comes up in the meantime.