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IKnowNothing May 27th 2018 9:04 am

How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 
So, my mate and his missus have pretty much ended their relationship, he drinks too much, she lies constantly. So, how does he get shot of her? She's refusing to move out, doesn't have a job (although is looking), he's even offered to pay a month's rent for her to find somewhere else.

The atmosphere at their place is toxic to say the least, not good for anyone.

My opinion is that she should take the cash, set her up for a month or so and just go (he pays the rent and the apartment is in his name), he's even offered her the cash to go home (she's a flip-flop_, but no, it's a stalemate, he's not the sort of guy to chuck someone out on the street but what can he do?

Any ideas I can pass on?

flood2 May 27th 2018 9:33 am

Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 
Not nice.

Very dangerous for him to take on another apartment in his name. If she stops paying then he would be left. I would just offer her cash to bugger off and put her out. She will have other places to stay and some cash

How does she she have a visa here if not working?

UKCityGent May 27th 2018 9:59 am

Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 
Is he married to her or living in sin ?

Bring home spiders as new pets (or mice) and let them be organic and run free !
Bring home g/f number 2

IKnowNothing May 27th 2018 10:14 am

Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 
He's living in sin and he's not giving her the option of a new place, just a sum of cash. She's on a visit visa (paid for by him) 3 months long with 2.5 months remaining.

Scamp May 27th 2018 10:31 am

Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 
I'd tell him to grow a pair and kick her out.
Give her one week to find alternate arrangements, then change the locks on the 5th or 6th day.
**** paying a months rent for someone else, if it's not working just accept it for what it is and end it.

Dubaiexile May 27th 2018 12:17 pm

Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 
Pack her stuff up and deliver her to the airport, give her some money and say bye bye......breath a sigh of relief (even feel guilty for a couple of days if it helps) and don`t be so bloody stupid again!!!

UKCityGent May 27th 2018 12:58 pm

Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 
As above - tell him to put a size 12 boot stamp on her butt.

Why does he want to give her a cash option - you only do that after service has been provided.

Maybe he is afraid she is a bunny boiler ??

nonthaburi May 27th 2018 3:51 pm

Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 

Originally Posted by IKnowNothing (Post 12505896)
He's living in sin and he's not giving her the option of a new place, just a sum of cash. She's on a visit visa (paid for by him) 3 months long with 2.5 months remaining.

so she's only been there 2 weeks!? That was a quick deterioration in the relationship.

Dubaiexile May 27th 2018 4:18 pm

Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 

Originally Posted by nonthaburi (Post 12506013)
so she's only been there 2 weeks!? That was a quick deterioration in the relationship.


Obviously the shag fest was over, and she was not exactly hot at the art of conversation, and perhaps a few habits that were cute to begin with now turned him into the ripper!!!

spouse of scouse May 27th 2018 5:18 pm

Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 

Originally Posted by Dubaiexile (Post 12506026)
Obviously the shag fest was over, and she was not exactly hot at the art of conversation, and perhaps a few habits that were cute to begin with now turned him into the ripper!!!

If he's a heavy drinker the shagging was probably as woeful as the conversation.

From the opening post - what's a 'flip-flop'? Apart from beach footwear.
Where does the girl come from? Has she ditched her old life in the hope of starting a new one, so has nothing to go back to?

IKnowNothing May 27th 2018 5:25 pm

Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 
Flip flop = Filipina

And he's been seeing her for 2 years or so.

Irishbeekeeper May 27th 2018 5:26 pm

Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 
These things happen. Why...well who is anyone to judge why I guess. No relationship is perfect.
I feel your mate is a bit of a softie and in these circumstances the softies really get walked all over. So as mentioned above, either grow a pair and have a huge huge fight and basically escort her all the way to the airport or cancel the DEWA and disappear if he hasnt got the balls. But paying cash for a month's staycation is really a bad idea as that opens the door for her to come with hands wide open begging for more at the end of the month so definitely a bad idea.

Red_Wine_Fairy May 27th 2018 5:26 pm

Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 

Originally Posted by UKCityGent (Post 12505954)
tell him to put a size 12 boot stamp on her butt.

You are most certainly NOT a Gent.

Millhouse May 27th 2018 8:12 pm

Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 

Originally Posted by IKnowNothing (Post 12506046)
Flip flop = Filipina

Then she is going no-where all the time there is food in the fridge. Given the general likelihood of instability, jealously and passive aggression towards him combined with outward aggression to another filipina eating at the meal table, I would just move another one in and watch them fight it out.

nonthaburi May 27th 2018 10:11 pm

Re: How to dump your other half (asking for a friend)
 

Originally Posted by Red_Wine_Fairy (Post 12506048)
You are most certainly NOT a Gent.

and she ain't no lady either....


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