Brains1983

Had a bit of an argument with the wife last night, she had our daughters ears pierced at the hospital. Young Martina is not yet 3 months old.

Wife tells me this is normal in Brazil while I am I of the opinion that 3 months is far too young.

Am I right to be pissed off or am I in the wrong on this?

Kim67

My girls don't have their ears pierced and they are 10 and 14 - it's now optional and neither of them have taken up the offer. Before they were old enough to look after the responsibility of taking care of them they were not allowed.

Regardless of what age you think is okay, it should be the decision of BOTH parents.

Kix

You should be pissed off. Your wife did it without discussing this with you.

As an (extreme) example, female circumcision is the accepted practice in certain countries. Would it be OK for you if your wife had that done to your daughter without any discussion?

scrubbedexpat141

Things like this are allowed to piss you off.

It now means you're going to have a baby with earrings...now I'm not one to judge () but babies with earrings means the parents are pikeys where I'm from. You don't seem like a pikey, or in fact Brazilian.

Maybe just have a go and use a MS Word template for a permission slip or something, make the wife come and get it signed whenever she wants to do something Brazilian with the little lady?

Millhouse

Tough one. To be honest, she probably didn't even think of the consequences or importance of the decision she made as for her is it just normal.

Let it go - but not until you have pissed in her tea.

Saff_Parker

I had my ears pierced at about 2 months old.. so I'm biased in that I don't see what the problem is. But I *can* understand where you're coming from. It's normal in some countries, I'd say it's almost like a tribal custom. Let it be. Can't really undo it now. Wife should have informed you first htough.

Saff

scrubbedexpat141

No, she'll taste that.

Just dip the left nut in the tea, or pour the milk over it into...she'll never notice and you'll have the sweetest satisfaction.

Saff_Parker

Aguguihgh D:

Bongoman2

I hope she likes her tea warm and not scolding hot then.

scrubbedexpat141

If you're concerned with the water temp (rightly so) then use the milk drizzle option.

flares

Why wouldn't she consult you? Gotta love the firey Latinos.

On the Brazil theme I've stuck my application in for WC tickets. Matches 12, 20 & 31. Obrigado.

Brains1983

12 is down beside where my wife is from. I'm in for 12, 26, 35 & 48. Also got all of the wife's family registering for tickets aswell.

Brains1983

I guess there is bugger all I can do about it now anyway, not worth the hassle of being bothered about it. moving on.

Brains1983

or micro it afterwards...

scrubbedexpat141

There you go.

Private victory, saves having the argument but you're happy that you've got some revenge.

I actually wouldn't recommend it though.